"This is my 5th year without Bob. Thanksgiving was very difficult. Thanksgiving was at my house. One son and his family were here, the other son wasn’t able to make it. I invited a widowed friend but she declined. My granddaughter was born on…"
"It was 5 years for me on July 5. I still think about him many times everyday. I still keep everything in the house the same as when he was here. I realize we we fortunate to be together for 53 years, most of them very good. I socialize with new…"
"Hi Susan, I had a hard time asking for help, until my sons pointed out it is better to ask for help than risk injury. I have high ceilings in my house and a ladder is needed to change light bulbs. They said to leave jobs like that to them. Recently…"
"A neighbor has been a widow for 2 years. For the past 2 years she calls me 1-4 times a day to ask my help for various problems. I did help for a long time.She has a son and several relatives within 10 miles. Last month I decided to end her…"
"Lupe’s husband. There are cruise sites that have “roll calls”, where people going on the same cruise meet online. AOL has Cruise Critic which has good information about cruising. I have used this site for over 20 years. Bob and I…"
"Athena, almost all the widows I know are not interested in marriage. However most of the widowers seem to want to marry again, usually within a year. I think women adjust better to living alone. I never lived alone until I was 74. I enjoy being with…"
"Michele, I tnink it does make a difference. In my case I was a caretaker for many years and I know I could never do it again. I also think age makes a difference. It takes time to build a relationship. I am 79, in good health but I accept the fact…"
"Bob and I were always together. I felt lost after losing him. It took a while but I started to get involved in activities that interested me. I joined a Y and through people I met there a social club. Think about your interest and give it a try. I…"
"The first time I cruised solo I wasn’t sure if it was a good idea, but it was. I have met quite a few solo cruisers. When I cruise I join into activities that I enjoy, especially trivia. It is a good way to meet new people. I have all my meals…"
"I was annoyed with my HOA because they were not treating homeowners equally. I live in Florida and we have a statute concerning “selected enforcement “. I sent the HOA an email reminding them that they were in violation of Fl…"
"I believe Bob would want me to be happy. Tomorrow he will be gone 5 years. I have met a few nice men but I am only interested in friendship. After living alone for 5 years I know I don’t want to share myself, my home and my money. It does get…"
"Izzie, I also wear my husband’s wedding ring. Bob passed almost 5 years ago. About 2 years ago when I reached into my jewelry box to take out my wedding ring I picked up his wedding ring instead, and I have worn it everyday since. Peace to all."
"Housework is very good exercise. I have a large house and do all my own housework. I no longer do any yard work. I live in Florida and it is hot most of the year. Now and then I do think about selling my house and moving to an apartment. Bob and I…"
"Faolan, I take 3 classes of gentle (chair) yoga a week. I have been doing it for several years and find it very beneficial. I have a torn rotator cuff and a tear in my ACL, and I have not had surgery for either. I feel well and do not take any pain…"
"The only time I discuss Bob’s passing is with my sons and seldom with a few close friends and on this site. It is a difficult subject. I do talk about Bob. Bob had a good sense of humor and when I feel it is appropriate I will share stories. I…"
"Bob had dementia for a long time and I was his caretaker. When he died I felt relief that he wasn’t suffering anymore and I felt grief at the same time. At times I feel guilt that I survived him, and it is difficult to deal with. Peace to all."
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