I don't know that it's self confidence you lack as most of us bounced ideas and shared decisions for so long with our mates. We have all been there. Personally, I think it's a fabulous idea that you go back for…"
"Hi Athena, Like you, my husband was caring, brilliant and funny. After he passed (7.5 yrs) I opened myself up for dating a few years after. There were none out there that had all the qualities of my husband. He had been a…"
I was there about the same time after I lost my husband. He's been gone over 7 years now. At that stage of loss we really miss the companionship of a mate because we haven't found our new us yet. I got on dating…"
"Dearest 1212, your loss is unimaginable. Slick couldn't have phrased it any better. We are all here for each other. One thing that helped me daily working through my grief was a book "Living with loss: One day at a…"
"Hi Tess, Nothing odd about what you are feeling. My husband has been gone over 6 years now and still find myself searching for me. I retired 4 years after he passed and was wrapped up in my work so I know that side of me. …"
"Hello Muns, I just read your post. That is absolutely devastating for both you and your daughter. I cannot offer words of encouragement that would adequately reflect what you are going through. Please keep posting on here…"
Your post brought tears to my eyes. I, too, have felt the isolation when having gone into knee replacement surgery - alone. My favorite cheerleader was not at my side. I did have my son, brother and lots of…"
"I, too, will be at 7 years in June and I, too, had a lonely New Years. One of my good friend's husband told me recently (we were having a bbq) that men probably find me intimidating. I had to think about it and accept that…"
"Chef John, I agree that the 5 stages are a hoax. One of the things that really get me upset is when I'm trying to remember a place or event that he and I were privy to and I have no one that shares that memory with me now. So,…"
"I agree with Slick. Lev, thanks for stating how our journey affects us so eloquently. I think we are so good for one another here. We truly understand this journey where others can't.
Happy New Year and more healing in 2018."
"Mark, I think you stated that well. I've had 6 years of "why us' moments. I now am just grateful we had each other for as long as we did. Trying hard to let go of the anger but it doesn't always work.
"Thank you Lev. I wish you the same. And to all in our group, hope we can find purpose and joy in 2018. I have decided to go to the gym 3 times a week and resume work on my book. And, I will laugh everyday.
Lets make 2018 our…"
i hope you know that I wasn’t saying our anger isn’t valid. My point was that we can’t hate them because our spouses left too soon but for us to respect that it will be in their future as well. I don’t know…"
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Hi Barzan...my name is Angela...everyone calls me Angel..going to give you one of my e-mail addresses ....if that's OK with you....that's how I communicate with 2 friends from here...it's so much easier then coming on the site....
i am a widow much longer than u douhave children are they closewithuthathurtsidontknowhow olduare but thetimegoesby very quickly auditsashamewhenu are at odds with ur own flesh and blood cant go to him as i am worried he will start with me and at this point i just cant take it.im not retired as u have to work maybe that keeps me going but not haooyas i should be hope we can be friends.elaine
Welcome Barzan: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat.You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It"