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Barzan
  • Female
  • Arvada, CO
  • United States
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Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I have to agree that January is a very difficult month - even after 7 years.  I also feel some relief for getting through the holiday months.  Here in Colorado, we have many days of sun so for me, January isn't bleak but the reminder…"
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Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"It been over 7 years and I still (occasionally) have him in my dream.  What is weird is that he never speaks in these dreams.  Wonder if it means I'm forgetting his voice - which I know I'd recognize if I heard it. …"
Jan 16
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"Happy New Year to all my widow family.  You're all in my hearts.  May 2019 bring you some comfort and peace. Suzan"
Dec 31, 2018
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Tekwriter,  My thoughts are with you and sending you a virtual hug.  It will get a little easier each year.  I'm passed the 7 year mark.  I miss him like crazy still.  Your husband and mine would not have us feeling so…"
Dec 25, 2018
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Riet, Muns and LP,  It's been 7.5 years since my husband passed and the joy of Christmas still has not returned.  It gets a bit easier but the traditions died with him.  I'm lost at trying to create new ones because it just…"
Dec 20, 2018
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"I receive a lot of those photo greeting cards at Christmas.  The happy faces of a complete family or a couple.  We've never sent those out as I've designed our card each year but knowing that I will not have that chance…"
Dec 12, 2018
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Shelley, That was a very clear minded train of thought you documented for us.  You have emerged from the fog.  It is a wonderful decision that you made.  Sending you a virtual hug and hoping you make it through the holidays…"
Dec 10, 2018
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Shelley, I agree with TP.  I would hold off on making any big moves so soon.  I know the feeling of restlessness in the first few years of loss.  I would only suggest that you stay put for a while.  You may appreciate all the…"
Dec 7, 2018
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"It's been 7 years and I still find it hard to decorate for Christmas.  It's a joyous holiday that I find no joy in.  Kind of feel like a zombie going through the motions.   I volunteer for the Holiday gift market and give an…"
Dec 5, 2018
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"This time of year is very trying for all of us.  Even the Christmas carols are about joy and family sharing the holiday spirit.  These songs are not sung for us.  I will put on my holiday face and live through it as I have done for 7…"
Dec 3, 2018
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I, too, have seen my husband's twin several times in the past years.  I couldn't breathe and felt like my insides seized up.  Knowing it wasn't him but so much like him brought all the painful wounds to surface.   :Last…"
Nov 27, 2018
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Shelley, LP and Tekwriter,  I'm in the middle of year 7.  Like all of you, I moved through year 1 like a zombie.  There is no right or wrong way to feel.  Just know that you aren't crazy or irrational, just…"
Nov 21, 2018
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I have to add to this thread.  For the first few years I felt dead inside.  I had to keep reminding myself to breathe.  By the next few years, I felt as if I was drugged and just going through the motions.  The next few years I…"
Nov 13, 2018
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"To all of us that find special dates and holidays unbearable, I have found a way to give purpose to my husband's legacy.  The year after he passed, I started up a clothing drive for at risk youth for the youth shelter where he worked until…"
Nov 7, 2018
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Tekwriter, It's time to contact the insurance oversite commission.  If that doesn't work, your state rep. may be of help.  I've had my state rep help me out on a big issue and he and his staff took care of it for me. …"
Nov 3, 2018
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"Sad One,   I'm so sorry you are feeling that nasty punch to the gut.  We are all here for and have all felt it at times.  Take care of yourself.  Maybe write him a long letter and tell him how you feel.  I find it…"
Nov 3, 2018

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I am recently retired from a very demanding profession and am still learning how to be retired. I keep busy with my jewelry designing, sewing and art. I will be volunteering at our history and science museum. I love the arts, gardening and travel.

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At 2:32pm on May 10, 2016, sweetlady said…
  • i  am a widow much longer than u douhave children are they closewithuthathurtsidontknowhow olduare but thetimegoesby very quickly auditsashamewhenu are at odds with ur own flesh and blood  cant go to him as i am worried he will start with me and at this point i just  cant take it.im not retired as u  have to work maybe that keeps me going but not haooyas i should be  hope we can be friends.elaine
At 6:38pm on March 15, 2016, Joyce said…

Welcome Barzan: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat.You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences.  Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It" 

 
 
 

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