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Carol in Calif
  • 71, Female
  • Sunnyvale, CA
  • United States
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Carol in Calif commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2010
"Thank you Corlene. I can't tell you how meaningful your post was been to me. Marshall passed away 4 years this month and all the sadness comes back.  Reading your story has helped.  God bless you"
Aug 15, 2014
Carol in Calif commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2010
"That's beautiful Cynthia.... Thanks for sharing"
Sep 26, 2013
Carol in Calif commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2010
"You have done a courageous thing by moving to a new town. I hope it works out great for you. I"m sure it will. I thought that I'd made a big turn at year 2 and things were better but they aren't.  I'm still struggling and I…"
Aug 17, 2013
Carol in Calif commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2010
"I am working and I meet with different friends but it just seems like I'm not in the moment. I'm waiting for the next thing to happen. Nothing is really satisfying, Not to say I'm sad or depressed all the time. I do things but…"
Aug 15, 2013
Carol in Calif commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2010
"I feel the same Phaedra. Mine is coming up soon and I don't want to put anything on FB but I feel like I should. Some people will remember anyway.  The dull feelings are the same for me. I feel like I'm just passing time and not…"
Aug 15, 2013
Carol in Calif commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2010
"You are an inspiration Dianne.  It's hard to believe how far we have come."
Mar 8, 2013
Carol in Calif commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2010
"I walked through the Mall yesterday.  It was nothing but Christmas music and couples or people with friends or kids.  Nobody just alone like me. It does suck."
Dec 4, 2012
Carol in Calif commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2010
"It's just not right to die before your kids. God bless"
Oct 1, 2012
Carol in Calif commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2010
"I keep looking for a "sign". I was hoping it would be seeing his face at night while I sleep. I saw my Dad one time when times were rough. He just looked at me, smiling and i knew things would be ok. I guess I'm looking for that now."
Sep 30, 2012
Carol in Calif commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2010
"I can relate to this ... especially 'Feelinglonely'.  I'm trying so hard but it seems like I just get worse.  There is so much unknown in my life (lost my job and can't seem to find another one, wonder if I'll run…"
Sep 30, 2012
Carol in Calif commented on crying's event missing you forever
"Praying for you.  This is so difficult ... 2 years and I'm still crying like a baby.  "
Aug 17, 2012
Carol in Calif commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2010
"It's so amazing, and helpful, to hear that everyone has a different experience with all these subjects: wearing your ring, wearing his ring, what to say/do when someone assumes your married, what to say/do when someone "assumes"…"
Apr 30, 2012
Carol in Calif commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2010
"You guys are the best for responding so personally to this. There's no one else who understands. So, I had this split second when everything went through my mind. I knew this person wasn't someone who would ever know if I lied or not but…"
Apr 28, 2012
Carol in Calif commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2010
"I knew this would happen eventually. Someone asked me (because I still wear my wedding ring)  "what does your husband do for a living". I went into a minor panic. Do I lie and tell them what he use to do? Do I tell them he'd gone…"
Apr 28, 2012
Susan B left a comment for Carol in Calif
"Hi Carole--how are you feeling today? sending you some sunshine and a sweet birdy-song. I may be up you way in the next month--would you be interested in meeting for lunch or coffee? hugs, susan b"
Jan 21, 2012
Carol in Calif and ceilya are now friends
Jan 17, 2012

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At 10:21am on January 21, 2012, Susan B said…

Hi Carole--how are you feeling today? sending you some sunshine and a sweet birdy-song. I may be up you way in the next month--would you be interested in meeting for lunch or coffee? hugs, susan b

At 7:15pm on August 25, 2011, Susan B said…

Hi Carol, just stopping by to say hello, I know how discouraging it can be to have a rough patch. Hitting anniversaries can be scary. Didn't understand the whole anniversary thing myself till my husband died. Now I now it's natural. We do the best we can. Sending hugs to you!

~susan

At 6:22pm on April 23, 2011,
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Thinking of you on your birthday. Hope you can remember many good years together even as you look ahead to the next ones without him. HUGS!!
At 3:17pm on April 23, 2011, Boo said…
wishing you some smiles and laughter amongst your tears today x
At 10:17pm on April 22, 2011, Dianne in Nevada said…
I didn't realize your birthday was coming up, Carol. Hope it's a very special day for you. You have a lot on your plate in the next few days. So wish I was on the east coast so I could join you at Arlington. I'll be thinking of you.
At 8:16pm on March 10, 2011, Dianne in Nevada said…
You left group suddenly tonight. Is everything ok?
At 10:38am on March 4, 2011, Dianne in Nevada said…
Hi Carol.  Just stopping by to let you know I'm thinking of you.
At 10:33am on February 3, 2011, gcortez55 said…
i know. that hasn't happened to me since 2 weeks ago. at least i stopped collapsing to the floor out of grief. my meds keep that kind of reaction at bay. you can do this. do we really have a choice? looking at all these other widows on this forum who have made it through to a life again makes me know that we will make it through this, even if i go kicking and screaming.
At 10:06am on February 3, 2011, gcortez55 said…
Hi carol, i'm gayle. i also lost my husband last august. i'm also unmotivated but feeling a lot less lost. that doesn't mean that i know where i am going, it just means that i know where i am again- the fog of grief is lifting for me. I'm glad you are here. :)
 
 
 

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