"Thanks NoLongerInBerlin for the “husband shelter” visual description, it made me laugh. I joined a widows group about 2 years ago; we didn’t discourage widower men from joining but there were only 2 who showed up to a couple…"
"Susan - I retired January 1st this year. My DH passed away 5 years ago this month. It was a huge decision and I thought about it for 2 years. It turned out to be the best decision for me, as like you my workplace was undergoing huge…"
"Wearing your wedding rings is strictly a personal choice. The 5th anniversary is coming up September 1st for me and I still wear mine. Everyone should do what is right for them. There is no time limit, no right or wrong. I know ladies who wore their…"
"Hi everyone. These posts remind me of my return to work after bereavement leave when my husband died 4.5 yrs ago. My third week back I was attending a retirement dinner for my boss, and while at the table in front of 7-8 others one of my…"
"Athena thanks for sharing your similar experience, i appreciate the effort it takes to relive our spouses last hours. I guess because we were together every day during the 14 months of his illness, and it was so intense to live through this…"
"Good morning from Toronto. The comments about guilt strike right to the heart; its been 4 years 8 months since my DH of 34 years passed away from AML leukaemia. He was a lovely man, kind and modest to his last hour. After 14 months of…"
"Hi Reit and fellow sister/brother widows. I attended grief counseling after losing my husband to cancer 4.5 years ago. One of the main suggestions was NOT to make any life-changing decisions in the first 2 years after a deep loss. It was…"
"Hi Laurel, so sorry for your loss. My husband passed away 4.5 years ago from acute leukaemia after a 14 month battle, so our paths are similar. We were happily together 35 years, I was 57 when he died. I realize now my life will never…"
"Thanks Don for the update. I’ve been thinking about you and wondering how you are - as I’m sure the community has. One day at a time is the only way to move forward but it is not easy traveling this rocky road none of us ever…"
"Hi Don. I’m so sorry for your loss. Please don’t put pressure or expectations on yourself at this early stage of grief. This group understands where you are. If you are employed I hope it is possible for you to take an extended…"
"Hi Lev and NancyD - I’m also in that stable wondering if I can find a horse to ride after the old barn burned to the ground. It may be that we need to find a new ride rather than expecting to pick up where we left off at some point in…"
"Hi booktime Susan and wid-sisters and brothers
This was my 5th Christmas widowed; I hosted dinner for my children, spouses and in laws. It was lovely. A few days later we visited my late husbands family, which went ok considering…"
"My 4 year anniversary of widowhood was September 1st. I agree with NoLongerInBergenJC that I am in a better place mentally now. I am planning to retire from my 20-year career at the end of this year - just handed in my notice…"
Welcome to Widville, CarLady. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
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