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Taking the first steps....Young Widows or Widowers that have or are planning on moving, finishing education or switching jobs after loved ones death

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Hi Everyone,I am looking to connect with other Young Widows/Widowers (YWW) that have already moved out of their home they shared with their loved one, planning on moving, taking the steps to finish a…Continue

Young Widow/Widower (YWW) with no Kids

Started this discussion. Last reply by chef (John) Aug 8. 35 Replies

Hi All,I am a YWW just turned 30, my husband died 6 months ago, we had no children. I am looking to connect with other YWW who do not have children. I am slowly starting off on my new path in this…Continue

 

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Taking the first steps....Young Widows or Widowers that have or are planning on moving, finishing education or switching jobs after loved ones death

Hi Everyone,I am looking to connect with other Young Widows/Widowers (YWW) that have already moved out of their home they shared with their loved one, planning on moving, taking the steps to finish a degree, and/or switching jobs. I am about to embark on all of the above and starting to feel guilty. Am I doing all of this to soon (August 16th will be 8 months since my husband passed) should I still be in bed with the covers over my head not wanting to live? I miss Kenny so much and he should be…See More
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chef (John) replied to ByHisGrace08's discussion Young Widow/Widower (YWW) with no Kids
"What's the point? Whatever you make it, Imogen. ;-) If you see some value in learning French, I say, "Go for it!". Just do it at your own pace. There are plenty of French-language radio stations available on the internet, and many…"
Aug 8
Imogen replied to ByHisGrace08's discussion Young Widow/Widower (YWW) with no Kids
"John you made me smile.  After Doug died I sat my pets down & explained they now had to help out, no more freeloading.  No one cared. I talk to them all the time, even outside.  I don't care anymore. I was going to learn…"
Aug 8
Imogen replied to ByHisGrace08's discussion Young Widow/Widower (YWW) with no Kids
"I totally get the in the middle thing.  I was 49 when Doug died.  8 months later I am 50 & according to the world "old"  I don't feel old.  I went to a bereavement group of mostly people over 65 & kept…"
Aug 8
chef (John) replied to ByHisGrace08's discussion Young Widow/Widower (YWW) with no Kids
"I agree with the help of fur babies. Mine were very helpful to me when my wife died six years ago. I just turned 60 earlier this year. Not to worry about conversing with them either. I sometimes discuss the philosophy of…"
Aug 8
John885 replied to ByHisGrace08's discussion Young Widow/Widower (YWW) with no Kids
"I'm sorry to hear that Ray. After 3 months things are a little better but unfortunately not much. At first I really wanted answers on how to deal with everything but I have come to realize that there really aren't any, at least not the…"
Aug 8
Bonaroo replied to ByHisGrace08's discussion Young Widow/Widower (YWW) with no Kids
"Wow! John you've been through so much. What I've found is people project how they think they'd feel in your circumstances from their perspective. I've also learned everyone deals with losing a spouse in their own way at their…"
Aug 7
Danielle replied to ByHisGrace08's discussion Young Widow/Widower (YWW) with no Kids
"Hi MenuFalls, The balloons at the park sounds fantastic, and the plaque, what an amazing idea. I lost Mike in November last year - he was 39 - so this October will be his 40th, I have been starting to dread it but I love how you just got out there…"
Aug 7
ByHisGrace08 replied to ByHisGrace08's discussion Young Widow/Widower (YWW) with no Kids
"I lost my Kenny in December and it still feels surreal to me to. I lose it over the little things to, there is so much that just reminds me of my husband. I hope you have an amazing time at Camp Widow, I am hoping to get to one of the camps next…"
Aug 5
ByHisGrace08 replied to ByHisGrace08's discussion Young Widow/Widower (YWW) with no Kids
"Hi John, I can relate to so many things in your post, but the big one is the talking with someone who gets it. I got all the time from people it is ok to cry because I didn't feel comfortable crying in front of people, for some reason people…"
Aug 5
HelensRay replied to ByHisGrace08's discussion Young Widow/Widower (YWW) with no Kids
"John, I'm Ray more than twice your age (72) and I too lost my Helen to Metastasis breast cancer just 5 weeks ago.  We do have 2 sons and they are hurting as bad as I am but it is still difficult to talk about how we are feeling.…"
Aug 5
John885 replied to ByHisGrace08's discussion Young Widow/Widower (YWW) with no Kids
"Hello, my name is John. I'm 33 and lost my loved one to metastasis breast cancer 3 months ago. She had breast cancer when she was 28 but was lead to believe it was cured, at-least to an extent where we thought it might be an issue much later in…"
Aug 5
without replied to ByHisGrace08's discussion Young Widow/Widower (YWW) with no Kids
"Hi byhisgrace08, I also always thought we had time, just have to get finances in order first. What a joke that was. I would give anything to see how happy he would have been to hold his own baby. I dont know if widows/ers with kids feel the same. I…"
Aug 2
BelovedPeach replied to ByHisGrace08's discussion Young Widow/Widower (YWW) with no Kids
"They are unbelievably helpful in ways I could never imagine. I have to be careful, because I swear one of these days someone is going to be walking by hearing me have a full on conversation with the "kids" and there going to put me in a…"
Jul 29
Nieta replied to ByHisGrace08's discussion Young Widow/Widower (YWW) with no Kids
"Thank you Danielle.  My condolences for your life as well. Hugs in return XX"
Jul 29
ByHisGrace08 replied to ByHisGrace08's discussion Young Widow/Widower (YWW) with no Kids
"I agree we are in a weird in between world..."
Jul 29

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At 6:25pm on July 5, 2017, MenuFalls said…
Hi there-
I lost my husband to a completely unexpected stroke in December. Christmas will have zero meaning this year. He was only 34 (Im 38) and we were married only 1 year (but together for 5 years total). I certainly dont have all the answers, but Im here if you want to vent. Never in my wildest dreams could I ever have imagined this. Would ever have happened. I love Ron very much and am thankful of the times we had together, how meaningful and strong our love was, but nothing could have ever prepared me for this.
At 10:56pm on June 22, 2017, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, ByHisGrace08. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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