"Hello Muns, I just read your post. That is absolutely devastating for both you and your daughter. I cannot offer words of encouragement that would adequately reflect what you are going through. Please keep posting on here…"
Your post brought tears to my eyes. I, too, have felt the isolation when having gone into knee replacement surgery - alone. My favorite cheerleader was not at my side. I did have my son, brother and lots of…"
"I, too, will be at 7 years in June and I, too, had a lonely New Years. One of my good friend's husband told me recently (we were having a bbq) that men probably find me intimidating. I had to think about it and accept that…"
"Chef John, I agree that the 5 stages are a hoax. One of the things that really get me upset is when I'm trying to remember a place or event that he and I were privy to and I have no one that shares that memory with me now. So,…"
"I agree with Slick. Lev, thanks for stating how our journey affects us so eloquently. I think we are so good for one another here. We truly understand this journey where others can't.
Happy New Year and more healing in 2018."
"Mark, I think you stated that well. I've had 6 years of "why us' moments. I now am just grateful we had each other for as long as we did. Trying hard to let go of the anger but it doesn't always work.
"Thank you Lev. I wish you the same. And to all in our group, hope we can find purpose and joy in 2018. I have decided to go to the gym 3 times a week and resume work on my book. And, I will laugh everyday.
Lets make 2018 our…"
i hope you know that I wasn’t saying our anger isn’t valid. My point was that we can’t hate them because our spouses left too soon but for us to respect that it will be in their future as well. I don’t know…"
"I know what you mean!!! It does hurt to see all these couples celebrating the holidays. I don't want to sound snarky but all of them will one day be in our shoes. We need to let them have their happiness. I'm sure…"
"Slick, I get what you're saying about dating. No one measures up and most want something we aren't willing ro just give on a whim. I also love to travel but have to save up for my trips and don't have a travel partner as my…"
My husband passed in 2011 and I'm still adjusting to this new normal. It goes in stages. What makes it so difficult is that we are not understood by those who have not gone through this and therefore unable to offer the…"
I'm so glad to hear that. Your use of the word softened is right on the mark. I feel the same way. I had been hanging on but now I find that I'm letting go and the pain is softening. Let's have a…"
"Princess and Everyone in this group,
Wishing all of you peace, joy and comfort this holiday season. May your hearts be full and sadness at a minimum. Hope your family wraps you in love and that you have laughter to bring you into the new…"
"It's been quite a while since we've posted on here. Just want to catch up and see how you are doing and how you will be spending your Christmas. I'm hoping that none of us has to spend it alone.
My kids and mother are…"
"I get it! With my family get togethers, they avoid mentioning my late husband thinking that it will make me feel better when it really just makes it worse. I want to affirm his existence. I think people just do what they think is…"
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Hi Barzan...my name is Angela...everyone calls me Angel..going to give you one of my e-mail addresses ....if that's OK with you....that's how I communicate with 2 friends from here...it's so much easier then coming on the site....
i am a widow much longer than u douhave children are they closewithuthathurtsidontknowhow olduare but thetimegoesby very quickly auditsashamewhenu are at odds with ur own flesh and blood cant go to him as i am worried he will start with me and at this point i just cant take it.im not retired as u have to work maybe that keeps me going but not haooyas i should be hope we can be friends.elaine
Welcome Barzan: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat.You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It"