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Barzan
  • Female
  • Arvada, CO
  • United States
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Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hello All,  I'm addressing several topics here.  First, Valentine's Day really does suck.  Reminding us of what we no longer can celebrate with the one we love.  I still have the very 1st Valentines card my sweetie gave…"
Feb 13
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"LP, I love Eva Cassidy and her music.  Did you know she lost her battle with cancer when she was in her early 30s.  Very sad.  Such a talent.   I love this song.  Really fits our life. Hugs to you."
Feb 7
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Everyone,  Although I've been on this road longer than those with recent posts, I also feel that special joy has left to never return again.  We live like zombies for the first 3 years.  After that I found that I had  to…"
Feb 3
Barzan replied to sadderbytheday's discussion How old was he? in the group Born in the 50s
"Dear sadderbytheday,  My thought is that your son just didn't know how to respond at the moment.  It's pretty common for that question to come up.  When it's a young person, we respond with "He had so much life…"
Jan 26
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"Mark, that was a very thoughtful post.  You are correct in that grief is viewed and dealt with much differently than it was years ago.  Not only have we spread out into communities but our measure of time allotted for most events have…"
Dec 31
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Maggiepie,  You just do things the way they work for you and not what others think you should be doing. We've always had pets so, for me, to be without one is unimaginable.  After my husband passed, they were my comfort.  I only…"
Dec 28, 2019
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Maggiepie, When I wrote to my husband, and it was often, it ranged from telling him how much I miss him and things that really were special between us.  Some letters were very angry for him leaving so early and  why he didn't see a…"
Dec 28, 2019
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Maggiepie, I journaled after the 1st year and I also wrote letters to my husband in the journal.  It was so cathartic reading those letters years later to see how far I've come. I'm still in the house we shared because I love the…"
Dec 27, 2019
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Maggie pie, the 1st year following my husband’s death, I had to remind myself to breathe.  I wasn’t sure I would survive it but somehow I did for 8 years now.  Still get episodes of widow brain but not as often.  There are…"
Dec 25, 2019
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Jules, wthat a lovely memory.  You were brave and strong and gained a special connection with Jamaica and a valuable message.  Blessings to you and my warmest thoughts on our bumpy holiday path. Suzan"
Dec 25, 2019
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"My Dear Friends who feel like my family, I wish you peace and comfort through this difficult holiday time.  I found this little poem to share with you. I'm sending good vibes so that together we can push through to 2020. Hugs, Suzan"
Dec 25, 2019
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear Linda,  Families can be such a headache at times - especially during holidays.  Once my husband and dad passed and my mom's health worsened, our tradition died.  It is very frustrating but too late to start a new…"
Dec 24, 2019
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Listen Dear Friends,  Let's throw out the holiday rule book this year.  It's been 8 years, I've done the trees, the decorations, baking, shopping, wrapping and attending mandated holiday parties.  This year I'm…"
Dec 21, 2019
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dearest Shelley,  So sorry to hear you had to put your sweet Bailey down.  I've had to put 2 pets down since Barney passed and I cried like crazy.   Also sad to hear about your cancer diagnosis.  Please rethink the help from…"
Dec 18, 2019
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Glad you are checking in Tekwriter.  It's good that you are getting counseling for your loss.  I cannot imagine your pain for your son's passing.  My mother-in-law said that it's a grief unlike any other.  Please…"
Dec 15, 2019
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Ultra - so sorry you are struggling.  I'm 8 yrs out and still have a rough time.  I am pushing through with him in mind.  I know it's the last thing he'd want for me to be so sad.  Ultra, try to focus on all the…"
Dec 14, 2019

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I am recently retired from a very demanding profession and am still learning how to be retired. I keep busy with my jewelry designing, sewing and art. I will be volunteering at our history and science museum. I love the arts, gardening and travel.

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At 2:32pm on May 10, 2016, sweetlady said…
  • i  am a widow much longer than u douhave children are they closewithuthathurtsidontknowhow olduare but thetimegoesby very quickly auditsashamewhenu are at odds with ur own flesh and blood  cant go to him as i am worried he will start with me and at this point i just  cant take it.im not retired as u  have to work maybe that keeps me going but not haooyas i should be  hope we can be friends.elaine
At 6:38pm on March 15, 2016, Joyce said…

Welcome Barzan: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat.You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences.  Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It" 

 
 
 

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