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What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Mrs.Linda May 19. 45 Replies

I was told that at least I have enough money.I told person i would trade that to get husband back after I picked up teeth.Continue

 

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Mrs.Linda replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"At almost 7 months since I lost my husband, someone asked me yesterday, "Do you still miss Dan?" I just looked at her."
May 19
J in Florida replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Wow, that's harsh. My counseling told us not to take things like this too seriously, because it's going to happen. Easier said than done."
May 9
frankenpickle replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"I, too, had someone say to me- "God doesn't give us anything more than we can handle". I replied- "Well, when GOD says it to me, I'll believe it. Until THEN, when YOU say it to me, I say "Shut up and leave me…"
May 9
invisbeth81 replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Was told that I should just "get over it and move on". Sad thing is that it was my late husband's father that said it. He claims that he was taking the death worse than anyone else even tho he never had a personal relationship with…"
May 9
Bobbysgirl replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Most people want to comfort someone in grief and they said things that would comfort themselves. I am not religious and similar things were said to me. I realized they were just trying to comfort me. I have friends of different religions. I…"
May 9
Amisteratwisterandme replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"I was sent a meme that said, if God took something from you that you couldn't imagine losing, just think of what he's bringing to you.  What an isupposed to say to that?  And my favorite: God wouldn't give you more than you…"
May 8
Callie2 replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Glad you are able to feel that way, if he always been like that, well then it wasn’t totally surprising. Sometimes it’s the disappointment that hurts us when it is family.  You are so right—real men do cry!"
Apr 11
J in Florida replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Thank you Callie, I was able to "shrug it of" and forgive him, he's been like that since we were little kids. Nothing new for him :-). And yes, we don't get an instruction manual and never thought to take classes on how to deal…"
Apr 11
Callie2 replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"That must have been hurtful. Somehow we expect family members to be more empathetic but it’s not always the case. The only thing I can say is that loss is something most of us will experience sometime during our lives. Until we do, there is…"
Apr 11
J in Florida replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"One of my brothers recently told me to "shake it off and stop being such a *ussy." Thanks for nothing, big bro. I work from home and have for the last 20+ years, so I don't get out much. Our friends have been pretty good and have…"
Apr 11
Mrs.Linda replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"One friend said, and this was about 2 weeks or less from my husband passing, "Now that you are single, we can do some things."  She has not called or invited me to do anything by the way.  And being widowed somehow just does not…"
Apr 8
Hopesmom replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"My step son and I were having words and he told me I should be past it and had no right to still feel this way. Needless to say I said "Whoa" right there, I told him nobody has the right to tell me how to feel."
Apr 6
frankenpickle replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"About 6 weeks after I lost my beloved wife of 34 years, a (male) co-worker said- "You are gonna have a hard time getting laid if you keep wearing that wedding band". I glared at him, replied- "Thanks for the pointer". He mumbled-…"
Jan 20
Rainy (Misty) replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Nancy, WOW WOW I'm left pretty much speechless too!  "
Jan 20
NancyD replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"A few months after my husband died, I ran into an acquaintance who said, "I'm so sorry to hear that Frank passed."  I smiled and said thank you. (Lots of practice in gritting my teeth and saying thank you.) Then she smiled and…"
Jan 19
Broken Diva replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Thank you Loveboo for saying that about Dennis.  He was a great man.  We both came from nothing....He did marginally in college but ended up becoming a CEO of a company.  He always credited me for him becoming that too since I went on…"
Dec 30, 2018

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“THE MAYOR”

 

AS I WATCHED YOU APPROACH THE OTHER SIDE OF THE WINDOW WHERE I WORKED, I KNEW I HAD TO GET TO KNOW YOU.

 

AS I WATCHED YOU AS I WALKED DOWN THE AISLE I KNEW YOU WOULD BE THE ONE I SPENT MY LIFE WITH FOREVER.

WE SPENT 36 YEARS TOGETHER.

WE TRAVELED, BERMUDA, CARIBBEAN AND A FEW DIFFERENT STATES.

 

AS I WATCHED US CHANGE OVER THE YEARS THERE WERE UPS AND DOWNS

 SOME OF THEM WERE HISTORICAL AND BROUGHT MANY LAUGHS ALONG THE WAY.

THE FALL THRU THE LADDER

THE FALL OFF THE DOCK TWICE IN ONE DAY

THE CLOTHES LINE POLE ATTACKING YOU

THE CONVERSATIONS AT THE KITCHEN TABLE AFTER ASKING

WHAT YOU DID FOR THE DAY—AND THE LIST WENT ON, THE ROCKS, THE BUSHES, THE TWIGS, THE BRANCHES, AND THE GRASS.

OUR DATE NIGHT WITH THE BACHELOR/BACHELORETTE

 

AS I WATCHED YOU WHEN OUR DAUGHTERS WERE BORN, I KNEW THE LOVE YOU HAD FOR THEM WOULD BE UNCONDITIONAL.

 

AS I WATCHED YOU WHEN YOU WATCHED YOUR DAUGHTERS CROSS THE STAGE DURING GRADUATION, I SAW THE PRIDE IN YOUR FACE.

THE GRADUATION AT BRIDGEWATER WAS HISTORICAL WITH YOU WAVING OUTSIDE WHILE WE WERE DRIVING THINKING WE WERE IN THE PARKING LOT.

 

AS I WATCHED YOU WHEN YOU WALKED YOUR DAUGHTERS DOWN THE AISLE EACH TIME I SAW THE HAPPINESS IN YOUR FACE.

THERE WAS SUCH HAPPINESS ON BOTH THOSE DAYS AND SUCH WONDERFUL SON-IN-LAWS WERE WELCOMED INTO OUR FAMILY

 

AS I WATCHED YOU WHEN EACH GRANDCHILD WAS BORN, I SAW THE BEAMING SMILE FOR EACH ONE.

EACH ONE HAD SUCH A SPECIAL MEANING TO YOU

THE MONKEY WALK

UP TO PAULY’S HOUSE

FHOD(FAMILY HANG OUT DAY) WAS SO IMPORTANT TO YOU

 

AS I WATCHED YOUR FACE WHEN WE STEPPED INTO OUR HOUSE FOR THE FIRST TIME ON THE LAKE WAS PRICELESS

WE GAVE YOU THE NICKNAME “MAYOR OF THE LAKE”

YOU SEEMED TO KNOW EVERYONE AND EVERYONE KNEW YOU AND THE FAMILY.     

 

AS I WATCHED YOU SLIP AWAY, I KNEW IT WAS TIME TO SAY GOODBYE

 TO “THE MAYOR”

I COULD FEEL MY HEART BREAKING BUT I KNEW IT WAS TIME.

AS I WALK THRU THE HOUSE I SEE ALL THE PICTURES AND AM FLOODED WITH THE MEMORIES.

I STILL COME IN THE HOUSE AND TELL YOU ABOUT MY DAY AND HOW THE GRANDKIDS LOVE GRAMPA (GAMPY, GAMPA, PAPA),

I KNOW YOU WILL BE WATCHING OVER US, WE FEEL YOU AROUND US ALL THE TIME

YOUR DAUGHTERS WILL MISS AND THINK OF YOU ALWAYS.

WE KNOW THAT YOU WILL BE “MAYOR OF THE CLOUDS”

 

SO MANY WILL MISS YOU AND I SAW THIS AS THEY CAME TO PAY THEIR RESPECTS.

THEY TOLD ME HOW YOU HAD AFFECTED THEIR LIVES AND YOU WILL ALWAYS BE REMEBERED.

YOU WILL BE IN OUR HEARTS THRU THE BIRTHDAYS, GRADUATIONS AND HOLIDAYS.

 

OUR LOVE TO “THE MAYOR” ALWAYS.

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At 3:44pm on September 11, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Canshifter. You’ll find caring support and friendship here. Join the Groups that fit you to find others that share your experience. Check out the Forum Discussions and Chat Room for conversations on all sorts of topics. Share your story. You'll find the latest news on the HOME page.

 
 
 

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