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Beansy
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  • Sarasota, FL
  • United States
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Widows Camp Tampa

Started Mar 14 0 Replies

Thanks to all who made me feel so welcome and part of the group. The camp was a lot of fun and learning. beans

ONE REASON GRIEF CAN LAST TOO LONG (but there are many more)

Started this discussion. Last reply by Chere Mar 5. 3 Replies

I am new here by a couple of months. When my husband died he was 47 and me 46. We had one son. Norm was diagnosed at age 36 with heart disease. There was no cure, but a heart transplant. He did not…Continue

 

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Widows Camp Tampa

Thanks to all who made me feel so welcome and part of the group. The camp was a lot of fun and learning. beans
Mar 14
Beansy commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"If Social Security paid you $255 for death benefit then they know your spouse passed. I know you must send back the payment for social Security they paid in the month a person dies. beans"
Mar 9
Beansy commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Social Security used to ask, so things are different than when I was going through this, and when working. They asked me for another one when they gave me part of Norm's Social Security for being a widow. I was 47 when he died, and at 60 years…"
Mar 9
Beansy commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"You are supposed to change everything or let whoever know of the death of a spouse. They usually require a certified death certificate. I was a paralegal,and worked on estates for a time. I thought I did everything I was supposed to do. Most states…"
Mar 9
Beansy replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion US: SOUTH - ATLANTIC in the group Connect with others in your area
"Where in Florida"
Mar 8
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Mar 7
Chere replied to Beansy's discussion ONE REASON GRIEF CAN LAST TOO LONG (but there are many more)
"They are definitely the only reason I get out of the bed in the mornings. I have to keep taking care of them. It sucks their Dad couldnt see them grow up. It just breaks my heart."
Mar 5
Beansy replied to Beansy's discussion ONE REASON GRIEF CAN LAST TOO LONG (but there are many more)
"Hi. I saw your post, and it was part of the reason I posted. Having kids makes it harder, but for me, our son was 6 when his Dad became ill, and 16 when his Dad died, and I was so glad I had him at home until he went away to college. Your kids will…"
Mar 5
Chere replied to Beansy's discussion ONE REASON GRIEF CAN LAST TOO LONG (but there are many more)
"Your post made me cry. Im very sorry. I just lost my husband unexpectedly and have 2 small children. Dont know what to do now. You can message me anytime you want to talk."
Mar 5
Beansy posted a discussion

ONE REASON GRIEF CAN LAST TOO LONG (but there are many more)

I am new here by a couple of months. When my husband died he was 47 and me 46. We had one son. Norm was diagnosed at age 36 with heart disease. There was no cure, but a heart transplant. He did not get one. We got married in 1975, he got sick in 1987 and died in 1997. Here it is 20 years later.When I grew up all you heard was that girls get married and have babies. Somehow, I knew that would probably not be the outcome for me. I had no luck with dates, and I am visually impaired from brain…See More
Mar 5
Beansy commented on Soaring Spirits's group Connect with others in your area
"Sarasota Fl"
Mar 4
Beansy commented on Soaring Spirits's group More Than One Loss (Multiple Losses)
"Baranik: thanks for responding. Your question about dreams of family and friends who passed is one I can answer. Yes, I still have dreams about my husband, and wake up now and then thinking he is here, in the bathroom, getting ready for work. It is…"
Mar 4
Beansy replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Hi Missing. I know because you wrote so beautifully about your wife, how badly you are feeling now. I wish this never happened to anyone. I am an old hand with this. My husband had heart failure when he was 38, lived for 10 years without being…"
Mar 3
Beansy replied to Jill's discussion How old were you when your spouse died? How does your age affect your self-concept now that you're on your own?
"I was 45 when Norman died. He was 46. He was 37 when he became ill and needed a heart transplant. That was too long ago for a quick heart transplant and no implantable defibrillators were invented yet. He died in 1997.It has been 20 years since…"
Feb 25
Beansy replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Who's going to Camp Widow Tampa 2017? Let's get acquainted!
"I am going. It is the first for me. I arrive on Thurs and leave on Sunday. I live an hour south of Tampa. I am getting a ride there and back because I do not drive. You can find me if you want, and hope you would, by looking for a female, 66 years…"
Feb 25
Beansy replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"I am almost hesitant to post this. Once I read it, I will decide. I am not like most of you. I have forever felt like an oddball. I married Norman in 1975. He became ill in 1986 and needed a heart transplant. He never got one, and like I was told…"
Feb 25

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At 5:08pm on February 21, 2017, Joyce said…

Welcome Beansy: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat.You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences.  Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".

 
 
 

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