"Dear Riet, Reading you post made me think back to the years before my love passed away. I am remembering one of the things I missed the most. My husband and I were still working before he passed. I would always call him to…"
"Riet and Maggie, Just read your posts and had to respond. My husband died from cancer a month after diagnosis at age 63 - 9 days shy of 64th birthday. I was 62. I didn't think I'd be a young widow either. No…"
"KJPE - Just read the contents in the link you provided. I really enjoyed it and it made great sense to me. Not just as it would affect a child but us adults as well. We certainly lock out all the beautiful things around us and…"
"Tess, Please know that I am not making light of struggles. I am just relieved and grateful that I was able to swim to shore after nearly drowning in my sadness. Not ever day is sunny for me and I accept the good days with the bad. …"
"Susan, I was thinking the same thing. I've been into this new life for 7 years now and have worked hard at creating this life. It definitely is not as fulfilling as it was with my love but I am still alive and find joy in…"
"NLBergen, After reading your post a few days ago regarding a thyroid work up, I looked up the symptoms online and going to get checked. We help each other in more ways than just our grief challenges. I, too, have found that I've had…"
"Sweet Melissa, I am so glad that you found my words comforting. Please know it came from the heart. I worked in the ER of a safety net hospital for over ten years before moving out of that setting into a more isolated…"
"SweetMelissa, I am so sorry for the traumatic way you arrived to our group. I can understand why your healing was made that much more difficult due to the savage way your husband was taken from you. Having a spouse that has been…"
"NLBergen, I read and reread your comment. You sound like a very nurturing person. You gave your husband added years of life and the two of you built a happy marriage. You must stop punishing yourself and accept that you did…"
"I have to agree that January is a very difficult month - even after 7 years. I also feel some relief for getting through the holiday months. Here in Colorado, we have many days of sun so for me, January isn't bleak but the reminder…"
"It been over 7 years and I still (occasionally) have him in my dream. What is weird is that he never speaks in these dreams. Wonder if it means I'm forgetting his voice - which I know I'd recognize if I heard it. …"
"Tekwriter, My thoughts are with you and sending you a virtual hug. It will get a little easier each year. I'm passed the 7 year mark. I miss him like crazy still. Your husband and mine would not have us feeling so…"
"Riet, Muns and LP, It's been 7.5 years since my husband passed and the joy of Christmas still has not returned. It gets a bit easier but the traditions died with him. I'm lost at trying to create new ones because it just…"
"I receive a lot of those photo greeting cards at Christmas. The happy faces of a complete family or a couple. We've never sent those out as I've designed our card each year but knowing that I will not have that chance…"
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I am recently retired from a very demanding profession and am still learning how to be retired. I keep busy with my jewelry designing, sewing and art. I will be volunteering at our history and science museum. I love the arts, gardening and travel.
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i am a widow much longer than u douhave children are they closewithuthathurtsidontknowhow olduare but thetimegoesby very quickly auditsashamewhenu are at odds with ur own flesh and blood cant go to him as i am worried he will start with me and at this point i just cant take it.im not retired as u have to work maybe that keeps me going but not haooyas i should be hope we can be friends.elaine
Welcome Barzan: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat.You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It"