"Nannie, My husband and I had planned to purchase a condo somewhere near the ocean when we retired. Ne died at 63 before he was planning to retire. I worked on to 66 and the thought of an Oceanside condo just is not what I’d do…"
"Susan and Tess, That really is it - we are no one's #1 and, aside from my cat, no one by my side when I go to sleep and wake in the morning who says I love you. I also really miss the "remember when we....."
After my B…"
i am glad you found our group and sorry that you, too, have lost your spouse. I also am at 8 years and have experienced overwhelming resurgence of my early grief. We are in our own 12 step recovery of sorts. There is…"
"Ron, so sorry you are struggling so much. Hopefully being with your son and a different country will provide some insulation from your pain. I’m sending you good vibes.
Riet, after 8 years alone, I still feel a small amount of…"
"I wish to thank all of you for sending me good vibes and support. To pass the day so far, I sat at my sewing machine and made chemo hats for breast cancer patients at the hospital where I retired from. It was the best way I could think…"
Today marks 8 years that the love of my life took his last breath and left me to flounder in this confusing new life I have to build bit by bit. This is the 1st time I will be at home - alone - on this anniversary. Due to…"
I can relate to traveling alone for the 1st time without our mate. Although I traveled stateside often with work, never abroad alone. My family is in Budapest and I had to go as my cousin was very ill with cancer. I was…"
"I'll be at 8 years on the 13th. 1st time I'll be alone and at home on the anniversary this year. I'm recovering from pneumonia and on oxygen right now. Also, my car in the shop getting major repairs. My friends…"
"Riot, Diva and Ultra,
Reading your posts about the second year being worse than the 1st, I concur. I felt that my 1st year was spent in a fog of disbelief, anger and just lost. I was sure I’d be better each year but when year 2…"
"Susan, thank you for sharing your experience. It was so touching. I think it's lovely that you two will look after both graves. We really do live in a unique world.
Many thoughts this weekend of all the important people…"
"Dear Ultra, I am in tears as I read your post. What poor Sandi had to go through and still lost the battle is so heartbreaking. Not to mention what you went through feeling helpless in the fight. My heart really goes out to…"
"Bergen and Maggie,
I am so sorry for the difficulties of your years prior to their passing being ever so painful. We didn't have anything that compares leading to his death. After his father died, he fell into depression and started…"
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I am recently retired from a very demanding profession and am still learning how to be retired. I keep busy with my jewelry designing, sewing and art. I will be volunteering at our history and science museum. I love the arts, gardening and travel.
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i am a widow much longer than u douhave children are they closewithuthathurtsidontknowhow olduare but thetimegoesby very quickly auditsashamewhenu are at odds with ur own flesh and blood cant go to him as i am worried he will start with me and at this point i just cant take it.im not retired as u have to work maybe that keeps me going but not haooyas i should be hope we can be friends.elaine
Welcome Barzan: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat.You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It"