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Canshifter
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What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Jabs on Monday. 6 Replies

I was told that at least I have enough money.I told person i would trade that to get husband back after I picked up teeth.Continue

 

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Jabs replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"I'm at a loss for words. Thats rare for me. "
Monday
Jabs replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"I can't count how many times I've heard that about a dog, or a cat. Even a grandparent I almost, sort of get..not that someone's 87 year old grandfathers death was the same as my 48 year old husband..but at least it isn't an…"
Monday
Maria replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"no words!"
Monday
rm2121 replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"My mom told me that I should consider “killing myself” because she didn’t want to help pick up the kids from school. "
Sunday
Frank replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Soon after my wife Susan (35 years) died, I had a person tell me they knew exactly how I felt as they had just lost their dog. I was shocked, comparing the loss of a wife to that of a dog?  I said " lost my wife."  He said yes, I…"
Saturday
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"While out shopping, tears were running down my face when a seemingly concerned woman approached asking if I was okay. We talked for a short while before she asked about my weeping. When told her my husband had been killed by a roadrage rage driver,…"
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What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?

I was told that at least I have enough money.I told person i would trade that to get husband back after I picked up teeth.See More
Thursday
Canshifter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2018
"My husband passed away in January and I find some days are just unbearable.  There were so many things planned and talked about and now thats gone. I have a wonderful support team with my daughters but they are also having to handle this with…"
Sep 12
Dianne in Nevada left a comment for Canshifter
"Welcome to Widville, Canshifter. You’ll find caring support and friendship here. Join the Groups that fit you to find others that share your experience. Check out the Forum Discussions and Chat Room for conversations on all sorts of topics.…"
Sep 11

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“THE MAYOR”

 

AS I WATCHED YOU APPROACH THE OTHER SIDE OF THE WINDOW WHERE I WORKED, I KNEW I HAD TO GET TO KNOW YOU.

 

AS I WATCHED YOU AS I WALKED DOWN THE AISLE I KNEW YOU WOULD BE THE ONE I SPENT MY LIFE WITH FOREVER.

WE SPENT 36 YEARS TOGETHER.

WE TRAVELED, BERMUDA, CARIBBEAN AND A FEW DIFFERENT STATES.

 

AS I WATCHED US CHANGE OVER THE YEARS THERE WERE UPS AND DOWNS

 SOME OF THEM WERE HISTORICAL AND BROUGHT MANY LAUGHS ALONG THE WAY.

THE FALL THRU THE LADDER

THE FALL OFF THE DOCK TWICE IN ONE DAY

THE CLOTHES LINE POLE ATTACKING YOU

THE CONVERSATIONS AT THE KITCHEN TABLE AFTER ASKING

WHAT YOU DID FOR THE DAY—AND THE LIST WENT ON, THE ROCKS, THE BUSHES, THE TWIGS, THE BRANCHES, AND THE GRASS.

OUR DATE NIGHT WITH THE BACHELOR/BACHELORETTE

 

AS I WATCHED YOU WHEN OUR DAUGHTERS WERE BORN, I KNEW THE LOVE YOU HAD FOR THEM WOULD BE UNCONDITIONAL.

 

AS I WATCHED YOU WHEN YOU WATCHED YOUR DAUGHTERS CROSS THE STAGE DURING GRADUATION, I SAW THE PRIDE IN YOUR FACE.

THE GRADUATION AT BRIDGEWATER WAS HISTORICAL WITH YOU WAVING OUTSIDE WHILE WE WERE DRIVING THINKING WE WERE IN THE PARKING LOT.

 

AS I WATCHED YOU WHEN YOU WALKED YOUR DAUGHTERS DOWN THE AISLE EACH TIME I SAW THE HAPPINESS IN YOUR FACE.

THERE WAS SUCH HAPPINESS ON BOTH THOSE DAYS AND SUCH WONDERFUL SON-IN-LAWS WERE WELCOMED INTO OUR FAMILY

 

AS I WATCHED YOU WHEN EACH GRANDCHILD WAS BORN, I SAW THE BEAMING SMILE FOR EACH ONE.

EACH ONE HAD SUCH A SPECIAL MEANING TO YOU

THE MONKEY WALK

UP TO PAULY’S HOUSE

FHOD(FAMILY HANG OUT DAY) WAS SO IMPORTANT TO YOU

 

AS I WATCHED YOUR FACE WHEN WE STEPPED INTO OUR HOUSE FOR THE FIRST TIME ON THE LAKE WAS PRICELESS

WE GAVE YOU THE NICKNAME “MAYOR OF THE LAKE”

YOU SEEMED TO KNOW EVERYONE AND EVERYONE KNEW YOU AND THE FAMILY.     

 

AS I WATCHED YOU SLIP AWAY, I KNEW IT WAS TIME TO SAY GOODBYE

 TO “THE MAYOR”

I COULD FEEL MY HEART BREAKING BUT I KNEW IT WAS TIME.

AS I WALK THRU THE HOUSE I SEE ALL THE PICTURES AND AM FLOODED WITH THE MEMORIES.

I STILL COME IN THE HOUSE AND TELL YOU ABOUT MY DAY AND HOW THE GRANDKIDS LOVE GRAMPA (GAMPY, GAMPA, PAPA),

I KNOW YOU WILL BE WATCHING OVER US, WE FEEL YOU AROUND US ALL THE TIME

YOUR DAUGHTERS WILL MISS AND THINK OF YOU ALWAYS.

WE KNOW THAT YOU WILL BE “MAYOR OF THE CLOUDS”

 

SO MANY WILL MISS YOU AND I SAW THIS AS THEY CAME TO PAY THEIR RESPECTS.

THEY TOLD ME HOW YOU HAD AFFECTED THEIR LIVES AND YOU WILL ALWAYS BE REMEBERED.

YOU WILL BE IN OUR HEARTS THRU THE BIRTHDAYS, GRADUATIONS AND HOLIDAYS.

 

OUR LOVE TO “THE MAYOR” ALWAYS.

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At 3:44pm on September 11, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Canshifter. You’ll find caring support and friendship here. Join the Groups that fit you to find others that share your experience. Check out the Forum Discussions and Chat Room for conversations on all sorts of topics. Share your story. You'll find the latest news on the HOME page.

 
 
 

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