"Hoping on the retirement wagon. I retired 2 years after my husband passed. My job, too, was very stressful. I worked in the healthcare industry that took my to D.C. several times a year to deal with Congress on $$. It was the…"
"Tekwriter, I'm sorry I can't recall how long ago your husband passed, but will pass along what I was told by my grief counselor. For the 1st couple of years of being a widow, don't make any huge changes or purchases because I…"
I'm just past the 7 year mark and think of my husband often each day. For you, each thought is like a sharp knife cutting into you and as the time moves on, that knife will become more and more dull and the pain will not be as…"
"Lucy, this may sound crazy but I use the “deathaversary” to make however many years since he’s been gone plans and resolutions for the next 12 months. As an example, his mom and I visited 7 states we’ve never been to.…"
"Ron, I'm hoping that your life improves as the days go on. I used to take long walks at different parks for therapy. This really helped me with my mental and emotional wellbeing in my 1st year alone. Try scheduling a daily 1…"
"Ron, you are describing all of us. You don’t say how long ago your beloved wife passed but I can assure you that for the 1st year, I didn’t know what was up and what was down. I remember having to remind myself to breathe.…"
"Chef, I still have a number of my husband’s things after 7 years. I have lots of his tools. I need to sell them. His writings - keeping. His soft brown corduroy shirt - snuggly so keeping. He had a vast amount of…"
"Good for you Athena. Dating again is like riding a bike - but with the training wheels on. It does feel awkward. I have to remind myself not to make comparisons because there was no one like my husband. Hope he contacts…"
"Mike, I hope you have a successful experience. The sleazy guys give these sites a bad name. Since we know you to be sincere and a nice guy, I hope a nice lady will make a good match with you. No one will ever as perfect as your…"
"Mike, I tried Our Time and found myself communicating with someone from Nigeria or other country. They used a translator app. To sort them out, I'd ask if they had ever been to my favorite coffee house nearby and if they'd like…"
I think you did the right thing. I still have a lot of my husband's tools that I'd like to sell but have to find a safe way to do so. I plan on talking to my handyman next time he comes to work on the house.
"I've been catching up with all your posts as I've been gone for a week at a family reunion. It's been 7 yrs this June that my Barney has been gone and, for the most part, am navigating in relative normalcy. While at the…"
I've been reading your posts but have been so busy with my mom who, recently, had a stroke. While it keeps my mind off my sweet late husband, it just adds to the stress and gloom that I already feel. I've been…"
"Dear Shelley, I'm so sorry about how much you are struggling. This new normal really does suck. It's been 7 years for me now and there are days I, too, feel like making the motions only to greet another day. Perhaps…"
"I have 2 outings lined up for today and tomorrow with 2 of my gal pals. This is the 1st since I returned from Philly on June 15. I think I'm making strides.
One thing I keep reminding myself of is that if you keep turning down…"
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I am recently retired from a very demanding profession and am still learning how to be retired. I keep busy with my jewelry designing, sewing and art. I will be volunteering at our history and science museum. I love the arts, gardening and travel.
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i am a widow much longer than u douhave children are they closewithuthathurtsidontknowhow olduare but thetimegoesby very quickly auditsashamewhenu are at odds with ur own flesh and blood cant go to him as i am worried he will start with me and at this point i just cant take it.im not retired as u have to work maybe that keeps me going but not haooyas i should be hope we can be friends.elaine
Welcome Barzan: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat.You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It"