"Today is my birthday. Bill always made sure there was cake and a nice meal, and the kids were here. I’m alone today because I’ve come down with a cold & cough and don’t want anyone else to get it 12 days before Christmas.…"
"Congratulations Shelley on using your critical thinking skills to assess your current situation, feelings and determine your future needs both physically and emotionally. It’s great that you had a friend to discuss this with and act as a…"
"Dear Shelley, I agree it would be best to hold off on making big decisions a while longer. Grief counseling advised to wait 2 years if possible. It’s been 5 years since my DH passed, the first 2 were a complete fog and I found…"
"Dear chef John, thank you for your poignant, thoughtful and heartfelt post. I’m at the 5 yr mark and your words ring all the notes of our “ever-after” journey so accurately. I do hope those in the early days/months find…"
"To Riet, TP, Allan, LP and others facing the first holiday season without your partner/spouse - there’s no doubt the next couple of months will be difficult for the heart to navigate. We are here for support and I hope you will not…"
"Christmas has never been the same for me either. The first one, 3 months after his passing we had a terrible ice storm and my home was without power for 5 days and utilities for 10 (cable,internet,phone). I couch surfed at my kids homes until…"
"Dear Riet, the first 2 years are most difficult because grief is so deep for us and others can’t possibly understand unless they have experienced same. Even some family members still avoid me after 5 years and I assume they just…"
"Sept 1 was the 5th anniversary for me, widowed at 58. As my friends and family continue celebrating anniversaries I will never have, and birthdays my husband didn’t live to see the enormity of his loss deepens every year. I have…"
"Thanks NoLongerInBerlin for the “husband shelter” visual description, it made me laugh. I joined a widows group about 2 years ago; we didn’t discourage widower men from joining but there were only 2 who showed up to a couple…"
"Susan - I retired January 1st this year. My DH passed away 5 years ago this month. It was a huge decision and I thought about it for 2 years. It turned out to be the best decision for me, as like you my workplace was undergoing huge…"
"Wearing your wedding rings is strictly a personal choice. The 5th anniversary is coming up September 1st for me and I still wear mine. Everyone should do what is right for them. There is no time limit, no right or wrong. I know ladies who wore their…"
"Hi everyone. These posts remind me of my return to work after bereavement leave when my husband died 4.5 yrs ago. My third week back I was attending a retirement dinner for my boss, and while at the table in front of 7-8 others one of my…"
"Athena thanks for sharing your similar experience, i appreciate the effort it takes to relive our spouses last hours. I guess because we were together every day during the 14 months of his illness, and it was so intense to live through this…"
"Good morning from Toronto. The comments about guilt strike right to the heart; its been 4 years 8 months since my DH of 34 years passed away from AML leukaemia. He was a lovely man, kind and modest to his last hour. After 14 months of…"
"Hi Reit and fellow sister/brother widows. I attended grief counseling after losing my husband to cancer 4.5 years ago. One of the main suggestions was NOT to make any life-changing decisions in the first 2 years after a deep loss. It was…"
"Hi Laurel, so sorry for your loss. My husband passed away 4.5 years ago from acute leukaemia after a 14 month battle, so our paths are similar. We were happily together 35 years, I was 57 when he died. I realize now my life will never…"
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