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Bobbysgirl
  • Female
  • Fort Lauderdale, FL
  • United States
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Bobbysgirl replied to only1sue's discussion What are the fundamentals of dating in your 60s and 70s?
"Hi Susan, I had a hard time asking for help, until my sons pointed out it is better to ask for help than risk injury. I have high ceilings in my house and a ladder is needed to change light bulbs. They said to leave jobs like that to them. Recently…"
Aug 6
Bobbysgirl replied to only1sue's discussion What are the fundamentals of dating in your 60s and 70s?
"A neighbor has been a widow for 2 years. For the past 2 years she calls me 1-4 times a day to ask my help for various problems. I did help for a long time.She has a son and several relatives within 10 miles. Last month I decided to end her…"
Aug 6
Bobbysgirl replied to WoodTurner's discussion Permission to Remarry
"Lupe’s husband. There are cruise sites that have “roll calls”, where people going on the same cruise meet online. AOL has Cruise Critic which has good information about cruising. I have used this site for over 20 years. Bob and I…"
Jul 22
Bobbysgirl replied to WoodTurner's discussion Permission to Remarry
"Athena, almost all the widows I know are not interested in marriage. However most of the widowers seem to want to marry again, usually within a year. I think women adjust better to living alone. I never lived alone until I was 74. I enjoy being with…"
Jul 8
Bobbysgirl replied to WoodTurner's discussion Permission to Remarry
"Michele, I tnink it does make a difference. In my case I was a caretaker for many years and I know I could never do it again. I also think age makes a difference. It takes time to build a relationship. I am 79, in good health but I accept the fact…"
Jul 8
Bobbysgirl replied to WoodTurner's discussion Permission to Remarry
"Bob and I were always together. I felt lost after losing him. It took a while but I started to get involved in activities that interested me. I joined a Y and through people I met there a social club. Think about your interest and give it a try. I…"
Jul 5
Bobbysgirl replied to WoodTurner's discussion Permission to Remarry
"The first time I cruised solo I wasn’t sure if it was a good idea, but it was. I have met quite a few solo cruisers. When I cruise I join into activities that I enjoy, especially trivia. It is a good way to meet new people. I have all my meals…"
Jul 4
Bobbysgirl replied to WoodTurner's discussion Permission to Remarry
"I was annoyed with my HOA because they were not treating homeowners equally. I live in Florida and we have a statute concerning “selected enforcement “.  I sent the HOA an email reminding them that they were in violation of Fl…"
Jul 4
Bobbysgirl replied to WoodTurner's discussion Permission to Remarry
"I believe Bob would want me to be happy. Tomorrow he will be gone 5 years. I have met a few nice men but I am only interested in friendship. After living alone for 5 years I know I don’t want to share myself, my home and my money. It does get…"
Jul 4
Bobbysgirl replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion When did you remove your wedding rings?
"Izzie, I also wear my husband’s wedding ring. Bob passed almost 5 years ago. About 2 years ago when I reached into my jewelry box to take out my wedding ring I picked up his wedding ring instead, and I have worn it everyday since. Peace to all."
Mar 20
Bobbysgirl commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Housework is very good exercise. I have a large house and do all my own housework. I no longer do any yard work. I live in Florida and it is hot most of the year. Now and then I do think about selling my house and moving to an apartment. Bob and I…"
Feb 13
Bobbysgirl commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Faolan, I take 3 classes of gentle (chair) yoga a week. I have been doing it for several years and find it very beneficial. I have a torn rotator cuff and a tear in my ACL, and I have not had surgery for either. I feel well and do not take any pain…"
Feb 13
Bobbysgirl replied to only1sue's discussion What are the fundamentals of dating in your 60s and 70s?
"The only time I discuss Bob’s passing is with my sons and seldom with a few close friends and on this site. It is a difficult subject. I do talk about Bob. Bob had a good sense of humor and when I feel it is appropriate I will share stories. I…"
Feb 6
Bobbysgirl replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Bob had dementia for a long time and I was his caretaker. When he died I felt relief that he wasn’t suffering anymore and I felt grief at the same time. At times I feel guilt that I survived him, and it is difficult to deal with. Peace to all."
Jan 8
Bobbysgirl replied to only1sue's discussion What are the fundamentals of dating in your 60s and 70s?
"Solo vacations are very liberating. You do what you want, when you want, without consulting anyone. We are responsible for our own lives. Bob and I always did everything together and I never imagined that I could do solo traveling. I am fortunate…"
Jan 3
Bobbysgirl replied to only1sue's discussion What are the fundamentals of dating in your 60s and 70s?
"Slick I have found the best way to meet new people is to get involved in activities you enjoy. I have joined my Y and take classes in cardio and gentle yoga. We also have social activities for older adults. Just had a dinner dance for the holidays.…"
Jan 3

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At 8:07am on August 23, 2015, Denise said…
Hello Bobbysgirl,
Sad that we meet under such circumstances .But then we meet ,two strangers with similar lives.
Pl keep in touch
At 10:20pm on June 29, 2015, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Bobbysgirl. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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