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CarLady
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CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"My husband Bill passed September 2013; our daughter married July 2016 and wore a locket with his picture in it. Her brother and I walked her down the aisle and we all felt Bill’s presence that day. It was the first truly happy occasion after…"
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Jo left a comment for CarLady
"Hello, I am writing to let you know that I was recently remarried. On June 22, 2019, I married my childhood crush. I have been absent from this site for a while because of medical reasons. I am now healthier, happier, and full of joy and I sincerely…"
Jul 1
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Ultra - best wishes for a smooth flight and good trip . house - I’m in the house my DH and I bought on our first wedding anniversary 39 years ago.  It was his happy place and I’m staying for now. It’s good and bad, seeing him…"
Jun 22
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear Susan; I’m sending hugs and warm wishes from Toronto Canada.  Anniversaries are tough enough but surely amplified by illness.  Please spend today caring for yourself to recover from pneumonia as quickly as possible.  I hope…"
Jun 13
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I’m at 5 years and 9 months.  My husband and I took only 2 overseas trips before he became ill because we were waiting for retirement together with no time/work constraints.  It never happened and I have lost the urge to travel. I…"
Jun 11
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear Melissa, thanks for your sweet comments, this is my safe place too. And John, when we’ve lost our “one and only” true love we feel the loss forever. Not to say we haven’t built new roads but nothing will ever be the same…"
May 23
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear Wid-sisters and brothers:  for me, the gift of this site/forum is the ability to share experiences of my life as a widow of 5.5 years without having to filter most of my utterances.  For those of us widowed in our mid 50’s,…"
May 23
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Ultra2015 - I understand the vehicle connection so well.  I bought my DH a Toyota RAV4 (I worked for Toyota) about a year before he became ill with AML leukaemia. He loved that vehicle so much. When he was ill I drove him almost daily to…"
May 17
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Tess, your mention of the freezer hit home with me.  Last week at my daughter’s encouragement I cleaned out and unplugged the small chest freezer Bill and I bought when our kids were small and we needed it.  I don’t need it now…"
May 4
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Ron, it was wine and pizza for me for 5 years and I gained 10 lbs each year. My husband was the main chef at home and I couldn’t face meal planning without him. Only now do I have the focus and energy to try to revive this person I no longer…"
May 3
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I agree with the comment about not being single, and I will never check that box.  That’s like saying 35 years with my DH never occurred!  I have been widowed for 5.5 years now and don’t expect to “get over it”.…"
Mar 26
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I watched Hereafter, a movie by Clint Eastwood. He did years of research into near-death experiences before making this movie. It gave me hope that my DH is watching from Heaven, that he must be happy there and that he wants all of us left behind to…"
Mar 13
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dear Tekwriter,  it has been 5-1/2 years since losing my DH. My sister and one sister-in-law did not show up for either my husbands funeral or the visitation prior.  Several long-time friends also did not pay respects or even contact me…"
Feb 10
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"My dear Riet, I also find it difficult to attend some anniversary and birthday celebrations knowing Bill can have no more birthdays and we will have no more anniversaries.  I try to attend but I find it depends on the demeanour of the hosts…"
Jan 22
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"The start of a new year is depressing for me. Another long year to get through without my dear husband. And, Canadian winter January through March is cold, dark, snowy, icy and bleak.  Christmas was easier this time, our 6th without him,…"
Jan 22
CarLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Today is my birthday.  Bill always made sure there was cake and a nice meal, and the kids were here. I’m alone today because I’ve come down with a cold & cough and don’t want anyone else to get it 12 days before Christmas.…"
Dec 13, 2018

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At 4:17am on July 1, 2019, Jo said…

Hello, I am writing to let you know that I was recently remarried. On June 22, 2019, I married my childhood crush. I have been absent from this site for a while because of medical reasons. I am now healthier, happier, and full of joy and I sincerely wish everyone here well as they embark on different adventures.

Jo.

At 4:57pm on May 11, 2015, longwalks said…

Looks like we both lost our husbands to leukemia (AML). We were married 33 years. I look forward to getting to know you better. Take care…..peace….

At 6:38pm on May 1, 2015, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, CarLady. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

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