"I lost my husband suddenly and he lived for 15 days until he died. I sometimes feel it would be so sooo much harder what you had to go through. Watching someone I am sure was strong and had a good out look on life just slowly go down hill. I tip my…"
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Started this discussion. Last reply by Blue Snow Nov 5, 2012. 5 Replies 0 Likes
After the funeral I had some really beautiful flowers (not many) but a few. The one that I 'DIDN'T' like was the kind that lay over the casket after they finish the service. We had ED cremated so we…Continue
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M'LADY commented on Jpswife(Cathy)'s blog post 10 things NOT to say to the widowed. By Jean Powis
"A day does not pass that I have not heard every single one of them. A friend was with me one day when I was crying and all she could say was " I know Coll' I know" I wanted to yell out like many of you 'Know you know"
Anyway…"
M'LADY commented on Karen's blog post Just another day, Not in Paradise
"When I read your post it makes me feel as tho I am not the only person left on this earth that is sad and a big sulking baby.
I sooo agree with when you said "I so much want to move on with my life" that is how I feel too I want to…"
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M'LADY commented on moderndayjune's blog post First Mothers Day
"Hello Modern Day June;
I was truly taken back back by the way that Ben's family treated you when he was being buried. Such a shame didn't his family know how much their son loved you?
My Ed died 10-1-12 of a Brain Anuerysm suddenly and…"
M'LADY commented on Jpswife(Cathy)'s blog post HEAVENLY PILLOWS
"Words tell a story and some stories are to be heard and this is one of those that many people feeling like most of us should hear. I was deeply touched and feel that we ALL have our special pillows thank you for putting most peoples thoughts into…"
hendrixx2 commented on M'LADY's blog post What do you do when you Respect your Mom. Yet still want to get angry!
"Hi M'Lady,
It's hard to have to hear this, but from those whom we know would wish us no ill, we chalk it up it to they just can 'get it', and as you did bite our lips; at a later, more calmer time, perhaps you can explain to your…"
Pat commented on M'LADY's blog post What do you do when you Respect your Mom. Yet still want to get angry!
"I can't imagine how this would feel. My parents are both gone, but I do have an aunt who feels she is my other mother. She often tells me I have to get over things and move on. If I could concentrate enough to write a note,…"
Prairie Gal commented on M'LADY's blog post What do you do when you Respect your Mom. Yet still want to get angry!
"Hi M'Lady. Our husbands must have passed right around the same time. Len died Dec. 1. My Mom also died in 2012 (March), so we have a lot in common. Are you able to have a heart to heart with your Mom? I know it is hard for me to talk to my…"
Susan B commented on M'LADY's blog post How long does one wait???? For a very simple~~~ Thanks~~~
"Have you contacted the donation facilitator? Sometimes I think, there are rules and restrictions on contacting donor families. You might ask just to put your mind at ease. Or ask the social worker at the hospital where the proceedure took place.…"
carolynne commented on M'LADY's blog post How long does one wait???? For a very simple~~~ Thanks~~~
"I do believe an expression of gratitude is in order. perhaps they just are not ready yet. In time it may come. In the meantime, thank you and Ed for sharing the gift of life with someone else. Wishing you peace."
Lori commented on M'LADY's blog post How long does one wait???? For a very simple~~~ Thanks~~~
"i got a thanks for my mom's corneas about 1 yr. later take care"
only1sue commented on M'LADY's blog post How long does one wait???? For a very simple~~~ Thanks~~~
"Me to, if it was one of mine, back from the edge, how grateful I would be. So just thank you for allowing it all to happen. (((hugs)))"
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What do you do when you Respect your Mom. Yet still want to get angry!
Posted on May 4, 2013 at 2:59am 3 Comments 0 Likes
My Eddie with have been out of my life for 5 months and two days since we Iast spoke when life was as normal as I knew it. A few of you who have followed me know that I also lost my father 7-1-12 but the pain is far far deeper having lost my husband than my father. I tend to start of most of my conversations with "well Ed did this " or " Ed did that" or yeah I remember when Ed did this" oh man the list is Endless. …
Continue How long does one wait???? For a very simple~~~ Thanks~~~
Posted on April 25, 2013 at 12:30am 5 Comments 0 Likes
Ed has been gone from me for 6 months & 24 days. I read over and over and over from people who have received a heart or lungs from a loved one and how very THANKFUL they are to have had someone tell them how happy their life is.
I am so hurt that I have heard from NO one hell not even the…
Continue It was Ed in the darkness of the night!
Posted on April 22, 2013 at 3:16am 1 Comment 0 Likes
Ed always hated that just after dinner I would to run up to Walmart to grab a few things.....He always was one to tell me to remind me to take my cell phone, and to call him if anything happend. He also used to say he would take to Walmart if he wanted me to. I always assured me I was a big girl and could do it myself. When I was finnished with my shopping from Walmart I made up this idea that if …
Continue My Dogs see Ed ( I just know )
Posted on April 17, 2013 at 12:00am 5 Comments 0 Likes
When Ed died 10-1-12 I had spoken once or twice of things my dogs have expericned and it has happened again.
I watched as my dogs kept showing me what I thought was staring off into space. My son Ross said he was heading into the kitchen and was drawn to what he noticed that our dog Shyla was doing, he went into the area that…
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- At 7:23pm on April 14, 2013,
Animal Lover said… YES I lean on my dog rex and my 2 cats and they give me comfort but I want our whole family back i am so lost at times and my energy is low and they are times
are just don't give a crap i hate this feeling but right now its how i feel my life sucks right now
- At 11:16pm on December 17, 2012,
jjordan said… Thanks for friending me. It is really good to connect to someone who had a similar situation with the hospital ICU staff. They were the best, and so helpful when difficult decisions needed to be made. What part of California do you live in? I'm in Chico.
- At 9:47am on November 30, 2012,
Osage said… Lloyd passed away Sept 26, been so hard to accept th is as my new truth.
- At 9:45am on November 30, 2012, Osage said…
Hi so nice to hear from you. My dog Nathan was a gift from my kids. He came from the pound. I always loved dogs and Lloyd didnt want animals in thehouse. They got him about a week after Lloyd passed and I wasnt really ready to train a puppy. We went through some tough times that first week but nathan has settled in and he helpsme to deal with this total sadness I feel at times. Lloyd woke up one morning and said I think I had a stroke. He walked into the ER and was gone in three days.Thanks God for Hospice program. They are super.
- At 4:52am on November 25, 2012,
GussieW-W said… - Thank you for the request. I hope you get some good sleep too!
- At 11:11am on November 24, 2012,
Creative meggie said… - Thank you for the friend request. I am grateful to have found this site where others can actually understand the pain I am going through. Being so young is kinda a disadvantage for me, so this was a god sent.
- At 8:12pm on November 23, 2012,
Rox said… Thanks so much for your friend request. I am new to this sight, although I lost my husband two years ago. I am so sorry for your recent loss. This time of year can be so painful no matter how long ago you lost your loved one. Thanks again - Rox
- At 10:20pm on November 20, 2012,
mmsmcmillen (Michele) said… Sorry about your loss. Gordon died 1-27-12. I am just now moving on and going on with my life. It is however hard right now because of the holidays. They were very special to him.
- At 9:13am on November 4, 2012,
CountryRefuge(Helen) said… Hi, Colleen, thanks for the friend request. I guess I have seniority here---1 whole day. Hopefully, together we can keep each other afloat, ya think?
Kidding aside, I am so very sorry for your loss and I'm glad you asked to be friends--thank you.
- At 12:59am on November 4, 2012,
EverydayMorning (Sam) said… I'd love to answer any questions you have.
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