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Blue Snow commented on NMWidower's blog post Remembering Heidi and Reflections on the last three and a half years...
Blue Snow commented on only1sue's blog post two years alone
"Chocked me up reading this. We go through so many emotions when our loved one is gone. It's good yo can let it spill out on the page, maybe that helps to purge the pain."
Blue Snow commented on only1sue's blog post broken dreams
"It's really hard not to have flashbacks to happier times and broken dreams. I'm 16 months out from Don's passing and I'm still having them but less often than in the first year. I think it's just grief making peace with the…"
Blue Snow liked only1sue's blog post broken dreams
Blue Snow commented on Blue Snow's blog post My Second Memorial Dad Without My Husband
"Thanks, ladies, for the comments. As it turned out we had heavy rain on Memorial Day so I doubt anyone made it to the cemetery. I will swing by there after the farmer's market this weekend. I'm still feeling really restless and I'm…"
North54 commented on Blue Snow's blog post My Second Memorial Dad Without My Husband
"Sorry about your broken elbow and hope you are on the mend now. Although we don't have memorial day in Canada I can relate to that feeling of loneliness on certain holiday weekends. Think it just once again reinforces we are…"
only1sue commented on Blue Snow's blog post My Second Memorial Dad Without My Husband
"Yes, indeed, I hate long weekends. It is family time. My three families are busy. I hate the phone call that says: "Today we...it was so much fun!" Hey, next time drop by and take a poor old widow with you maybe?
I…"
AEDforever (Ali) commented on Blue Snow's blog post My Second Memorial Dad Without My Husband
"((Blue)) I was scheduled to go to the cemetery on Memorial Day to help place the flags (Paul did not die in service but had served in the Marines). I couldn't go for a very good reason, and then I felt so guilty. And yes, the…"
Blue Snow commented on hendrixx2's blog post thIS Order
"I, too, have found that the words in the above quote do come true. It's hard for widows and widowers to see that in the beginning months but the focus does change. Still love your writing......"
Blue Snow liked hendrixx2's blog post thIS Order
Blue Snow commented on only1sue's blog post when is it time to move on?
"I have Don's voice on an out-going answering machine from before his stroke. I couldn't bare to erase it. I haven't listened to it much over the years, but it's "there" and that oddly comforts me.
When Don first passed…"
Blue Snow commented on Patcpoo's blog post I forget
"I am 15 months out from my husband's passing and I still experience this occasionally. That first few minutes of the day have always been the hardest time for me...to see his empty side of the bed."
Blue Snow commented on only1sue's blog post changing from wife and caregiver to widow and ????
"I am coming to the conclusion that I don't need to replace the 'caregiver title/role' in my past life with something else. It's enough just to be comfortable with myself without searching for a new mission. Hard transition to…"
Raine's Nana commented on Blue Snow's blog post What Will the Future Bring?
"Wow, this really hits home. After 11 months since my husband died I think I have finally come up with a 2 year plan. Now to try and bring it to fruision.
It is hard to be alone and harder still to make such important decisions without…"
Blue Snow liked Pat's blog post Oh, the Strength!
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My Second Memorial Dad Without My Husband
Posted on May 29, 2013 at 9:12am 4 Comments 0 Likes
Memorial Day means different things to different people. For most people it’s just the kick off to summer and a long weekend for having family fun or for working on an outdoor project. For some, it’s all about honoring our fallen military men and women. Still others use the weekend to decorate at the cemetery, a tradition dating back to shortly after the Civil War when families would gather to clean up the grave yards at the end of spring. In the realm of useless information cluttering up my…
Continue First Anniversary of my Husband's Passing
Posted on January 17, 2013 at 9:30am 6 Comments 3 Likes
Tomorrow will mark the one year anniversary of the day Don died. Three hundred and sixty-five days of widowhood. In that year thousands of words have been written in my blog covering a speculum of emotions from raw grief and frustration to sweet memories and attempts to understand my world turned upside down. Twelve months. 8,760 hours. So many anniversaries and holidays, so many ways to mark the passing of time and the road I’ve traveled since he died. Yet there are days---long days---when…
Continue What Will the Future Bring?
Posted on January 6, 2013 at 10:30am 9 Comments 2 Likes
In twelve, short winter days it will be a full year since Don passed away. The year went by quickly and I am grateful I am past the panicked stage of grief and the crazy I-have-to-do-everything-all-at-once feelings that chased me around for so many months. And tonight as I think about what it means to face this first anniversary I am reminded of a passage I read in a book a long time ago, Memoirs of a Geisha by Arthur Golden: “Whatever our struggles and triumphs, however we may suffer…
Continue A Widow's Letter to Myself
Posted on December 27, 2012 at 6:30am 6 Comments 1 Like
Are you tired of crying? Are you tired of feeling sorry for yourself? What are you waiting for? A committee of friends to bind your wounds or maybe a White Knight to come riding in to save you from the perils of your own thoughts?
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Don’t cry over the past, it’s gone.
Don’t stress over the future, it hasn’t arrived.
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Yada yada, yada we’ve all heard that two-line platitude before. It goes around Facebook like a…
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- At 5:29pm on July 27, 2012,
bj628(Bonnie) said… Thank you so much for telling me about this website. I have shared it with some other (widow) friends. ((((((((hugs)))))))))) Bonnie
- At 2:06pm on February 6, 2012,
VOLUNTEERSupa Dupa Fresh said… Welcome to our community.... I hope we can keep you company on your journey ahead. Please look around a bit and read this basic introduction to the site. You can find more information about how the community works under "Help!" in the navigation bar, and we'll send you a few newsletters with tips and ideas in the coming weeks. If you need a little more help, go to the Home page and look in the right hand column to see the link to a "Help Desk" form.
We all use the site differently, but we hope you feel comfortable sharing among us in the coming days, weeks, and months.
Big hug!
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- At 1:00pm on February 4, 2012,
carolynne said… Blue, I'm so very sorry for your loss, but so glad you've found us. I love your blogs, keep them coming. Enjoyed seeing you in chat, hope to see you there again soon. (((hugs)))
- At 11:40pm on February 2, 2012,
Joyce said… Welcome Blue Snow: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at WV that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".
- At 10:54pm on February 2, 2012,
Dianne in Nevada said… 
I'm so very sorry for your loss, Blue Snow, but glad you found us. There is caring support and friendship here. Join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. Those 'chirps' you hear when you're in Widowed Village mean people are talking in the Chat Room; stop in some time and join the conversations. I look forward to getting to know you here.
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