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~Dead Flowers what do you do?~

Started this discussion. Last reply by Blue Snow Nov 5, 2012. 5 Replies

After the funeral I had some really beautiful flowers (not many) but a few. The one that I 'DIDN'T' like was the kind that lay over the casket after they finish the service. We had ED cremated so we…Continue


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Moving on 'WHEN?"

Posted on May 18, 2013 at 8:30pm 6 Comments

I can hardly stand hearing that other's have moved on.....should I really be happy for them? Gawd that sounds horrible. I can't even feel happy for myself. 

Having lost my Daddy 7-1-12 then my spouse 10-1-12 I don't really understand how others can be happy and still talk of marriage I just flat out don't get…


What do you do when you Respect your Mom. Yet still want to get angry!

Posted on May 3, 2013 at 10:59pm 3 Comments

My Eddie with have been out of my life for 5 months and two days since we Iast spoke when life was as normal as I knew it. A few of you who have followed me know that I also lost my father 7-1-12 but the pain is far far deeper having lost my husband than my father. I tend to start of most of my conversations with "well Ed did this " or " Ed did that" or yeah I remember when Ed did this" oh man the list is Endless. …


How long does one wait???? For a very simple~~~ Thanks~~~

Posted on April 24, 2013 at 8:30pm 5 Comments

Ed has been gone from me for 6 months & 24 days. I read over and over and over from people who have received a heart or lungs from a loved one and how very THANKFUL they are to have had someone tell them how happy their life is. 

I am so hurt that I have heard from NO one hell not even the…


It was Ed in the darkness of the night!

Posted on April 21, 2013 at 11:16pm 1 Comment

Ed always hated that just after dinner I would to run up to Walmart to grab a few things.....He always was one to tell me to remind me to take my cell phone,  and to call him if anything happend. He also used to say he would take to Walmart if he wanted me to. I always assured me I was a big girl and could do it myself. When I was finnished with my shopping from Walmart I made up this idea that if …


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At 3:23pm on April 14, 2013, Animal Lover said…

YES I lean on my dog rex and my 2 cats and they give me comfort  but I want our whole family back i am so lost at times and my energy is  low and they are times

are just  don't give a crap i hate this feeling but right now its how i feel  my life sucks right now

At 7:16pm on December 17, 2012, jjordan said…

Thanks for friending me.  It is really good to connect to someone who had a similar situation with the hospital ICU staff.  They were the best, and so helpful when difficult decisions needed to be made.  What part of California do you live in?  I'm in Chico.

At 5:47am on November 30, 2012, Osage said…

Lloyd passed away Sept 26, been so hard to accept th is as my new truth.


At 5:45am on November 30, 2012, Osage said…

Hi so nice to hear from you. My dog Nathan was a gift from my kids. He came from the pound. I always loved dogs and Lloyd didnt want animals in thehouse. They got him about a week after Lloyd passed and I wasnt really ready to train a puppy. We went through some tough times that first week but nathan has settled in and he helpsme to deal with this total sadness I feel at times. Lloyd woke up one morning and said I think I had a stroke. He walked into the ER and was gone in three days.Thanks God for Hospice program. They are super.

At 7:11am on November 24, 2012, Creative meggie said…
Thank you for the friend request. I am grateful to have found this site where others can actually understand the pain I am going through. Being so young is kinda a disadvantage for me, so this was a god sent.
At 4:12pm on November 23, 2012, Rox said…

Thanks so much for your friend request.  I am new to this sight, although I lost my husband two years ago.  I am so sorry for your recent loss.  This time of year can be so painful no matter how long ago you lost your loved one.  Thanks again  -  Rox

At 5:13am on November 4, 2012, CountryRefuge(Helen) said…

Hi, Colleen, thanks for the friend request.  I guess I have seniority here---1 whole day.  Hopefully, together we can keep each other afloat, ya think? 

Kidding aside, I am so very sorry for your loss and I'm glad you asked to be friends--thank you.

At 8:59pm on November 3, 2012, EverydayMorning (Sam) said…

I'd love to answer any questions you have.

At 11:14am on November 1, 2012, LaurieR said…

Hi.  I am so sorry for your loss.  It sucks, it truly sucks. The first couple of months for me was existence and an attempt of acceptance.  People who love you have no idea what you are going through unless they have lost their love of their life.  People on this site all lost their loves.  They truly want to help you.  You can read the blogs.  There are 2 spots for blogs.  One is at the top of the page and it says blogs.  You can add a comment to any blog in the comment wall underneath it.  The other place to read a blog is Soaring Spirit Loss foundation.  It is on your left hand side.  Highlight and go down to blog.  It will open a new window and there is a new blog each day.  You can join the group Widowed in 2012 if you wish.  I am the greeter. 

You can read the Forums.  On the top page just hit forum and read what you wish. 

You can chat or just read the chat.  It is on the bottom right and there is a list of member who are on. 

If you want to read each new comment just go to home and all new comments are on.

You will meet people who you instantly connect with.  You will some people who you like and some you don't.  But most people will just want to help.  I will send you a friend request, if you wish you can accept it.

At 7:49am on October 30, 2012, Joyce said…

Welcome CAJS&EJS: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".

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