"Don, please think of what your wife would have wanted for you. My husband told me while in hospice that he had the most wonderful 32 years with me and I should also be happy for the time we had and not sad for time we won't. …"
"Don, Please check in with us every day. As you can see, we are all very concerned about you and are here for you. Right now, it's like being on a ledge and not knowing what to do. Just know that we are all whose hands are…"
"Don, I’m so sorry that you lost your wife and best friend. You did the right thing by coming to this website. We are all in the same boat and support one another. Your loss is so raw that you feel paralyzed by grief. I…"
"Irishlady, Like Slick, my husband passed nearly 7 yrs ago and after the first year of staying home, I decided that I would go with one of my friends somewhere for that week. We've done Taos, NM, Santa Fe, NM and this year we are heading…"
I don't know that it's self confidence you lack as most of us bounced ideas and shared decisions for so long with our mates. We have all been there. Personally, I think it's a fabulous idea that you go back for…"
"Hi Athena, Like you, my husband was caring, brilliant and funny. After he passed (7.5 yrs) I opened myself up for dating a few years after. There were none out there that had all the qualities of my husband. He had been a…"
I was there about the same time after I lost my husband. He's been gone over 7 years now. At that stage of loss we really miss the companionship of a mate because we haven't found our new us yet. I got on dating…"
"Dearest 1212, your loss is unimaginable. Slick couldn't have phrased it any better. We are all here for each other. One thing that helped me daily working through my grief was a book "Living with loss: One day at a…"
"Hi Tess, Nothing odd about what you are feeling. My husband has been gone over 6 years now and still find myself searching for me. I retired 4 years after he passed and was wrapped up in my work so I know that side of me. …"
"Hello Muns, I just read your post. That is absolutely devastating for both you and your daughter. I cannot offer words of encouragement that would adequately reflect what you are going through. Please keep posting on here…"
Your post brought tears to my eyes. I, too, have felt the isolation when having gone into knee replacement surgery - alone. My favorite cheerleader was not at my side. I did have my son, brother and lots of…"
"I, too, will be at 7 years in June and I, too, had a lonely New Years. One of my good friend's husband told me recently (we were having a bbq) that men probably find me intimidating. I had to think about it and accept that…"
"Chef John, I agree that the 5 stages are a hoax. One of the things that really get me upset is when I'm trying to remember a place or event that he and I were privy to and I have no one that shares that memory with me now. So,…"
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Hi Barzan...my name is Angela...everyone calls me Angel..going to give you one of my e-mail addresses ....if that's OK with you....that's how I communicate with 2 friends from here...it's so much easier then coming on the site....
i am a widow much longer than u douhave children are they closewithuthathurtsidontknowhow olduare but thetimegoesby very quickly auditsashamewhenu are at odds with ur own flesh and blood cant go to him as i am worried he will start with me and at this point i just cant take it.im not retired as u have to work maybe that keeps me going but not haooyas i should be hope we can be friends.elaine
Welcome Barzan: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat.You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It"