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CarLady
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CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I agree with the comment about not being single, and I will never check that box.  That’s like saying 35 years with my DH never occurred!  I have been widowed for 5.5 years now and don’t expect to “get over it”.…"
Mar 26
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I watched Hereafter, a movie by Clint Eastwood. He did years of research into near-death experiences before making this movie. It gave me hope that my DH is watching from Heaven, that he must be happy there and that he wants all of us left behind to…"
Mar 13
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear Tekwriter,  it has been 5-1/2 years since losing my DH. My sister and one sister-in-law did not show up for either my husbands funeral or the visitation prior.  Several long-time friends also did not pay respects or even contact me…"
Feb 10
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"My dear Riet, I also find it difficult to attend some anniversary and birthday celebrations knowing Bill can have no more birthdays and we will have no more anniversaries.  I try to attend but I find it depends on the demeanour of the hosts…"
Jan 22
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"The start of a new year is depressing for me. Another long year to get through without my dear husband. And, Canadian winter January through March is cold, dark, snowy, icy and bleak.  Christmas was easier this time, our 6th without him,…"
Jan 22
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Today is my birthday.  Bill always made sure there was cake and a nice meal, and the kids were here. I’m alone today because I’ve come down with a cold & cough and don’t want anyone else to get it 12 days before Christmas.…"
Dec 13, 2018
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Congratulations Shelley on using your critical thinking skills to assess your current situation, feelings and determine your future needs both physically and emotionally. It’s great that you had a friend to discuss this with and act as a…"
Dec 10, 2018
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear Shelley, I agree it would be best to hold off on making big decisions a while longer.  Grief counseling advised to wait 2 years if possible.  It’s been 5 years since my DH passed, the first 2 were a complete fog and I found…"
Dec 7, 2018
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear chef John, thank you for your poignant, thoughtful and heartfelt post. I’m at the 5 yr mark and your words ring all the notes of our “ever-after” journey so accurately.  I do hope those in the early days/months find…"
Nov 13, 2018
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"To Riet, TP, Allan, LP and others facing the first holiday season without your partner/spouse - there’s no doubt the next couple of months will be difficult for the heart to navigate.  We are here for support and I hope you will not…"
Nov 2, 2018
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Christmas has never been the same for me either.  The first one, 3 months after his passing we had a terrible ice storm and my home was without power for 5 days and utilities for 10 (cable,internet,phone). I couch surfed at my kids homes until…"
Oct 30, 2018
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear Riet, the first 2 years are most difficult because grief is so deep for us and others can’t possibly understand unless they have experienced same.  Even some family members still avoid me after 5 years and I assume they just…"
Oct 27, 2018
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2013
"Sept 1 was the 5th anniversary for me, widowed at 58.  As my friends and family continue celebrating anniversaries I will never have, and birthdays my husband didn’t live to see the enormity of his loss deepens every year.  I have…"
Oct 26, 2018
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thanks NoLongerInBerlin for the “husband shelter” visual description, it made me laugh.  I joined a widows group about 2 years ago; we didn’t discourage widower men from joining but there were only 2 who showed up to a couple…"
Oct 20, 2018
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Susan - I retired January 1st this year. My DH passed away 5 years ago this month.  It was a huge decision and I thought about it for 2 years.  It turned out to be the best decision for me, as like you my workplace was undergoing huge…"
Sep 12, 2018
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Wearing your wedding rings is strictly a personal choice. The 5th anniversary is coming up September 1st for me and I still wear mine. Everyone should do what is right for them. There is no time limit, no right or wrong. I know ladies who wore their…"
Aug 16, 2018

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At 4:57pm on May 11, 2015, longwalks said…

Looks like we both lost our husbands to leukemia (AML). We were married 33 years. I look forward to getting to know you better. Take care…..peace….

At 6:38pm on May 1, 2015, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, CarLady. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

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