"Hello All, I'm addressing several topics here. First, Valentine's Day really does suck. Reminding us of what we no longer can celebrate with the one we love. I still have the very 1st Valentines card my sweetie gave…"
"Everyone, Although I've been on this road longer than those with recent posts, I also feel that special joy has left to never return again. We live like zombies for the first 3 years. After that I found that I had to…"
"Dear sadderbytheday, My thought is that your son just didn't know how to respond at the moment. It's pretty common for that question to come up. When it's a young person, we respond with "He had so much life…"
"Mark, that was a very thoughtful post. You are correct in that grief is viewed and dealt with much differently than it was years ago. Not only have we spread out into communities but our measure of time allotted for most events have…"
"Maggiepie, You just do things the way they work for you and not what others think you should be doing.
We've always had pets so, for me, to be without one is unimaginable. After my husband passed, they were my comfort. I only…"
"Maggiepie, When I wrote to my husband, and it was often, it ranged from telling him how much I miss him and things that really were special between us. Some letters were very angry for him leaving so early and why he didn't see a…"
"Maggiepie, I journaled after the 1st year and I also wrote letters to my husband in the journal. It was so cathartic reading those letters years later to see how far I've come.
I'm still in the house we shared because I love the…"
"Maggie pie, the 1st year following my husband’s death, I had to remind myself to breathe. I wasn’t sure I would survive it but somehow I did for 8 years now. Still get episodes of widow brain but not as often. There are…"
"My Dear Friends who feel like my family, I wish you peace and comfort through this difficult holiday time. I found this little poem to share with you.
I'm sending good vibes so that together we can push through to 2020.
"Dear Linda, Families can be such a headache at times - especially during holidays. Once my husband and dad passed and my mom's health worsened, our tradition died. It is very frustrating but too late to start a new…"
"Listen Dear Friends, Let's throw out the holiday rule book this year. It's been 8 years, I've done the trees, the decorations, baking, shopping, wrapping and attending mandated holiday parties. This year I'm…"
"Dearest Shelley, So sorry to hear you had to put your sweet Bailey down. I've had to put 2 pets down since Barney passed and I cried like crazy.
Also sad to hear about your cancer diagnosis. Please rethink the help from…"
"Glad you are checking in Tekwriter. It's good that you are getting counseling for your loss. I cannot imagine your pain for your son's passing. My mother-in-law said that it's a grief unlike any other. Please…"
"Ultra - so sorry you are struggling. I'm 8 yrs out and still have a rough time. I am pushing through with him in mind. I know it's the last thing he'd want for me to be so sad. Ultra, try to focus on all the…"
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I am recently retired from a very demanding profession and am still learning how to be retired. I keep busy with my jewelry designing, sewing and art. I will be volunteering at our history and science museum. I love the arts, gardening and travel.
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i am a widow much longer than u douhave children are they closewithuthathurtsidontknowhow olduare but thetimegoesby very quickly auditsashamewhenu are at odds with ur own flesh and blood cant go to him as i am worried he will start with me and at this point i just cant take it.im not retired as u have to work maybe that keeps me going but not haooyas i should be hope we can be friends.elaine
Welcome Barzan: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat.You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It"