"I find that I'm a lot more anxious about my health and that of loved ones. I freaked out when my doc's nurse told me my white blood cells and neutrophils were a little low because those were symptoms DH had with his leukemia. …"
"Interesting observation on changing things- I've been doing a little of that, too, and so has my recently-widowed father. A month or so after Mom died he told me he'd replaced the clothes hamper ("it had a hole in it") and…"
"In one sense, it was long- he was diagnosed with polycythemia 10 years ago, which meant his bone marrow was making too many red blood cells. We knew it was likely to morph into something bad and he was diagnosed with acute myeloid leukemia…"
"It's so sad to read about what a hard time everyone here is having adjusting to the changes life has thrown at them. I'm in Costa Rica after a week-long cruise starting with transit through the Panama Canal, followed by snorkeling,…"
"Pat, you sound like a kindred spirit!
DH died in November and in his last months I booked a small-ship, nature-focused cruise in Panama and Costa Rica. I just got back on-line; the cruise ended this AM and I'm in San Jose, Costa Rica for…"
"DH and I moved into the home where I now live 2 years ago. I was 62 and he was 77 with chronic health issues, so I knew I'd likely end up alone in the house He died last November. I love the house and have no plans to move…"
"Last night I was on a plane to Panama listening to music when I decided I wanted something more contemplative than "Paradise by the Dashboard" light. I chose "Your long Journey" by Robert Plant and Alison Krause and cried through…"
"I had another thought on why relationships change after one half of a couple dies. Elsewhere here, people have observed that their marriages/partnerships had 3 components: them, their loved one and their existence as a couple. The…"
"I was in the middle of cleaning the kitchen but had to stop and post this. The wedding band DH had when he died was a replacement of the original. The first one, which was platinum, disappeared 2 years ago when we moved. DH was…"
"I don't know if travel by retired people is still defined as "vacation", but I just printed out my boarding passes for tomorrow's flights and I feel like I need one! Still recovering from a cold I got from my delightful…"
"Please don't feel bad about the stem cell transplant decision. My husband died of Acute Myeloid Leukemia but wasn't a candidate for SCT due to his age (77) and other health issues. From what I've seen on the FaceBook AML group,…"
thanks for this long, eloquent story about how relationships change after the death of a loved one. I'm glad you had so many supportive friends and family members around in Mike's last days and for the funeral even though…"
"I think this would be really practical but also too much for some people to face just after receiving the news that their loved one has a terminal illness. Heck, most healthy people don't want to make out wills or health-care directives…"
"Well, I think some of the widows here could say the same thing about not wanting to spoil the lives we've made for ourselves! I'm retired, financially comfortable, have a house I love, and pretty much don't have to answer to…"
"I miss that about my husband, too. I'm a worrier and can nearly always find good stuff to worry about! Ron was mellower and could always help me put things in perspective. I have plenty of other people I can talk to-friends…"
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