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Beansy
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  • Sarasota, FL
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Widows Camp Tampa

Started Mar 14, 2017 0 Replies

Thanks to all who made me feel so welcome and part of the group. The camp was a lot of fun and learning. beans

ONE REASON GRIEF CAN LAST TOO LONG (but there are many more)

Started this discussion. Last reply by Chere Mar 5, 2017. 3 Replies

I am new here by a couple of months. When my husband died he was 47 and me 46. We had one son. Norm was diagnosed at age 36 with heart disease. There was no cure, but a heart transplant. He did not…Continue

 

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Beansy replied to Jill's discussion How old were you when your spouse died? How does your age affect your self-concept now that you're on your own?
"Hi Timelord. I am only 2-1/2 months late responding. I am sorry. I will send a message. beans"
Mar 13
Beansy replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion US: SOUTH - ATLANTIC in the group Connect with others in your area
"I went to Tampa  Camp last year. Don’t be nervous. Everyone is great. Find a friend, if you can, to hang out with. They make it very comfortable. I was scaewd, too, bur glad I went. Not going this year because I did not realize it was…"
Mar 8
Beansy replied to Snow's discussion Unexpected Emotions in the group Long-Term Illness
"Agree, diring the time Norm was sick and when he died was 10 years. Wr knew it was incurable, and I did grieve during that time. He really took care of himself, but he stopped working, our lives were forever changed, and we knew it. So when he…"
Mar 2
Beansy replied to Tess's discussion Companionship in the group Born in the 50s
"Tess you are so right. I talk to myself and think the same things. I know I am fun, but have no real friends anymore. It looks like there are couples and no seperates. Maybe they hide like I do sometimes. beans"
Feb 9
Beansy replied to Snow's discussion Unexpected Emotions in the group Long-Term Illness
"Hi. It is true to go with the flow mostly. But I had a different grieving time. I spent so long denying Norm had died, because he had benn sick for too long. He was too young. For me the grieving started when he got the diagnosis. After he died, I…"
Feb 8
Beansy replied to Snow's discussion Unexpected Emotions in the group Long-Term Illness
"Because many people are either stupid or unaware or uncaring, while someof us are  the opposite, you will find this from many. It is hard to take when you expect the opposite. But most people are afraid of death, and try to deny it happens.…"
Feb 7
Beansy replied to Tess's discussion Companionship in the group Born in the 50s
"Hi. I have done the same thing you are doing now, but for a long time. I have put restrictions on myself psrtly because I was afraid to start anything new for fear it would end up a mess. I had a great time when I was married. There is n one like…"
Feb 6
Beansy replied to Snow's discussion Not like the Movies in the group Long-Term Illness
"It wasn’t 3 days ago, but 20 years since my husband died after being sick for 10 years.  He was 47,and I still miss him. You are three days into your new life. You will feel everything so keenly, any crying or any other emotions are…"
Feb 5
Beansy replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion US: SOUTH - ATLANTIC in the group Connect with others in your area
"Sarasota FL. When Norm was alive we lived in Delaware  beans"
Dec 27, 2017
Beansy replied to Jill's discussion How old were you when your spouse died? How does your age affect your self-concept now that you're on your own?
"Yes. It took me years to be able to be comfortable being alone, though really still not happy with it. It is not just being alone, it is how couples, especially family, can be uncomfortable around me. They may not say anything, but the differences…"
Dec 27, 2017
Beansy replied to Jill's discussion How old were you when your spouse died? How does your age affect your self-concept now that you're on your own?
"I am also in the misfit toys category. Widowed at 46, twenty years ago. No family but a son and granddaughter, and his wife does not like me. I am at their home now, but I am the traveler always. It is far, but they wont come to FL. I think I am…"
Dec 26, 2017
Beansy replied to Don's discussion With the holidays upon us... in the group Long-Term Illness
"You will never fotget it, you will always feel her there, you will miss her, you never get over this loss. I am 20 years since my husband died, and I know. It gets easier, it eventually feels good to realize you once were with the other person and…"
Nov 17, 2017
Beansy replied to Susan's discussion I'm A Grandma!!! in the group Born in the 50s
"I am going to VA over Christmas. It is also a 4 birthday. Am so happy to get to be there. I wish my husband was here though. It is just me, and the other family,and my son is with that famly more than me. They are closer by distance , and I guaranty…"
Nov 7, 2017
Beansy replied to Jill's discussion How old were you when your spouse died? How does your age affect your self-concept now that you're on your own?
"My husband became ill at age 37. He had ideopathic cardiomyopathy, a heart failure disease. There was no cure butt a heart transplant. He had a pacemaker, but in 1990 there were no implantable defibulators. He died in 1997 a day before he turrned…"
Oct 27, 2017

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At 5:08pm on February 21, 2017, Joyce said…

Welcome Beansy: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat.You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences.  Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".

 
 
 

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