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Athena53 replied to Nieta's discussion Have you experienced any "God Winks" (i.e., messages) from your late spouse?
"The travels without him have been a new experience.  As he got more frail due to his health issues (and advancing age), I was always worried about whether there were too many steps where we were going, if he'd get too hot or too cold…"
Athena53 replied to Nieta's discussion Have you experienced any "God Winks" (i.e., messages) from your late spouse?
"Nieta- thanks.  I LOVE e.e. cummings and my husband Ron was an English Lit. major. I'd read that poem but not since his death.  Six months out, I'm doing well- enjoying a new grandchild, took a 2500-mile road trip by myself over…"
Athena53 replied to Anna's discussion NY Times piece today
"It made me cry, too.  I do feel bad that increasing time since DH's death will cause his memory to fade.  That put it so beautifully, I'm printing it out."
Athena53 replied to Nieta's discussion Have you experienced any "God Winks" (i.e., messages) from your late spouse?
"I haven't had anything other than appearances in a dream, and then only a couple of times in the first few months.  I wouldn't mind more! Last night, though, a huge thunderstorm blew up.  Ron LOVED thunderstorms.  He'd…"
May 19
Athena53 replied to debbiejerry1's discussion Party of One
"Yes, it's weird being a Party of One!  What always hits me between the eyes is when I fill in surveys (I do a lot on e-Rewards to get Hilton points) and I have to check "Widowed" as my relationship status.  It makes me feel…"
May 18
Athena53 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
""Appalled" is an interesting choice of word!  I'd say I felt surprised and still feel almost guilty, but I kind of like living alone.  I was raised in a family of 5 kids, always shared a room with my sister, always squabbles…"
May 17
Athena53 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"I've been doing a decent job of clearing out DH's things- donating some, pitching some, selling on e-Bay, sending some to family and keeping those with sentimental value.  This past week, though, I did a major pass through the house…"
May 17
Athena53 replied to Sissy's discussion I Had Another " First " Today.
"That doesn't sound good- did you stay hydrated?  Did you eat occasionally?  The rides I do always have stops with PB$J sandwiches, Gatorade, bananas, etc.  I also bring a GU packet or two- little foil packs of glucose laced with…"
May 16
Athena53 commented on Anna's blog post Starting to enjoy my new life.
"I feel like that a lot and yes, I feel guilty except that I know that my husband would have wanted me to be happy after he was gone from this earth.  The week before he died I booked a trip to Central America ( 5 months from then- we knew he…"
May 15
Athena53 replied to Sissy's discussion I Had Another " First " Today.
"A different "first" without DH.  I haven't been able to get my bike (which he gave me in 2001) out on training rides because I'm afraid of what would happen if I got a flat.  I can't calll DH anymore and ask him to…"
May 14
Athena53 commented on Lostmyeverything(Denise)'s blog post Sadness as We Close in on Mother's Day, the Next 'First'
"My circumstances are somewhat different- I'm sure I'll hear from DS, as usual, but DH and I never made a big deal over Mother's Day.  When we married, DS was 18 and DS' bio Dad was out of the picture following a messy…"
May 13
Athena53 replied to lowrsr (Sherry)'s discussion Wedding Rings in the group Widowed in 2016
"What metal is the chain? You may have a nickel allergy. I can't wear white gold pierced earring for too long because of that. Mine is platinum but that's a budget- buster; stainless steel might work. (Anyone know if it includes nickel?).…"
May 11
Athena53 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"I live in the Midwest and it's just now starting to get warm and sunny on a regular basis.  I had another of those  "aha" moments about things I could change this week when I realized I hadn't turned on the A/C yet.…"
May 10
Athena53 commented on tifacola's blog post Being the only, disgruntled parent...
"The writer Penelope Leach once observed that different people like kids at different ages.  I LOVE 2- and 3-year olds when they start talking, and my husband was much better with my son when he was in his difficult middle-school years. …"
May 9
Athena53 commented on Merritt's blog post Widowsill - Series for May on Motherhood
"What a wonderful blog!  I believe that open adoption is the best solution when a woman is faced with an unplanned pregnancy.  Not everyone can handle it, but when it works it's beautiful. My son is 32, married with 2 daughters- a…"
May 9
Athena53 replied to kellygreenstrat (Colin)'s discussion Is It So Wrong
"A person after my own heart!  DH and I had wonderful travels together. I just got back from Costa Rica and Panama, where I took a cruise through the canal and went snorkeling, kayaking, swimming and hiking in beautiful surroundings.  I…"
May 7

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At 2:46pm on November 28, 2016, wannabmartha said…

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