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Barzan
  • Female
  • Arvada, CO
  • United States
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  • Linda C
  • Melissa
  • Maggie
  • Frank
  • Violet
  • sweetlady
  • Joyce
 

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Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear Riet,  wishing you a peaceful day with warm memories to wrap yourself in.  Anniversaries and holidays get a little less painful as the years pass.  I’m heading towards our wedding anniversary in 3 weeks.  Hugs, Suzan"
Saturday
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thank you so much for the birthday wishes.  I am thankful to my new family here and all the good friends that are surrounding me to make sure that my day is well celebrated.  As you all know, there is just one special person missing to…"
Apr 12
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Good morning all, Today is my birthday.  When my husband was still here, he used to write the most beautiful sentiments in my birthday card.  I've saved them all, thank goodness.  Now, instead of looking forward to reading the…"
Apr 12
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"KJPE,  June will be 8 years for me.  I have a hard  time in the spring.  Everything around you is being born again and coming to life.  I feel like there is one that is not coming back.  And like LP said, we are on a…"
Apr 2
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Boy, this hit so close to home.  Our song played at the wedding was “If” by Bread.  I haven’t been able to listen to it for years (7)."
Mar 29
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Any step forward is one less you'll have to take later.  This has become my mantra.  June will be 8 years without my DH.  I am still living in the same house but have made changes that make it a reflection of me now. …"
Mar 25
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear Melissa,  Just so you know, we are not here to judge you.  We are here to give you support and listen.  If and when you are up to sharing, we are here for you. I read the posts about the lack of support from employers during the…"
Mar 14
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear LostandLonely,  I'm so touched by your post and so sorry that you are doing so poorly.  You have come to a place where all of us are at varying stages of grief.  Some of us doing better than others.  You say that your…"
Mar 12
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"My husband had been gone 2 years (cancer) when I adopted a runt rag doll cat.  She was such a sweet little girl and gave me so much comfort.  She had weepy eyes that had to be cleaned several times a day.  After a few years or so, she…"
Mar 9
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Jan, so very sorry for the loss of your kitty.  I have a sweet furry mood booster who has been so helpful in giving me comfort and unconditional love.  Animals are a blessing and can help us from spiraling into a sad abyss.  It is…"
Mar 9
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Riet, Susan and NLBergen, I don't think there is anyone on this page that hasn't struggled with the "I shoulda, coulda, woulda" of our spouse's passing.  Because in most situations, we are the ones who make that final…"
Mar 5
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I can certainly relate to stalling in the things  that we received affirmation from our husbands.  I have been a fiber artist and jewelry designer for many years and don't have the joy or real creative juices flowing like they did…"
Feb 28
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Tess and LP,  I've been there.  Even now when I join friends out for dinner, I'm the odd one.  I had often thought (around years 1-3) wait until you're in my shoes.  I care about my friends so would never wish…"
Feb 25
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear Riet,  I was touched by your kind words.  Yes, I am hoping that the dream was a sign that I am finally coping well with the loss of my dear husband.  I am working on keeping all the happy parts of our lives in my heart and…"
Feb 24
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I’ve been doing really well managing my grief after 7 1/2 years of my husband passing.  Last night I had a very vivid dream about him.  He had told me that he was leaving me for good and I should accompany him one last time to say…"
Feb 23
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear Riet,  Reading you post made me think back to the years before my love passed away.  I am remembering one of the things I missed the most.  My husband and I were still working before he passed.  I would always call him to…"
Feb 19

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I am recently retired from a very demanding profession and am still learning how to be retired. I keep busy with my jewelry designing, sewing and art. I will be volunteering at our history and science museum. I love the arts, gardening and travel.

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At 2:32pm on May 10, 2016, sweetlady said…
  • i  am a widow much longer than u douhave children are they closewithuthathurtsidontknowhow olduare but thetimegoesby very quickly auditsashamewhenu are at odds with ur own flesh and blood  cant go to him as i am worried he will start with me and at this point i just  cant take it.im not retired as u  have to work maybe that keeps me going but not haooyas i should be  hope we can be friends.elaine
At 6:38pm on March 15, 2016, Joyce said…

Welcome Barzan: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat.You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences.  Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It" 

 
 
 

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