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What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?

Started this discussion. Last reply by rm2121 Oct 7. 19 Replies

I was told that at least I have enough money.I told person i would trade that to get husband back after I picked up teeth.Continue

 

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rm2121 replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"She doesn’t work ananda yes, she can pick up the kids but she doesn’t want to because it’s an inconvenience to her. My mom has been selfish all her life. "
Oct 7
Dee1960 replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"What? Picked up teeth?  Not sure I even understand that...  My mother-in-law said "losing a son is worse than losing a husband".  That said, her husband was an alcoholic abusive SOB, and I thought, but didn't say,…"
Oct 6
Dee1960 replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Jeepers! I thought I heard it all.  -- can't believe it  -- but still, um , if you did kill yourself, who would pick up the kids from school? I think that would grandma's job ..... right?  Hang in there, people can be awful."
Oct 6
Dee1960 replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"first, so sorry for your loss, and second, 18 months probation is nothing compared  to what you are going through  -- f- them!"
Oct 6
Dee1960 replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"OMG, that is terrible -- you do not deserve that -- it is just just awful and a reflection on who she is (your mom) not you... "
Oct 6
rm2121 replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"That I should kill myself... it came from my moms mouth. I rebelled and married outside of my religion for love. My mom asks I told me that I deserved what happened. "
Oct 6
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"That comes from talking to reptiles! Lol! There are venomous vipers that also constrict the life out of people as well as use "charm" ... It was helpfull when confused or angry to imagine one while identifying what I was talking to; human…"
Sep 26
Callie2 replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"“Just deal with it”?  That actually sounds a little mean, let alone insensitive.  Then you should think about it and not cry?  I think that person needs a reality check. Totally clueless, unworthy of a response. Even a bit…"
Sep 24
Dee1960 replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Well, I've read all the replies... I lost my husband in May, our cat died two weeks later in June and our dog died in July -- and then my best friend died in Dec.  all in the same year.   Still in deep grief over the loss of my love…"
Sep 23
Maria replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"I think people are trying hard to relate? which maybe can be thoughtful but they should really get a quick course in when to shut the f*** up!"
Sep 23
kat replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"The comparison to animals is ridiculous! I just had someone today tell me her dog passed and she knows what I am going through. Sometimes you just have to shake your head. I also had someone compare my loss to her Great Grandmother... that she…"
Sep 23
Lal68 replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"this was a message I was sent from someone I use to work with years ago, 2 weeks after my husbands sudden death - [yes things will be sad but you need to face reality and just deal with it. Yes you have time to be just alone and think. Remember that…"
Sep 23
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Many moons ago in Griefshare, the moderator told a story of she & other widows hating on the priest of the church sharing his personal insights as well as religious proverbs. She came to learn later in her grief, if she had not had him to burn…"
Sep 22
Jabs replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"I'm at a loss for words. Thats rare for me. "
Sep 16
Jabs replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"I can't count how many times I've heard that about a dog, or a cat. Even a grandparent I almost, sort of get..not that someone's 87 year old grandfathers death was the same as my 48 year old husband..but at least it isn't an…"
Sep 16
Maria replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"no words!"
Sep 16

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“THE MAYOR”

 

AS I WATCHED YOU APPROACH THE OTHER SIDE OF THE WINDOW WHERE I WORKED, I KNEW I HAD TO GET TO KNOW YOU.

 

AS I WATCHED YOU AS I WALKED DOWN THE AISLE I KNEW YOU WOULD BE THE ONE I SPENT MY LIFE WITH FOREVER.

WE SPENT 36 YEARS TOGETHER.

WE TRAVELED, BERMUDA, CARIBBEAN AND A FEW DIFFERENT STATES.

 

AS I WATCHED US CHANGE OVER THE YEARS THERE WERE UPS AND DOWNS

 SOME OF THEM WERE HISTORICAL AND BROUGHT MANY LAUGHS ALONG THE WAY.

THE FALL THRU THE LADDER

THE FALL OFF THE DOCK TWICE IN ONE DAY

THE CLOTHES LINE POLE ATTACKING YOU

THE CONVERSATIONS AT THE KITCHEN TABLE AFTER ASKING

WHAT YOU DID FOR THE DAY—AND THE LIST WENT ON, THE ROCKS, THE BUSHES, THE TWIGS, THE BRANCHES, AND THE GRASS.

OUR DATE NIGHT WITH THE BACHELOR/BACHELORETTE

 

AS I WATCHED YOU WHEN OUR DAUGHTERS WERE BORN, I KNEW THE LOVE YOU HAD FOR THEM WOULD BE UNCONDITIONAL.

 

AS I WATCHED YOU WHEN YOU WATCHED YOUR DAUGHTERS CROSS THE STAGE DURING GRADUATION, I SAW THE PRIDE IN YOUR FACE.

THE GRADUATION AT BRIDGEWATER WAS HISTORICAL WITH YOU WAVING OUTSIDE WHILE WE WERE DRIVING THINKING WE WERE IN THE PARKING LOT.

 

AS I WATCHED YOU WHEN YOU WALKED YOUR DAUGHTERS DOWN THE AISLE EACH TIME I SAW THE HAPPINESS IN YOUR FACE.

THERE WAS SUCH HAPPINESS ON BOTH THOSE DAYS AND SUCH WONDERFUL SON-IN-LAWS WERE WELCOMED INTO OUR FAMILY

 

AS I WATCHED YOU WHEN EACH GRANDCHILD WAS BORN, I SAW THE BEAMING SMILE FOR EACH ONE.

EACH ONE HAD SUCH A SPECIAL MEANING TO YOU

THE MONKEY WALK

UP TO PAULY’S HOUSE

FHOD(FAMILY HANG OUT DAY) WAS SO IMPORTANT TO YOU

 

AS I WATCHED YOUR FACE WHEN WE STEPPED INTO OUR HOUSE FOR THE FIRST TIME ON THE LAKE WAS PRICELESS

WE GAVE YOU THE NICKNAME “MAYOR OF THE LAKE”

YOU SEEMED TO KNOW EVERYONE AND EVERYONE KNEW YOU AND THE FAMILY.     

 

AS I WATCHED YOU SLIP AWAY, I KNEW IT WAS TIME TO SAY GOODBYE

 TO “THE MAYOR”

I COULD FEEL MY HEART BREAKING BUT I KNEW IT WAS TIME.

AS I WALK THRU THE HOUSE I SEE ALL THE PICTURES AND AM FLOODED WITH THE MEMORIES.

I STILL COME IN THE HOUSE AND TELL YOU ABOUT MY DAY AND HOW THE GRANDKIDS LOVE GRAMPA (GAMPY, GAMPA, PAPA),

I KNOW YOU WILL BE WATCHING OVER US, WE FEEL YOU AROUND US ALL THE TIME

YOUR DAUGHTERS WILL MISS AND THINK OF YOU ALWAYS.

WE KNOW THAT YOU WILL BE “MAYOR OF THE CLOUDS”

 

SO MANY WILL MISS YOU AND I SAW THIS AS THEY CAME TO PAY THEIR RESPECTS.

THEY TOLD ME HOW YOU HAD AFFECTED THEIR LIVES AND YOU WILL ALWAYS BE REMEBERED.

YOU WILL BE IN OUR HEARTS THRU THE BIRTHDAYS, GRADUATIONS AND HOLIDAYS.

 

OUR LOVE TO “THE MAYOR” ALWAYS.

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At 3:44pm on September 11, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Canshifter. You’ll find caring support and friendship here. Join the Groups that fit you to find others that share your experience. Check out the Forum Discussions and Chat Room for conversations on all sorts of topics. Share your story. You'll find the latest news on the HOME page.

 
 
 

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