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Barzan
  • Female
  • Arvada, CO
  • United States
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Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I have to add to this thread.  For the first few years I felt dead inside.  I had to keep reminding myself to breathe.  By the next few years, I felt as if I was drugged and just going through the motions.  The next few years I…"
Nov 13
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"To all of us that find special dates and holidays unbearable, I have found a way to give purpose to my husband's legacy.  The year after he passed, I started up a clothing drive for at risk youth for the youth shelter where he worked until…"
Nov 7
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Tekwriter, It's time to contact the insurance oversite commission.  If that doesn't work, your state rep. may be of help.  I've had my state rep help me out on a big issue and he and his staff took care of it for me. …"
Nov 3
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"Sad One,   I'm so sorry you are feeling that nasty punch to the gut.  We are all here for and have all felt it at times.  Take care of yourself.  Maybe write him a long letter and tell him how you feel.  I find it…"
Nov 3
Barzan replied to Tess's discussion Disappointment, Disillusion, and the Ultimate Source of Pain in the group Born in the 50s
"No Longer...  I am also short (5') and I've bought some grabbers and they really help eliminate the step ladder.  And I have fixed quite a few things with the help of YouTube videos.  Saves so much money. Suzan"
Nov 2
Barzan replied to Tess's discussion Disappointment, Disillusion, and the Ultimate Source of Pain in the group Born in the 50s
"Tess, my husband left me a list of services to use such as plumbers, electricians, carpenters as he was a contractor for many years.  Those on the list gave me such discounts that I was embarrassed to accept their low fees.  The handyman…"
Nov 2
Barzan replied to Tess's discussion Disappointment, Disillusion, and the Ultimate Source of Pain in the group Born in the 50s
"Oh Tess, I am so sorry you are going through this additional turmoil.  I've been there.  All the events that came up were handled by my husband and me.  Then all of a sudden, the entire burden is on me.  I remember the year…"
Nov 1
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"First note to Carlady - Don't let your exterior "flaws" keep you from meeting people.  We all are flawed in one way or another.  There may well be someone out there who won't even notice your flaw but focus on the…"
Oct 30
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Shelley, It's been little over 7 years since my husband passed and his presence was felt for about 5 of those years.  I, too, had the same experience where he told me he had to move on.  I was broken for days afterwards.  But,…"
Oct 29
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear Riet,  So sorry this has happened to you.  I've had to adjust (painfully) to this behavior by friends and people who were just acquaintances.   They just have no idea of what to say or how to give you the right words that…"
Oct 27
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"I’m in total agreement.  We are here for each other.  We lift up those of us that need it and share our thoughts and struggles.  Comforting to know someone is always here to reach out.  It’s such a blessing."
Oct 21
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thanks for the laugh NoLonger.  I can just see the shelter men waiting for adoption.  My fear is one with a serious comb over.   To me, it’s just announcing that there is much more wrong under the hood.  Like Chef, I have…"
Oct 20
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Good Morning All, I have just finished reading your posts about how people don't get us.  My husband has been gone over 7 years now and my family and friends from the past don't ever mention his name anymore - as if he never…"
Oct 20
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Shelley and Melissa, pits been 7 years for me and I still can’t spend that day at home.  I always plan a trip that covers that day.  You will have to find the best solution for you that will cushion the grief.  Hugs to you."
Oct 15
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I, too, wish I had someone to take care of me.  I wish I had a WE.  I am meandering towards age 70 and the few men I had met since my husband's passing were all looking for a woman to take care of them.  I was not going to sign…"
Oct 15
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear Riet,  I'm trying to think back to my 5 month anniversary of husband's  passing and all I can remember is feeling so lost.  I was still working then and poured myself into it to just keep my mind from feeling. …"
Sep 23

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I am recently retired from a very demanding profession and am still learning how to be retired. I keep busy with my jewelry designing, sewing and art. I will be volunteering at our history and science museum. I love the arts, gardening and travel.

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At 2:32pm on May 10, 2016, sweetlady said…
  • i  am a widow much longer than u douhave children are they closewithuthathurtsidontknowhow olduare but thetimegoesby very quickly auditsashamewhenu are at odds with ur own flesh and blood  cant go to him as i am worried he will start with me and at this point i just  cant take it.im not retired as u  have to work maybe that keeps me going but not haooyas i should be  hope we can be friends.elaine
At 6:38pm on March 15, 2016, Joyce said…

Welcome Barzan: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat.You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences.  Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It" 

 
 
 

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