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6 month grief burst

Started this discussion. Last reply by Blithe Dec 17, 2018. 10 Replies

Good Morning Community,I'm 6 months past losing my husband and am having a really significant grief burst. It's also my first holiday season without him. I just put my house on the market because we…Continue

Relationship issue complicating my grief

Started this discussion. Last reply by Rainy (Misty) Jun 3, 2018. 5 Replies

   I am less than 3 weeks post losing my husband to cancer and am very disturbed by the intensity of feeling I am having around a relationship issue that was never completely resolved. Feeling a…Continue

 

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Blithe replied to Blithe's discussion 6 month grief burst
"Thank you, NicoleK8975. I'm really ready to go, now just waiting to sell my house and finish the school year (I'm a teacher) and hoping to have some luck where that is concerned. I have no interest in holidays this year and spent most of…"
Dec 17, 2018
nicolek8975 replied to Blithe's discussion 6 month grief burst
"I chose to move just 3 months after my husbands passing. We had moved for his job as well and my family was clear across the country. It hurt tremendously to sell the home we finally got with all our hard work, but staying there wouldn’t have…"
Dec 16, 2018
Blithe replied to Blithe's discussion 6 month grief burst
"Thank you for your thoughts and sharing your experiences DIVA. That anyone could think we'd ever be over losing our partner shows that most people have no clue, unless they've been through ti themselves. The two of you were together for so…"
Dec 4, 2018
DIVA70 replied to Blithe's discussion 6 month grief burst
"I lost my husband seven months ago and for me any one of the things you cite contributes to the way you are feeling. I dread the holidays but I dread the coming year even more. After 50 years together it will be the first new year without…"
Dec 4, 2018
Blithe replied to Blithe's discussion 6 month grief burst
"Thank you Rainy. You're right, people don't get it unless they've been through it. I'm certain moving is the right thing but there's a surprising sadness that I'll be giving up the connection we had through the creative…"
Dec 4, 2018
Blithe replied to Blithe's discussion 6 month grief burst
"Thank you Bonaroo. I wish there was a grief group where I live (another reason to move :) But have had one on one therapy too. Going back and forth about medication. Can't decide if it's become major depression or if it's just normal…"
Dec 4, 2018
Rainy (Misty) replied to Blithe's discussion 6 month grief burst
"@ Vintage Barb I love the "perfect storm" analogy.  It's perfect! :)@Blithe, Barb is so right.  It's all of the above.  The six-month mark for me was around when the fog began to lift.  I no longer had the…"
Dec 4, 2018
Bonaroo replied to Blithe's discussion 6 month grief burst
"For me, the six month mark was my lowest point. That’s when I reached out for help and started both group grief therapy and one on one therapy. "
Dec 4, 2018
Blithe replied to Blithe's discussion 6 month grief burst
"Thank you Barb. I think you're right. I really appreciate your support. Hugs back atcha! Blithe"
Dec 4, 2018
vintage56(barb) replied to Blithe's discussion 6 month grief burst
"you are having a "perfect storm" of grief-inducing events. Any one of these would be bad enough. I hope when you get back to your family and their support, things will be a little better. In the mean time we are here to chat when you need…"
Dec 4, 2018
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6 month grief burst

Good Morning Community,I'm 6 months past losing my husband and am having a really significant grief burst. It's also my first holiday season without him. I just put my house on the market because we moved for his job and I have no family here. (They say you should wait a year but I don't think that applies when you don't have your support system around.) I'm planning to move back to the state where my family lives.This feels almost worse than the immediate loss. Is it the 6 month mark? Is it…See More
Dec 4, 2018
Blithe replied to Fromage's discussion shouldn't i feel worse than i do?
"I would consider it a blessing that your grief is not debilitating. I lost my husband 3 weeks ago and I really want to feel better. I'm hoping that there is a finite amount of sadness in me and if I let it out, it will eventually be manageable.…"
Jun 4, 2018
Rainy (Misty) replied to Blithe's discussion Relationship issue complicating my grief
"Hi Blithe without going into a whole lot of detail, I had an unresolved situation (with Jerry) and after 5 months I talked to my step-daughter about it.  (She's 34)  I didn't know what to expect from her but I needed a resolution…"
Jun 3, 2018
barbee replied to Blithe's discussion Relationship issue complicating my grief
"In grief it is so very easy to feel guilty. All the woulda/shoulda/coulda things surface. A good friend told me to take a trip -- any place, in real time or in my imagination  --just do not take a guilt trip. I had to remind myself of that…"
Jun 2, 2018
Blue Sky replied to Blithe's discussion Relationship issue complicating my grief
"Blithe, please don't beat yourself up over this.  Yes, I have over 30 years experience with daddy/daughter enmeshment.  It's much more prevalent in step situations than people like to admit.  It was only in the last…"
Jun 2, 2018
Blithe replied to Blithe's discussion Relationship issue complicating my grief
"Thank you Athena53. I truly appreciate your response. I'm going to try to be a little gentler on myself. Thanks for sharing your story about writing the obituary while your husband took his last breath. It's that finality that is so hard…"
Jun 2, 2018

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At 9:11am on June 1, 2018, Patience said…


Welcome to Widville, Blithe. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the "help" link at the top of page. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. And the "chat room" is open 24/7.
Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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