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Max commented on Blue Snow's blog post The Getting Married Again Question
"I have heard the same question and my answer was I am not unless I can have my Little Esther back to do it with again, no more questions after that. Tonight I traveled to the dark side for awhile so I decided to see what I could find to…"
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Alan Jackson - Remember When
Music video by Alan Jackson performing Remember When. (C) 2003 BMG Music
Max replied to cindy292's discussion The Effect of Pets
"No better friend could we have to carry us through the hard days. These past two years Pepper has helped make my life a lot happier and given me a purpose because without me she would be given up to the system, my kids are not pet people so I…"
Benny's wife commented on Max's video
kenny rogers - through the years
"Thanks for posting!
I haven't heard this in a while and it is so true."
Suz commented on Max's blog post Love Her - While You Have Her!!
"So sweet, Max. So glad you could have that kind of love."
chez2all commented on Max's blog post Love Her - While You Have Her!!
"Thanks Max for sharing this story...I never could understand the reason ppl weren't kinder to those they chose to marry...it's such a simple thing!"
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Love Her - While You Have Her!!
Posted on July 13, 2012 at 8:52pm 3 Comments 2 Likes
Today I took a tour bus to Greektown Casino in Detroit just to get away for awhile, Little Esther use to love going there and sometimes we stayed overnight, it was on her bucket list at the end, we had a room reserved but we didn't make it.
Anyway the blog is about a couple on the bus that I had the displeasure of sitting behind. He was loud and a bully to his wife, she was quiet and submissive to her husband what a match made in He!! I rode all the way in silence and moved to…
Continue The Question - Did I Do All That I Could Have Done???
Posted on June 25, 2012 at 9:51pm 11 Comments 2 Likes
I am sure some of you have asked yourself this question.
Here I am going on twenty five months since Little Esther left this earth and I find myself still asking, today I finally reached a truthful answer.
The answer is no, I didn't force the issue with the doctors in the early stages and I feel that her life may have been saved if I had just taken the initiative and not allowed the doctors to dictate the decisions that were made. My wife was the type of patient that had total…
Continue Don't Get Scared Unless You See Me Get Scared!!!
Posted on June 20, 2012 at 10:02pm 6 Comments 1 Like
When my children were little we were all in the car and a really bad storm was all around us, the kids were in panic mode so I said "Don't get scared unless you see me get scared". My wife and kids remembered that and they use to say, watch dad to see if its time to get scared yet, if anything was going on.
When Little Esther was near death she looked me in the eye and said "I won't get scared about dying unless I see you get scared", so I had to stay strong for her all the way to…
Continue Hi! Max, Where's Your Better Half-We Miss her??
Posted on June 19, 2012 at 5:22pm 5 Comments 1 Like
I was at the grocery store and I heard a voice behind me ask that question, I turned and it was a couple that we knew that had moved to Florida. I smiled, choked for a second and then explained about Esther, they said they were sorry and then they were gone.
On the way home I thought about my losing my ( Better Half) and I realized that was really true, she was the best of me/us in so many ways.
My question now is - how do we get whole again, do we have to find a facsimile…
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- At 8:23pm on June 14, 2012,
Paulak said… Fort Knox..Got you note and didnt know how to answer.Each Group has its own method..My husband was stationed at Ft.Knox almost 3 years..He got his discharge in 62.We were married in 61 and moved to Minn. for a year (where he was from) but returned to live in Louisville til his death 3 years ago.This is such a small world..Ive met so many prople from all over the world.Have two girlfriends in Australia..You are the first who is familiar with my area...I dont know how to communicate with people other than in groups...Thanks for the note..It was nice hearing from you..Paulak
- At 8:32am on June 14, 2012,
Dianne in Nevada said… Hi Max. Just noticed you're from Sandusky ... my husband was born there. Lived in Castalia; his parent's home was next to the Ford plant. Some really good memories there.
I hope today is a better day. They will come.
- At 7:53pm on June 5, 2012,
Arnie (New Normal) said… Hi , I am so sorry for your loss yet I am glad you found us. You will find some great help here on the site and the relationships you will build with all of the great people here. We are all on the other side of life now and only we can really understand how you feel. I am on chat quiet often and it is scary and overwhelming at times in the beginning. I would like to offer a bit of assistance when you are ready use the chat room. 1. I always advise you watch for a bit, the room gets busy sometimes and hard to follow at first. 2. You will see some joking and even laughter, you will also see tears and breakdowns. The people here are here to support and be supported by peers. 3. Looking at the chat you will see that the left window has a sliding bar that tells you who is online (they may be on another part of the site though) 4. If you click on a name in the side bar this should open up a private chat or PC as we call it. 5. I f you receive a PC a red # will show under the main lobby with the name and icon of the person it is from or if you sent it to someone 6. Your first entry: This is hit or miss, it really depends on when you jump in if lots of folks are chatting you can easily get missed. I recommend just saying Hi I am new and give whatever info you want (hi I am Arnie From NJ and today I am 3 months and 3 days out) this way if others are from NJ they may want to know more. 7. BE READY: Ok once you do go into the lobby be ready as the questions are needed and they are sometimes gentile, sometimes the questions fly at you. Please take your time here as if this is new for you this may open you up emotionally, and it is normal to feel this and from what i am told a needed part of trying to begin to live again. 8. Most people on the chat are women as of now but the men that are involved are very respectful and sometimes fun. 9. Remember almost no one knew each other until they came here. 10. Good luck and I sent you a friend request, lets face it near or far we need support, and with so many from around the world there is almost always someone on. ALSO using internet explorer is problematic with chat so Firefox appears to be the best.. I hope this long winded letter helps you in the beginning and again SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS.
- At 9:38pm on June 3, 2012,
VOLUNTEERSupa Dupa Fresh said… Welcome to our community.... I hope we can keep you company on your journey ahead. Please look around a bit and read this basic introduction to the site. You can find more information about how the community works under "Help!" in the navigation bar, and we'll send you a few newsletters with tips and ideas in the coming weeks. If you need a little more help, go to the Home page and look in the right hand column to see the link to a "Help Desk" form.
We all use the site differently, but we hope you feel comfortable sharing among us in the coming days, weeks, and months.
Big hug!
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- At 8:36pm on June 2, 2012,
Lisa (lost) Lamb said…
I'm so sorry for the loss that brought you here Max, but I'm glad you've joined us. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here that I did. We all have our own journey to follow, our own twists and turns to get through to be able to heal. But none of us need travel alone, together we can lean on each other when times get bad. So Welcome to this wonderful community.
- At 8:04am on June 2, 2012,
chez2all said… Hi Max, welcome to WV. I found this site not long after my 2nd husband died in March this year and it has been very helpful. The support given is tremendous. I look forward to getting to know you when you get comfortable. Bye for now Chez
- At 8:03am on June 2, 2012,
AuntT said… This is such a sad reason to find new friends but you will find many here. WV has helped me so much and have become my family. I hope you find this to be true for you too.
- At 8:52pm on June 1, 2012,
Joyce said… Welcome Bob: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I know you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".
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