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Richard'swife
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Did your spouses family turn against you after they passed?

Started this discussion. Last reply by CoolMom! (Lynne) Sep 17, 2013. 5 Replies

My husband's family for the most part has avoided contact with me and our two girls from probably about a week before he passed away.  My husband has one brother and his family that are being kind…Continue

 

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Gaining Strength replied to Richard'swife's discussion Did your spouses family turn against you after they passed?
"I was married for over 33 years when my husband passed after 3 year battle with cancer. His family caused a big fight with me and rejected myself an my two adult children over a claim of some of our matrimonial assets which…"
Nov 26, 2013
Richard'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2013
" A baguette fell out of my wedding set after cleaning the other day.  We have tried to get the baguette settings redone a few times but they either don't want to touch it or the next place wants a lot of money to build up the gold.…"
Nov 2, 2013
Richard'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2013
" My husband died two months ago today.  Seems like yesterday. The grief and sorrow are still sometimes like physical pain. He fought his cancer for two years and I knew the outcome would be this. I thought I had prepared myself for his…"
Nov 2, 2013
Richard'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2013
"I am having a really hard time tonight.  Richard was adamant that I sell our home ASAP.  But to do that means to go thru his things.  We had someone come a few days ago and take the things that was theirs from his job he had when he…"
Oct 21, 2013
Richard'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2013
"I miss my husband so much and worry about everything.  Mainly due to financial issues I have to sell the home he built for us.  That is sad enough but this is the house in every room I can see him suffering and or dying.  It is too…"
Oct 18, 2013
Richard'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2013
"Where Now> - I understand where you're coming from.  I comb thru posts of hope when this misery will end or how long it took to get thru each stage.  I am new at this and am miserable.  I have a 16 - almost 17 year old…"
Oct 17, 2013
Richard'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group Long-term illness
"I am so glad I signed in this morning as Candace's concerns really spoke to me.  I have been battling those thoughts since he passed.....why didn't I do this or that?  I tried my best and he knows it, but still I think I…"
Oct 16, 2013
Richard'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group Long-term illness
"I lost my husband of 22 years on September 2 to lung cancer.  He was my everything....best friend, biggest fan - to be short he was my entire world,  I had no friends as he was sufficient for me.  I'm a shy person and he just got…"
Oct 13, 2013
Tanzwife commented on Richard'swife's blog post The last 2 years of the battle everyone thought I was so strong - not feeling so strong now.
"You are strong. This is just too new right now, you have every right to have all your concerns and worry. It doesn't get easier, but you do get used to it...and sharp edges don't feel quite as sharp..."
Oct 10, 2013
Richard'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2013
"I lost my beloved husband on September 2, 2013.  He had fought lung cancer for two years and lost.  I'm feeling so alone even though one of my girls and her son are here along with her boyfriend.  I feel like I am not part of the…"
Oct 10, 2013
Richard'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2013
"I think the grief and pain are just getting worse.  It's only been 5 weeks tomorrow.  That in itself is hard to wrap my head around.  Five weeks since he was in this house?  Can't be.  He suffered so long with the…"
Oct 6, 2013
Richard'swife replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Hi, I just recently.  My husband lost his battle with lung cancer on Sept. 2, 2013.  We've known about the diagnosis for over 2 years.  It doesn't matter what they say - sudden death versus knowing it was coming - there is…"
Oct 5, 2013
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Oct 3, 2013
Richard'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2013
"Feeling so lost.  I lost my beloved Richard on September 2, 2013 so this is very new to me.  He battled lung cancer and lost.  Now I am battling grief.  Week days are better since I have to go to work and have to focus on…"
Sep 29, 2013
my roses commented on Richard'swife's blog post The last 2 years of the battle everyone thought I was so strong - not feeling so strong now.
"my roses  23rd September As a former counsellor I wanted to tell you that if you do have grief counselling, make sure they do not give you masses of drugs, as many psychs now (not when I was working) look at grief from the view of abnormal…"
Sep 23, 2013
Richard'swife replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Hi,  I just joined this "club" no one ever wants to be in.  September 2, 2013 the love of my life lost his battle with lung cancer.  He fought a tough battle since being diagnosed in July 2011.  Things were showing…"
Sep 20, 2013

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Robbed and there are no cops to call

Posted on October 3, 2013 at 2:29pm 0 Comments

Yesterday was the one month mark that Richard went to heaven.  I had a good day considering, smugly thinking I've finally gotten past the point of crying all day long or at the drop of a hat.  Well today not sitting smugly.  I was at work and all of a sudden this overwhelming grief washed over me like a rogue wave.  The rest of the day was spent struggling to get my work done and not fall apart.  A few days ago, I promised to watch my grandson tonight.  Now I am re-thinking that decision.  I…

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So much paperwork!!

Posted on September 18, 2013 at 2:09pm 2 Comments

Trying to handle credit card bills not in my name.  My hair wants to stand on end.  How hard is it to work with someone really?  They are turning it over to their debt collection since he has no estate.  Regardless of the fact payments are still being made.  I hate wading thru the mumbo jumbo of stuff.  Do I want to take on the debt?  Uhhhh no.  Always got to hold out if I have to file bankruptcy.  I am trying to make things work for me and them involved as well.  Oh well I tried.  I can't…

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The last 2 years of the battle everyone thought I was so strong - not feeling so strong now.

Posted on September 14, 2013 at 6:45pm 4 Comments

I just feel weak and worn out.  Exhausted and I really don't like this new step in the path. 

If I were told I had Stage IV cancer of any sort I'd ask for a pain pump and let me go - the sooner the better.

The girls while still in the teens, they have boyfriends and things going on with their lives.  Today was a bad taste of what it will be like without them too.  Amber went with her boyfriend to a wedding and Shelby went with her boyfriend somewhere.  I had my grandson, Eli…

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Why can't I just say no?

Posted on September 13, 2013 at 4:58am 4 Comments

This is only the second weekend without Richard.  Last night our eldest daughter Shelby asked me if I could watch her 17 month old son for the weekend so she could go spend the weekend with her boyfriend.  Why didn't I just say no - - - what about me?  The girls lives they can fill with friends and boyfriends to help.  Shelby told my youngest daughter that she thought my crying was "over the top".  Frankly I don't feel like doing anything for her.  She was not here for the majority of his…

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At 6:19pm on September 10, 2013, Joyce said…

Welcome banklady:  I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It" 

 
 
 

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