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Barzan
  • Female
  • Arvada, CO
  • United States
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  • Maggie
  • Slick
  • Frank
  • sweetlady
  • Joyce
 

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Barzan replied to Tess's discussion Moving forward and making decisions in the group Born in the 50s
"Hi Tess, I don't know that it's self confidence you lack as most of us bounced ideas and shared decisions for so long with our mates.  We have all been there.  Personally, I think it's a fabulous idea that you go back for…"
Tuesday
Barzan replied to Tess's discussion Companionship in the group Born in the 50s
"Hi Athena,  Like you, my husband was caring, brilliant and funny.  After he passed (7.5 yrs) I opened myself up for dating a few years after.  There were none out there that had all the qualities of my husband.  He had been a…"
Feb 8
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Slick, I’ll be in Philly early June near Center City.  Would love to meet for coffee.  Can we email ach other?"
Feb 6
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Yes Athena, I've met his brother.  "
Feb 6
Barzan replied to Tess's discussion Companionship in the group Born in the 50s
"My me has many such conversations and, we end up on good terms each time.  I think your convo is great and a good example of how our lives may be."
Feb 6
Barzan replied to Tess's discussion Companionship in the group Born in the 50s
"Hi Tess, I was there about the same time after I lost my husband.  He's been gone over 7 years now.  At that stage of loss we really miss the companionship of a mate because we haven't found our new us yet.  I got on dating…"
Feb 6
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dearest 1212, your loss is unimaginable.  Slick couldn't have phrased it any better.  We are all here for each other.  One thing that helped me daily working through my grief was a book "Living with loss:  One day at a…"
Feb 1
Barzan replied to Tess's discussion Self Discovery in the group Born in the 50s
"Hi Tess,  Nothing odd about what you are feeling.  My husband has been gone over 6 years now and still find myself searching for me.  I retired 4 years after he passed and was wrapped up in my work so I know that side of me. …"
Jan 22
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hello Muns,  I just read your post.  That is absolutely devastating for both you and your daughter.  I cannot offer words of encouragement that would adequately reflect what you are going through.  Please keep posting on here…"
Jan 11
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Danny's girl, Your post brought tears to my eyes.  I, too, have felt the isolation when having gone into knee replacement surgery - alone.  My favorite cheerleader was not at my side.  I did have my son, brother and lots of…"
Jan 10
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"I, too, will be at 7 years in June and I, too, had a lonely New Years.   One of my good friend's husband told me recently (we were having a bbq) that men probably find me intimidating.  I had to think about it and accept that…"
Jan 5
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"Chef John,  I agree that the 5 stages are a hoax.  One of the things that really get me upset is when I'm trying to remember a place or event that he and I were privy to and I have no one that shares that memory with me now.  So,…"
Jan 3
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I agree with Slick.  Lev, thanks for stating how our journey affects us so eloquently.  I think we are so good for one another here.  We truly understand this journey where others can't. Happy New Year and more healing in 2018."
Jan 3
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"Mark, I think you stated that well.  I've had 6 years of "why us' moments.  I now am just grateful we had each other for as long as we did.  Trying hard to let go of the anger but it doesn't always work. Hope you…"
Jan 2
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thank you Lev.  I wish you the same.  And to all in our group, hope we can find purpose and joy in 2018.  I have decided to go to the gym 3 times a week and resume work on my book.  And, I will laugh everyday. Lets make 2018 our…"
Jan 2
Barzan commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"Hi Chef, i hope you know that I wasn’t saying our anger isn’t valid. My point was that we can’t hate them because our spouses left too soon but for us to respect that it will be in their future as well.  I don’t know…"
Jan 1

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I am recently retired from a very demanding profession and am still learning how to be retired. I keep busy with my jewelry designing, sewing and art. I will be volunteering at our history and science museum. I love the arts, gardening and travel.

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At 5:17am on June 22, 2017, Slick said…

Hi Barzan...my name is Angela...everyone calls me Angel..going to give you one of my e-mail addresses ....if that's OK with you....that's how I communicate with 2 friends from here...it's so much easier then coming on the site....

[email protected] let's get aquainted and learn a little more about each other..

At 2:32pm on May 10, 2016, sweetlady said…
  • i  am a widow much longer than u douhave children are they closewithuthathurtsidontknowhow olduare but thetimegoesby very quickly auditsashamewhenu are at odds with ur own flesh and blood  cant go to him as i am worried he will start with me and at this point i just  cant take it.im not retired as u  have to work maybe that keeps me going but not haooyas i should be  hope we can be friends.elaine
At 6:38pm on March 15, 2016, Joyce said…

Welcome Barzan: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat.You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences.  Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It" 

 
 
 

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