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Really? left a comment for BESTBUDS1 [Norman}
"Hi Norman, Thanks for the sympathy and your nice note. I'm sorry for your loss, too. I know what you mean about stocking up on your favs when you're in Louisiana. I'll be there shortly and am looking so forward to eating there!!! Have…"
May 27, 2016
BESTBUDS1 [Norman} replied to Kattsqueen's discussion Am I being taken advantage of?
"Kattsqueen, So very sorry for your loss.. You do not have to tell anyone anything , that makes you feel uncomfortable. Too soon to make decisions or too little time for you to grieve. You are in control regardless of what anyone family or friends…"
Apr 28, 2016
Sarah left a comment for BESTBUDS1 [Norman}
"I am glad and yet sorry that you are here in north georgia. I feel alone and i know we struggle with the lonelinss of our soulmates which cannot be replaced or time filled in with others. I miss my husband many days more than life, yet 1 step a day…"
Apr 21, 2016
BESTBUDS1 [Norman} replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion US: SOUTH - ATLANTIC in the group Connect with others in your area
"Sometimes words are hard, and nights even harder.. But each day it seems a little more light that shines .. So sorry for our loss. Another georgia loss here also.. Be well......"
Apr 20, 2016
BESTBUDS1 [Norman} replied to Medical person's discussion We are both Widows, Moving in with him in June,but I have a conflict that I caused
"Ok , he is still on dating site to chat and you are moving to where he is with plans in action.. But you were on there also yet you deleted account.. You trust him?After this you trust him? Red flag here.. You say you feel insecure , this is gut…"
Apr 9, 2016
BESTBUDS1 [Norman} commented on jayb1957's blog post new widow
"jayb1957, Many decisions to make , this i know, but for me , any decision that is not life threatening can wait. Yes business must be taken care of but Grieving is 1st and foremost in my opinion....You are not deserting her, she will always be with…"
Apr 6, 2016
BESTBUDS1 [Norman} commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Mary H. i can't comment on the 2015 wall because i am not a member there , but I applaud your decision in outgrowing the person who was counseling you... You have grown and know many more things than that person.. By experience and who you…"
Apr 5, 2016
BESTBUDS1 [Norman} commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Cathy1201, i did the same thing exactly 4 months afterwards. We had it all planned , but then she was diagnosed , and were not able to take it, but off i went with My Pug and her picture 4 months later, in her momory.. Enjoy your trip and know he is…"
Apr 5, 2016
BESTBUDS1 [Norman} commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"The sad thing is that most people on our planet except those who have experienced it, DO NOT KNOW HOW TO RESPECT THE GRIEF OF OTHERS.Not taught in school nor was i taught by parents, we learn through experience so we can help others as i have been…"
Apr 5, 2016
BESTBUDS1 [Norman} commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"So true Mary , The passive aggressive is basically selfishness and also in your situation is very immature. so yes , he needs to be respectful at your requests or he should have a time out...Just my opinion.."
Apr 5, 2016
BESTBUDS1 [Norman} commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Nomorecomplete , i am so sorry for this happening in your life with your friend.. But if he needs to be told , for your own healing sake ,you should do it, that's just my opinion ,but sometimes bluntness is all that works with some... Last…"
Apr 5, 2016
BESTBUDS1 [Norman} commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Nomorecomplete, sometimes plain talk is easily understood.. Just tell him that it bothers you immensely that he continually asks the same question, if he is friend he should understand, if he doesn't understand , that is his problem.We can not…"
Apr 5, 2016
BESTBUDS1 [Norman} commented on jayb1957's blog post new widow
"Jay , i am so very sorry for your loss as well as all of ours. I do know that the depth and the grief from that love is what brought us all here, that somehow we may all get through it together.. I lost my wife in dec of 2013 with brain tumor.. I do…"
Apr 5, 2016
BESTBUDS1 [Norman} commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"To all who have been done wrong and had hurtful things said to you. My heart breaks for you. It seems in life people can fool us even family and friends , but in death the masks truly come off, but hey , they are the real losers , because they not…"
Apr 3, 2016
BESTBUDS1 [Norman} commented on Soaring Spirits's group Long-Term Illness
"Karol i am so very sorry to be so late responding to your question..My wife was 52 when diagnosed and was 53 when she passed.. Yes we talked extensively about it and decided on natural treatments instead of Radiation and Chemo... The tumor was so…"
Apr 3, 2016
BESTBUDS1 [Norman} replied to Rich's discussion Premonitions
"Johns Girl.. Sometimes we just feel things within us that are indescribable.... For these times they are with us both before and after. Death teaches us things never taught in school and unless one has walked in our shoes , they can never get it.. I…"
Mar 30, 2016

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My Wife was diagnosed in June with stage 4 inoperable Glioblastoma multiform,given 6 months to live.Chose no radiation or chemo and used natural protocols..Nothing worked , It was unfortunately her time to go..She was and is my soulmate..I miss her sooo much..LOVE got us through the 6 month 8 days..we had been married for 9 yrs and toethr for 12..We Loved gardening , flea mrkets , antiques, music and our favorite band is Slightly Stoopid from California

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The Pavers... Thank You..

Posted on January 27, 2015 at 6:41am 2 Comments

This is a about the Pavers.. Those who started this site, and those who keep it going .. I am in debted to those who started and wish to thank them from the depths of my heart. For w/o you , I have no clue what state of mind I would be in.. Your unselfish actions and love for others has brought so many together to share and endure this thing called grief. No glory wanted for yourselves , nor asking anything for yourselves, Just the giving of yourselves unto others.. I applaud you, I admire…

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The Unconditional Love Of The Living or Dying Spouse......

Posted on January 25, 2015 at 4:23am 2 Comments

Here Goes!!!!!! In my journey with my wonderful wife, i was taught and trained in many things , i had never learned, and some i had never heard of.. I won't go into any except this one, and it is probably the hardest.... Each of us whether our spouse was taken suddenly or a declining passing, know who we lived with, their wishes, their wants , their needs , their desires, and to me what they wanted for us as well as what we would want  for them in their absence in body.. My wife was…

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At 9:16am on May 27, 2016, Really? said…

Hi Norman,

Thanks for the sympathy and your nice note. I'm sorry for your loss, too. I know what you mean about stocking up on your favs when you're in Louisiana. I'll be there shortly and am looking so forward to eating there!!!

Have a great weekend yourself,

Really?

At 12:58pm on April 21, 2016, Sarah said…
I am glad and yet sorry that you are here in north georgia. I feel alone and i know we struggle with the lonelinss of our soulmates which cannot be replaced or time filled in with others. I miss my husband many days more than life, yet 1 step a day on most days.
May you all find some comfort
At 5:47am on January 15, 2015, Angelina said…

Thank you, Norman for your story.  My husband lived 14 months after the first symptoms appeared.  I can't tell you how we suffered together.  We just kept the faith and I know in his heart he believed he would beat this thing and hoped to return to work one day.  My life will never be the same no matter what.  I pray for you and the others on this forum who have lost their soul mate to such a nasty disease.  He was the most intelligent man I have ever known and to have brain cancer of all things.  Everyone says things will get easier and I want so much to believe them.  It's only been 4 months  and I still seem paralyzed most of the time from the grief.  Hang in there as we tell each other.    

At 5:33pm on January 8, 2015, Hornet (Cindy) said…

Hello, Norman. Its been a long time, I know. I've been wandering around, bumping into walls. You know how it is. Trying to gather my wits, trying to focus, find my mind, you know. I hope you are well and getting through this awful mess better than I. Have a good night.

At 11:41am on December 9, 2014, mbmlmw21069 said…

Thank you, Norm! It's comforting to know that I have people nearby whether virtually or physically. I have been back in Lawrenceville for six months now and am happy to be in a familiar area. I appreciate you reaching out and the welcome! 

At 12:34pm on November 23, 2014, lyric1863 said…

Thank you for your kind words.  I am very sorry for your loss as well.  

At 6:32am on October 18, 2014, Kim789 said…

Bestbuds1 - thanks for the request.  I am new to the site and just figuring it all out.  My husband was given 9 mos to a year at his diagnosis, and lived 7 months.   He tried but chemotherapy and some natural approaches.  Unfortunately I think his body had already taken a beating, and it wasn't enough.    Your picture posted with the date of 7/28/13 is the actual date that we lost him.     I wish you the best,  Kim789

At 4:59pm on August 6, 2014, cloudwatcher said…

Thanks for you kind and comforting words.  I am so sorry for your loss and your grief.  It is good that we have this site to share.  I once wrote an article for an encyclopedia about ancient consolation, and you know what?  It's all crap, because as you say, grief is a personal journey; and all we can do is help one another according to the circumstances, and the day by day thoughts and feelings.  Do you find gardening helps?  I lost many plants when he died, as though with him, but some plants are thriving and covered with butterflies and bees and hummingbirds and dragonflies.  It is one thing that connects me back to life besides my new puppy.

At 8:13pm on May 19, 2014, Hornet (Cindy) said…

Hey life jacket! Sorry I missed you...took a left turn and walked away after logging on...then forgot I WAS logged on...and got back too late to catch you. Glad you were busy...stay busy. I was going through clothes...can't get rid of anything right now...just re-shuffling and sorting and well...just moving...moving....moving.

I'm glad Charlie is alright. No wondering he slept well...pooping in the vet's lobby takes a lot out of a pug!

And I'm glad to report that everyone traveling on 285 got a pass from me today. Traffic was a breeze! (What is going on? Is something bad about to happen? NO traffic on 285?)

I'll check back tomorrow. Maybe we'll have a nice chat.

Have a good Tuesday.

At 12:31pm on May 18, 2014, Hornet (Cindy) said…

Hi Norman! Good to have another friend...especially a pug lover. I have two pugs, Ody (Odysius Maximus in Latin) and Mable (Mabooblius Minorus)..Ha! I'm sorry we are connecting here. I am currently almost 8 mos out from losing my Rick. Married 32 years. He was my best friend...my buddy (I can appreciate your screen name). He had health issues...but I would have never guessed he would go so soon...too soon.

Hope you are well and making it through these rough days. It sure helps to have people with wounds like ours to connect to....its been keeping me sane.

Talk with you soon I hope.

 
 
 

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