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Pancreatic cancer, how rare?
Started this discussion. Last reply by blueheaven Jan 6. 6 Replies 0 Likes
How come I hear about more people dying of it. My husband was healthy, ate well, never drank orsmoke. Why am I a widow, he was a very healthy person. I don't believe pancreatic cancer is rare.Ava Continue
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blueheaven replied to Ava's discussion Pancreatic cancer, how rare?
"There are also some blood tests that can be done but like with Liver cancer, they aren't 100% accurate. I say who cares. Screen anyway. I hate that these cancers (pancreatic and liver) are on the rise and there…"
jenn replied to Ava's discussion Pancreatic cancer, how rare?
"my husband also passed from PC and I am sure he was misdiagnosed with ulcers and /or liver disease for a long time, the simptoms were vague and inconsistant, disappearing for weeks at a time."
Ava commented on Mac's blog post The Holidays
"very, very moving post. My husband was also my best friend. He passed away this summmer. We read a lot, different types of books, so we shared what we read with each other. I missed that a lot. We traveled a lot.
I…"
Ava commented on Bren's blog post Goodbyes and hellos
"I also liked and understood your post. These are our first holidays without my husband< John. He made them special.We survived... We don't know about next year, what we will do, where wil we go.
I am…"
forever56 replied to Ava's discussion Pancreatic cancer, how rare?
"My experience-- not rare AT ALL. Suz, I didn't realize PC jumped to #2, but am not surprised. There are NO big awareness pushes about it, nor are there any pink ribbons on cereal boxes, billboards or public service announcements to…"
Meema replied to Ava's discussion Pancreatic cancer, how rare?
"My husband was overweight but otherwise healthy, rarely drank, and never smoked. He had a rare, more slowly growing type of pancreatic cancer, which is why he lasted 2 years from diagnosis. The symptoms are so vague and could be indicative of so…"
Ava replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Recommended Grief Books
"The Year of magical Thinking by Joan Didion, Blue Nights by her too.
Final Gifts"
Dianne in Nevada replied to Ava's discussion Pancreatic cancer, how rare?
"I'm so sorry, Ava. Whether it's rare or not, it is taking so many from us. I found a document from cancer.org that said pancreatic cancer is the 4th leading cause of cancer death. I lost a dear friend to it last year, and 2 co-workers lost…"
Suz replied to Ava's discussion Pancreatic cancer, how rare?
"Ava,
Forgive me if I told you this already.I do know it went from #4 to #2 in no of cancer deaths. People just don't survive it, generally. It is a killer. Jud was healthy, had a drink every once in awhile but had two grandmothers who died from…"
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Pancreatic cancer, how rare?
How come I hear about more people dying of it. My husband was healthy, ate well, never drank orsmoke. Why am I a widow, he was a very healthy person. I don't believe pancreatic cancer is rare.Ava See More
Ava replied to EvilDad's discussion I want a date. But I don't want a girlfriend.
"EvilDad,
I thought it was only me. I feel excactly the same. I want a date, but not a boyfriend. I am four month out. i want to talk to adults at the end of the day. I miss John so much, but I want to have a friend…"
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- At 9:58am on August 26, 2012,
ebwilkie said… Sorry I took so long to answer. I was gone away for a few days - just catching up on my e-mails. I see your husband had pancreatic cancer, just like mine and they were both 61 when they passed away! Isn't that a bad disease? My husband suffered so much but he kept it hidden. What I mean by suffering is the wasting away and extreme tiredness. Plus the treatments - they were hard on him and didn't help. I was hoping at first that he would try everything but by the end I wished that he would have just lived out his days without treatment. I think I would do that if I got pancreatic cancer.
- At 11:33am on August 15, 2012,
chrism said… Hi Ava,thank you for your kind friend invite,and I,m so sorry for you losing John,losing a partner at any age is bad but I think like me you didn't expect it to happen this soon,take care and if I can help in any way,please just ask,Chris.
- At 10:27pm on August 12, 2012,
MissingRKK said… - Hi Ava, of course I will be your friend. You are not crazy. You have been forced into a crazy situation and any feeling you are experiencing is legitimate/valid/normal. Pancreatic cancer is a horror. I still find it hard to accept that the past 10 months actually happened (8 months from diagnosis to death and two months since). And yet, it happened and here I am in my house alone with my 2 daughters and wondering where is Ron? Why can't he come back? If you have anyone to support you close by have them stay with you for a while- do you have kids at home? Iforgive me for not knowing your specifics. If you have kids rely on their friends' families for help with them or a trusted babysitter. I couldn't have gotten through the first horrible weeks without my husbands siblings and my brother. I am so sorry for what you have been through and what you are going through. I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. Please write to me again and hopefully we can help each other. Be kind to yourself. Many hugs, C
- At 6:48pm on August 7, 2012,
AlanRRT said… Ava,
I am so sorry for your loss. You will find a lot of support on this site, although as I recall the first few weeks were a fog (4 months here), but we've all been there. Sending you hugs from California.
Alan
- At 1:10pm on August 7, 2012,
Ace said… What beautiful photos, thank you for sharing them with us. Sorry you are here but glad you found us so soon. 24/7 support for when you need us, even if just reading posts and chat room...sometimes helps. Your not alone in widowville. (((hugs)))
- At 11:40pm on August 6, 2012,
wannabmartha said… Oh my goodness of course you're having a hard time! I wasn't even able to focus enough to talk at this point!!! Be good to yourself.....don't expect too much and of any advice that I got that I feel is worth passing on the most important is not to make any important decisions for a while. We're here for you!
- At 11:35pm on August 6, 2012,
Suz said… I am a Midwesterner, too (from St. Paul). Where is Illinois is Barrington? Jud went to college in Chicago.
Ava. totally agree that PC sucks. Jud lived such a healthy life. It is so unfair. You look like you had a wonderful trip. We actually took a trip to France during Jud's treatment. Trying to build memories as fast as we could. Jud died in February, around the time your husband was diagnosed. So unfair! He was healthy initially and then things went downhill. I miss him so much. My daughter does not live here and the loneliness is sometimes so profound. I have had some wonderful supportive friends but nothing fills the hole he left.
I really have appreciated this site. Hop on chat some time. Introduce yourself and if you have a serious question or issue, just make your needs known and everyone else will settle down. Sometimes things can get a little silly here but people do know how to shape up.
What was your husband's first name?
- At 11:06pm on August 6, 2012,
Joyce said… Welcome Ava: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".
- At 10:33pm on August 6, 2012, wannabmartha said…
So sorry for the reason that you’re here but glad you’ve joined us. You’ll find insight, understanding and support here at Widowed Village. We’re traveling the same road together some further down the road than others. Join a group when you’re ready to get better connected. Participate in a forum and/or chat anytime. If you have questions, feel free to ask. There is always someone around willing to help.
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