"IrishLady, is there any way you could just focus on the relationship with the grandchildren? I'm blessed- I have a wonderful relationship with DS (my only child) and DDIL, but I'm really enjoying one-on-one time with my 3-year old…"
"So... when you ask her to visit your place she says it;s too far and you accept that, but when she asks you to her place and you refuse, she posts snarky messages on FaceBook? No, she's in the wrong. I'm sorry you have to deal with this- I…"
"I'm glad to hear you're enjoying it at 72- I'm 64 and just jumped back into it after losing my husband almost a year ago. I got together with an old friend from college and it was glorious. Not sustainable for reasons I…"
"My husband died last November 15. I had multiple Thanksgiving invites, and spent it with a friend and her family. DS, who lives 3 hours away, called the day before after I'd accepted an invitation. It's the though that…"
"I never was a flirt. I was a geek and in many ways I still am. I had a friend in college who was great at it. She focused on a man as if he were the only one in the room, paid rapt attention to what he said, reinforced it…"
"I don't think of myself primarily as a widow- I don't like the word, either. I keep picturing Queen Victoria, dressed perpetually in black after Albert's death, with a veil covering most of her hair and a grim look on her…"
"I'm neither an attorney nor in your state (state laws vary) but here are a few thoughts. I never needed an attorney after DH's death because the house was in the name of a trust with me as trustee, we'd both signed the mortgage,…"
"I'm coming close to one year also - it will be November 15 for me. I'm doing pretty well putting together a different life after losing Ron; he was 15 years older so I always had the awareness I was likely to outlive him. …"
"Sue, I absolutely agree that long-term caregiving can have many effects. While my husband had been deteriorating slowly over the last 10 years (partly age, partly his polycythemia and the effects of his necessary meds), for the most part I was…"
"A favorite speech theme of the professional speaker wannabes I encounter in Toastmasters is "You can't control what happens to you but you can control how you react to it". It's true, of course, although you can control…"
"Thanks for this post. I know we're all different (one guy who posted here said he and his new wife still wear the rings form their previous marriages, with new inscriptions inside), but I have also chosen to remove my ring. DH died…"
"I agree- I'd love to have another good man in my life but I need time to figure out how I want my life to look like first.
I'm very glad I'm not in the position of my step-grandma. My maternal grandmother died and Grandpa…"
"I can understand that - frankly, I miss the unrestrained hugs when you're in an intimate relationship with someone. The careful, boundary-observing hugs you get at church just aren't the same. At age 64, I'm not ready for…"
"I'd say these guys aren't looking for a companion- they're looking for a cook/housekeeper/babysitter! I suppose it's a huge adjustment to lose a stay-at-home mother when you have a FT job and small children. I know DS…"
"I found that strange, too- I thought even the most orthodox of religions agreed that a widow/widower was no longer bound by wedding vows. Many of the stricter ones, though, still consider sex outside of marriage to be a giant…"
"I like your attitude! My husband Ron died in November of last year and we were travelers. Just before he died (we knew he wouldn't last out the year), I booked a cruise through the Panama Canal, followed by snorkeling, hiking,…"
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