It's like I wrote your post! I can' believe it either - that people are hurt at MY behavior!
My husband died at the end of October and my brother and his family wanted to come to MY house because my mother lives with me…"
So sorry you are new to this "Club." I never wanted to be a member.
I know what you mean about stupid people. I have disassociated with so many "friends" over my husband's death, including my…"
"So sorry for everyone reaching the five year mark.....Hope you are doing reasonable. I found during the first year I was in shock and going through the motions....It seems as time goes on, I am thinking more about my husband than ever! …"
"OMG Bundles549! You really are living my life!! I read your other posts about your cousins visiting and NOT BRINGING ANYTHING! Expecting you to make something to eat??? Really??? Just because it is three years…"
I feel for you and actually felt/feel the same way. I scream sometimes when I am driving home to release some of the anger/rage. I hope this passes. I am thinking of you and hope you find some peace. I sure do!"
I understand your anger! It's been 4 years since I lost the love of my life suddenly. Found him on the floor upstairs - it was a heart attack. I still feel angry mostly at other people who don't…"
My advise is to not go. I think you need your girlfriend now - not she and her husband. After my husband died, I wanted to go visit my girlfriend and asked her if she would meet me about an hour away from her house (this is…"
I know exactly how you feel! I am now caring for my mother too. It makes it a ton harder! And people don't understand....It's like having a child! Makes it a lot harder to grieve and to "move…"
"Does anyone else feel like it is getting worse sometimes with time? It will be five years soon and I am finding it hard to cope again. Especially with my sleep....I have moved on and done so many things but I am still missing my old life…"
"Oh Luna, I'm so sorry. I know how you feel. Do you have intrusive thoughts about him too? I feel like it will never get better sometimes. I really like the poem Marie sent me. I am going to print it and keep it by…"
Thank you so much for your reply! I deeply appreciate it. I feel so alone and depressed and I am really tired of it. You sound like you are so together...I am happy for you. I just want peace. Funny thing…"
"I could really use someone's thoughts on an issue I have. I was also wondering if anyone experiences this.
It will be five years next month that my husband died. The first couple years I was in shock but going through the…"
You know what I was irritated about the most? People telling me that I will get through this and find love again. "You are young and you have the rest of your life ahead of you. I know you loved him, but you will find love again."
Say what?!! how do they know what I need? Who designated these people to determine what happens in MY life? It just makes me so angry that they would brush off what we meant to each other without a second thought. Most of my friends tell me that those people are talking because they don't know what else to do or say. They just yammer on and on to make themselves feel more comfortable about an uncomfortable subject.
I think about my husband every day......he is the white noise in my head when I am not concentrating on anything else. So I do believe that you are having visions. In fact, I am a little jealous that you have such vivid thoughts and i have not been able to do that. I even prayed for him to come to me in my dreams. He used to have such vivid, realistic dreams that he would tell me about. It was comical, almost like a made for TV movie script at times!
I understand how you feel and it has been 408 days for me and I cry myself to sleep 5 out of 7 days a week.