"Hi, I don't comment too often,I do read the posts of all, but tonight I needed an outlet.My youngest son,Nathan,is on a mission trip in Nicaragua.He just called home with devastating news. One of the young men he was with drowned and my son…"
"Hi Bonnie: Don't know what happened, but I thought I responded to this early this morning. Happy Anniversary! Wrap yourself in your love. I hope you do go spend time at the Cottage on the Lake! Hugz!"
"Hello FDNWINE,so sorry for your loss.My husband died of the very same thing May 27, 2012.I know of several men our husbands age who have had this same thing.I'm also still in shock.The people on this site are loving caring people.It is a real…"
"Since we all feel like staying in bed today ,lets have a giant slumber party and cry and pray and lift each other up.I hate days like this but it does help to come here to know others are feeling the same things.Prayers and hugs to all."
"I'm glad I'm not alone having insulting members of my husbands' family.It took a week to get my husbands funeral planned because everything my husband and I had talked about and planned for for his funeral his brother and sister…"
"Dear CharliesGirl, so sorry you have to be on this site and for the loss of your dear husband.My husband was on a vent also,5 weeks, but did not know who we were for the most part.I know it must have been very frustrating not to be able to…"
"Today is 4 weeks since I lost my husband.All I want to do today is stay in bed and cry.People have said to me that I should be able to know and feel Len present with me.But I don't.I just feel all alone and in deep pain."
Bonnie, I'm sorry your son is moving away, at this point in time I feel like our kids are all
we have. I find it hard to do things too, it's much easier to be by myself. I have found myself only doing things where I have the control to leave when I want. I never know when that over whelming feeling of grief hits. I hope today is not to hard for you. HUGS
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Hi Bonnie, I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband. I'm just about 10M out and I feel
just as lost and lonely as ever, and with good reason, like you, we were married 32 years,
3 grown children and dreams to fill. I was my husband caregiver for 17M he had the life sucked out of him from cancer. I haven't figured out how to start completely all over, I really don't even want to. This is a hard road, I hope today is a good day for you, if you need to talk you can e-mail me anytime firstname.lastname@example.org
I'm so sorry for your loss, I lost my wife in February to cancer. There are so many great people on this site that share you loss, grief and pain. We are all in this together. Sadly we belong to a website that no one wants to be a member of, but everyone understands what you are going through. God Bless you.
I am so sorry for your loss yet I am glad you found us. You will find some great help here on the site and the relationships you will build with all of the great people here. We are all on the other side of life now and only we can really understand how you feel. I am on chat quiet often and it is scary and overwhelming at times in the beginning. I would like to offer a bit of assistance when you are ready use the chat room. 1. I always advise you watch for a bit, the room gets busy sometimes and hard to follow at first. 2. You will see some joking and even laughter, you will also see tears and breakdowns. The people here are here to support and be supported by peers. 3. Looking at the chat you will see that the left window has a sliding bar that tells you who is online (they may be on another part of the site though) 4. If you click on a name in the side bar this should open up a private chat or PC as we call it. 5. I f you receive a PC a red # will show under the main lobby with the name and icon of the person it is from or if you sent it to someone 6. Your first entry: This is hit or miss, it really depends on when you jump in if lots of folks are chatting you can easily get missed. I recommend just saying Hi I am new and give whatever info you want (hi I am Arnie From NJ and today I am 3 months and 3 days out) this way if others are from NJ they may want to know more. 7. BE READY: Ok once you do go into the lobby be ready as the questions are needed and they are sometimes gentile, sometimes the questions fly at you. Please take your time here as if this is new for you this may open you up emotionally, and it is normal to feel this and from what i am told a needed part of trying to begin to live again. 8. Most people on the chat are women as of now but the men that are involved are very respectful and sometimes fun. 9. Remember almost no one knew each other until they came here. 10. Good luck and I sent you a friend request, lets face it near or far we need support, and with so many from around the world there is almost always someone on. ALSO using internet explorer is problematic with chat so Firefox appears to be the best..
I hope this long winded letter helps you in the beginning and again SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS.
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