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Blue Snow
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Blue Snow commented on only1sue's blog post A week away does me good
"Glad you got a good visit with your sons and their families. That's got to make a huge difference, lifting up your spirits."
Aug 2, 2017
Blue Snow commented on only1sue's blog post What do I want?
"We're in the same peer age group and lost our husbands not too far apart. I know exactly how you feel when you say you want to make changes but don't seem to know what you really want in life. I have explored so many things in recent years…"
Mar 18, 2017
Blue Snow commented on only1sue's blog post A step out of my comfort zone
"That's great, Sue, that your trip turned out to be such a positive experience. I go to monthly travelogues and really enjoy them, but travel seems so "messy and complicated these days that I have no desire to actually do it. Cruises are…"
Feb 21, 2017
Blue Snow commented on only1sue's blog post Climbing out of a Black Hole again
"Make sense, Sue to just let it. Have a good holiday season."
Dec 3, 2016
Blue Snow commented on only1sue's blog post Climbing out of a Black Hole again
"Sorry to hear about the break up, Sue. Do you think the approaching holidays had anything to do with it? I know younger guys often feel the pressure to produce an engagement ring for Christmas, maybe old guys do, too? An/or to introduce their dates…"
Dec 1, 2016
Blue Snow commented on Widow_erDad's blog post Finding my way back
"Glad to see such positive changes in your life in just three short years. I think it's important for seasoned widows and widowers to come back here from time to time if for no other reason than to give hope to the newer members of the…"
Jun 5, 2016
Blue Snow posted a blog post

My Fifth Memorial Day

I have mentioned the term 'Memorial Day' in twenty-four blog entries in my personal blog (The Misadventures of Widowhood). I know this because the ‘search this blog’ feature mysterious started working again and since I’m a statistics kind of person, I’m happy about that. Though, honestly, sometimes I wonder why I still bother to reread past posts in an effort to take my widowhood temperature, comparing earlier versions…See More
May 30, 2016
Blue Snow commented on only1sue's blog post Viewing it all from a distance
"You've always served others in one way or another through out your life, Sue, only now you have more time to do it. It's going to take time to accept that you're only Sue (and not Ray and Sue) in that endeavor."
May 22, 2016
Blue Snow commented on only1sue's blog post Triggers for memories
"I think we'd have to have amnesia for those memory triggers not to get to us. We just need a better way to manage the bad ones and close them down as soon as possible."
Apr 2, 2016
Blue Snow commented on Blue Snow's blog post Fourth Sadiversary on Widowhood Lane
"Melissa, Thanks for the history lesson but as important as Martin Luther King Jr’s Day is it doesn’t compare to the birth and death of Jesus in terms of it being a Red Letter Day. When I referred to January being a “non-describe…"
Feb 8, 2016
SweetMelissa commented on Blue Snow's blog post Fourth Sadiversary on Widowhood Lane
"January is actually not a non-descript month nor is the middle of the month. MLK's actual b-day is January 15; it is observed on the third Monday each year to promote "equality among all people" ... My DH was white, believe me, I did…"
Feb 8, 2016
Blue Snow commented on Blue Snow's blog post Fourth Sadiversary on Widowhood Lane
"Thank you. I wish I could have re-purposed the room a long time ago but really had to keep a full spare room in case I need caregiver help from time to time---my husband was severely disabled for twelve years before he died."
Feb 6, 2016
Callie2 commented on Blue Snow's blog post Fourth Sadiversary on Widowhood Lane
"Love the room, very welcoming and multi-functionable. I am very challenged in decorating, wish I had an ounce of your talent!"
Feb 6, 2016
Blue Snow posted a blog post

Fourth Sadiversary on Widowhood Lane

My mom died on Easter thirty-two years ago, my dad died on Christmas fifteen years ago and my husband passed away four years ago the middle of Janurary. With Mom and Dad’s deaths both falling on holidays it’s impossible to let their sadiversaries slide by without thinking about them. With Don’s I get through the holidays before the anticipation of his sadiversary gets kick-started on New Year’s Day. Even though he died on a nondescript day in the middle of a nondescript month I doubt I’ll ever…See More
Feb 6, 2016
Blue Snow commented on only1sue's blog post some questions I am asking
"Don't be too hard on yourself for being in a routine of doing certain things on certain days. All in nature---all in the entire universe---has a rhythm and routine to it so it's only natural that we humans seek the same.That being said,…"
Feb 3, 2016
Blue Snow commented on only1sue's blog post changing relationships
"I've had people ask to borrow money from me too, since Don died. My theory is if a bank (or credit card company) doesn't think they are a good risk to loan money to then I sure as heck am not going to do it. It never works out to loan…"
Dec 20, 2015

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My Fifth Memorial Day

Posted on May 30, 2016 at 7:00am 0 Comments

I have mentioned the term 'Memorial Day' in twenty-four blog entries in my personal blog (The Misadventures of Widowhood). I know this because the ‘search this blog’ feature mysterious started working again and since I’m a statistics kind of person, I’m happy about that. Though, honestly, sometimes I wonder why I still bother to reread past posts in an effort to take my widowhood temperature, comparing earlier…

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Fourth Sadiversary on Widowhood Lane

Posted on February 6, 2016 at 5:00am 4 Comments

My mom died on Easter thirty-two years ago, my dad died on Christmas fifteen years ago and my husband passed away four years ago the middle of Janurary. With Mom and Dad’s deaths both falling on holidays it’s impossible to let their sadiversaries slide by without thinking about them. With Don’s I get through the holidays before the anticipation of his sadiversary gets kick-started on New Year’s Day. Even though he died on a nondescript day in the middle of a nondescript month I doubt I’ll…
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Three Full Years a Widow

Posted on January 17, 2015 at 9:04am 7 Comments

The third sadiversary of Don’s passing is coming up soon and I don’t know how to feel about that. I do know that I’ve let him go and I am at peace with where he’s at. But I still think of him daily. How could I not? I often feel him still around me. It may seem overly dramatic to quote a well-known poem here but I’m going to do it anyway. It was printed on the remembrance cards handed out at Don’s memorial service and sometimes when I read it, it speaks so softly to me I can barely hear…
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Third Christmas Without My Husband...

Posted on December 21, 2014 at 9:35am 3 Comments

Days before my first Christmas without Don I wrote a post titled Where Have You Gone, Christmas? and it started like this: “In a year of firsts for widows, probably the hardest first is not the same one across the board. Some might say their wedding anniversary; others might say the birthday that can no longer add a number to an age, still others would name Thanksgiving,…

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At 1:29pm on July 27, 2012, bj628(Bonnie) said…

 Thank you so much for telling me about this website. I have shared it with some other (widow) friends.  ((((((((hugs)))))))))) Bonnie

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At 9:00am on February 4, 2012, rodsgurl09 said…

Blue, I'm so very sorry for your loss, but so glad you've found us. I love your blogs, keep them coming. Enjoyed seeing you in chat, hope to see you there again soon. (((hugs)))

At 7:40pm on February 2, 2012, Joyce said…

Welcome Blue Snow:  I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site.  I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at WV that I have.  In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat.  Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable.  It is nice to be among people who "Get It". 

At 6:54pm on February 2, 2012, Dianne in Nevada said…

I'm so very sorry for your loss, Blue Snow, but glad you found us. There is caring support and friendship here.  Join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  Those 'chirps' you hear when you're in Widowed Village mean people are talking in the Chat Room; stop in some time and join the conversations.  I look forward to getting to know you here.

 
 
 

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