"Bob has been gone almost 6 years and I will never get married again. We had a good marriage of 53 years. The last few years I was his caretaker. I am very independent and don’t need anyone to take care of me. Most of the men in my age group…"
"Sue, Age does make a difference in medical care. We are more likely to have complications than younger people. I currently have a torn rotator cuff and an ACL tear and I have declined surgery for these conditions. I was in the medical field for over…"
"Most people want to comfort someone in grief and they said things that would comfort themselves. I am not religious and similar things were said to me. I realized they were just trying to comfort me. I have friends of different religions. I…"
"Noelene, nights are difficult even though it is almost 6 years for me. When I go to bed I play CDs we both had enjoyed. I try to relax and think about the happy times we had. It does seem to help most evenings. Peace to all."
"I also decided to stay in my home after Bob passed almost 6 years ago. It is a large home in a young community, average age here is 43. I have been fortunate in hiring people for maintenance. I have good neighbors. After Bob passed I had 3 lists,…"
"Many years ago after my father died I kept getting phone calls insisting that I give them his current address. I informed them that he had died. Finally I gave them the cemetery address. The phone calls stopped."
"Rich, I also feel I will never get over my loss. I tend to keep my unhappy feelings to myself. I realize that unless people have gone through this pain they really don’t understand. I am okay being by myself, but it is lonely. It takes a lot…"
"It has been 51/2 years since Bob passed. It is better for me now. I think about Bob everyday and I wear his wedding ring. Every night before going to sleep I play dvds that we both enjoyed for about 1 hour. I wish I had him back when he was fairly…"
"When Bob died 51/2 years ago, i was undecided about whether I should sell the house. We had built this house 20 years before, it is a large house in a beautiful city. I made 3 lists, one was sell the house, two was buy a condo and the third was rent…"
"Very sorry for your loss. It has been over 5 years for me. Whoever said that death changes nothing is an idiot. It changes almost everything in your life. When I lost Bob I thought I would never fully recover. My life has changed a lot and I…"
"One of my biggest fears was getting seriously injured or dying and no one be aware of it. A friend of mine died in her home and it was several days before it was discovered. I decided to text my son (it could be a friend) every morning and evening…"
"This is my 5th year without Bob. Thanksgiving was very difficult. Thanksgiving was at my house. One son and his family were here, the other son wasn’t able to make it. I invited a widowed friend but she declined. My granddaughter was born on…"
"It was 5 years for me on July 5. I still think about him many times everyday. I still keep everything in the house the same as when he was here. I realize we we fortunate to be together for 53 years, most of them very good. I socialize with new…"
"Hi Susan, I had a hard time asking for help, until my sons pointed out it is better to ask for help than risk injury. I have high ceilings in my house and a ladder is needed to change light bulbs. They said to leave jobs like that to them. Recently…"
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