"That's a very good point/subject for discussion I think, definitely something I hadn't realized. There are many reasons why I'm reluctant to meet new people but hadn't even noticed that the inevitable declaration of…"
"It seems impossible that all those people who flock to "help" suddenly disappear, but unfortunately they do. I remember sitting on my porch the day after the "funeral" (we held Michael's memorial at our home, where we…"
"So many of your comments resonate with me; I am sick of being told it'll be alright because I'm young & attractive enough to find someone else. As if my marriage is replicable in any way, as if I WANT to find someone else....as…"
"That is exactly right: they don't want to hear it anymore. I have had a close friend tell me that after having "been there" for me there was only so much of my neediness she could take and to let her know when we could…"
"And one more thing: the phrase, "Everything happens for a reason." I feel like slapping people in the face when they say that to me. Blithely, as if it's some mountain-top epiphany they're blessed to share.…"
"I hate that I thought we had gotten it right...right? Michael was my soulmate, best friend, confidante, teammate...everything, and I mean EVERYTHING to me. All the pain and pessimism of my childhood faded away into memory; life was being…"
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