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Brandy1977
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  • Bellingham, WA
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Brandy1977 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"JennyD, I understand what your saying about destiny we lived only 20 mins our whole childhood then my dad's father died and myself ,my mom and my flew out to Lakeland Florida during that same time Jan was also in Lakeland Florida visiting a…"
Oct 10, 2016
Brandy1977 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Mary H and BBL35, I am right there too I am just am just 3 months past the year mark and I feel so lonely I want my wife and my best friend back the thought of getting back into dating after all these years like you were saying BBL35 everyone on…"
Oct 10, 2016
Brandy1977 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Mary H and New Normal, I agree with both of you I have moments where I do want someone to fill that loneliness but know if I jump into something I am not truly ready for it will turn out bad. Hugs to everyone here"
Oct 7, 2016
Brandy1977 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"JennyD,I understand the feeling of alone trying to move forward in life. I am at a year and almost 4 months I have times where I wish she was here to hug and talk to etc... But still for I am not even close to thinking about dating. But it's…"
Oct 6, 2016
Brandy1977 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Oh sweetmelissa2007, Thank you for all your words. You had said something about Bob dying in June Jan died June 16th last year. It's funny you said that you almost came to Bellingham that where I leave in Washington state. I will try the…"
Sep 3, 2016
Brandy1977 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Thank you SweetMelissa2007 I read your post and it's nice knowing you and others here understand how I feel. I'm sorry for your loss and knows been awhile. But I know that anniversaries are a,challenge for us all.Your words meant so much…"
Sep 3, 2016
Brandy1977 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Unmarried Widows & Widowers
"It's been quite a while since I have been on here. I have read through alot of the posts. I see that there is a roller-coaster of emotions through out. This journey is unpredictable one day you could be doing okay and have taken many steps…"
Aug 31, 2016
Brandy1977 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"It's been quite a while since I have been on here. I have read through alot of the posts. I see that there is a roller-coaster of emotions through out. This journey is unpredictable one day you could be doing okay and have taken many steps…"
Aug 31, 2016
Brandy1977 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"It's been quite a while since I have been on here. I have read through alot of the posts. I see that there is a roller-coaster of emotions through out. This journey is unpredictable one day you could be doing okay and have taken many steps…"
Aug 31, 2016
Brandy1977 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Hey everyone it's been a couple weeks since I have been on. Emotions have been unbearable lately. Well the year came and went but truthfully I still have times where I feel like I am still dreaming. I think because it hurts to much to know she…"
Jul 3, 2016
Brandy1977 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"SuzyB, my thought and prayers are with you today as you continue with your journey as today mark's the one year of losing the love of your life. Lots of hugs. Tomorrow will be that for me and it's hard to believe that it has been a year.…"
Jun 15, 2016
Brandy1977 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Unmarried Widows & Widowers
""Hi Everyone, Sorry I have not been on for awhile a lot of changes and up and down emotions. I still can't believe it going to be a year next week. The pain of not still having my wife here hurts just as much as the first day without…"
Jun 12, 2016
Brandy1977 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
""Hi Everyone, Sorry I have not been on for awhile a lot of changes and up and down emotions. I still can't believe it going to be a year next week. The pain of not still having my wife here hurts just as much as the first day without…"
Jun 12, 2016
Brandy1977 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
""Hi Everyone, Sorry I have not been on for awhile a lot of changes and up and down emotions. I still can't believe it going to be a year next week. The pain of not still having my wife here hurts just as much as the first day without…"
Jun 12, 2016
Brandy1977 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Hi Everyone, Sorry I have not been on for awhile a lot of changes and up and down emotions. SuzyB, I can relate the 1 year anniversary is coming up on June 16th and I can't believe how fast time has gone just like you I am trying to move…"
May 5, 2016
Brandy1977 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Hope and Terry, Thank you for your wonderful words. I am so glad I have this site to come and put my feelings down and know everyone here understands what I am feeling. This past 9 months have been a huge struggle. Not only without Jan by my side…"
Apr 12, 2016

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At 3:00pm on January 29, 2016, robinslove said…

Sleep. Well, that is hard to judge because I suffered from bouts of insomnia years before Robin died. But I find I few shots of vodka in the evening seems to put me to sleep just fine. The t-shirt sounds familiar. Only I slept with one of Robin's pillows. And I would wear one of her old t-shirts. I stopped doing that because I wanted to have some of her clothes that still had her "scent" in them. My big thing is finding and collecting her head hairs. They and I had radically different hair lengths, so it was pretty easy. I have a ziplock bag full. And I know what you mean by "not feeling" her. It is going to be like that sometimes. But then, out of the blue, you will get a feeling or a sign and know she is there. Jan wouldn't leave you. Robin hasn't left me. Oh, there will be periods of time when I think she has and then... I'll just know she is there again.         

At 2:39pm on January 28, 2016, robinslove said…

Hey, Brandy! I am doing about the same as ever. Sometimes up, sometimes down. The rollercoaster of grief is what I call it. Earlier this week I hit a very low down. It was caused by an old song, that conjured up a specific memory of her. And suddenly the tears were coming and I just missed her so damned badly! In that moment, I would have sold my soul just to talk to her for five minutes. She was my best friend as well as the love of my life and it is just really, really difficult sometimes. But, I am back up again and maintaining.

What have you been experiencing lately? Are you doing okay for the most part?   

At 3:50pm on January 19, 2016, robinslove said…

Brandy: I haven't been on this site in a long, long time. But as another lesbian who has lost the love of her life, I know what you are feeling. I am, as of today, almost 3 years and four months along from losing my Robin. And though I continue to work and take care of the things I need to take care of, the sunshine has gone out of my life. Never, I fear, to return. I know in my heart that I will never find another to love. Robin was all that I ever wanted and will ever want. That is my curse. I just hope that it won't be yours. You are still young and vibrant. Don't lose hope of finding another love. And in the meantime, stay strong and live for your girls. You are not alone. And don't question your decisions. Jan is there with you, I am sure, and she is helping you make those decisions without your knowledge. Hang in there, gal!!    

At 1:32am on December 15, 2015, alonenow (Betsy) said…

Brandy,

Kath and I were together for 35 years, no kids. Lots of nieces and nephews and two cats and two dogs. She was 67. We really grew up together in many ways. I am still working which gives me structure and it's still new so I am dealing with shock. I'm glad you have family to be with for the holidays. I know it's often mixed but it's nice to be with people who loved your partner. Sending hugs.

Betsy

At 4:24pm on December 14, 2015, alonenow (Betsy) said…
Brandy,
Tried to send a message. Not sure it worked. I hope we can support each other. Sending you hugs.
Betsy
At 11:03pm on August 5, 2015, Dark Rose said…
Hello Brandy1977: today has been rough. No one really understands. people keep expecting us to snap out of it. I have also found it hard everything hurts, my anxiety is so bad. This life feels forced,I wish this was different. I am sorry you are struggling, this is not fair. Today I have been lost in the fog.
At 7:01pm on July 14, 2015, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Brandy1977. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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