"You have done a courageous thing by moving to a new town. I hope it works out great for you. I"m sure it will. I thought that I'd made a big turn at year 2 and things were better but they aren't. I'm still struggling and I…"
"I am working and I meet with different friends but it just seems like I'm not in the moment. I'm waiting for the next thing to happen. Nothing is really satisfying, Not to say I'm sad or depressed all the time. I do things but…"
"I feel the same Phaedra. Mine is coming up soon and I don't want to put anything on FB but I feel like I should. Some people will remember anyway. The dull feelings are the same for me. I feel like I'm just passing time and not…"
"I keep looking for a "sign". I was hoping it would be seeing his face at night while I sleep. I saw my Dad one time when times were rough. He just looked at me, smiling and i knew things would be ok. I guess I'm looking for that now."
"I can relate to this ... especially 'Feelinglonely'. I'm trying so hard but it seems like I just get worse. There is so much unknown in my life (lost my job and can't seem to find another one, wonder if I'll run…"
"It's so amazing, and helpful, to hear that everyone has a different experience with all these subjects: wearing your ring, wearing his ring, what to say/do when someone assumes your married, what to say/do when someone "assumes"…"
"You guys are the best for responding so personally to this. There's no one else who understands.
So, I had this split second when everything went through my mind. I knew this person wasn't someone who would ever know if I lied or not but…"
"I knew this would happen eventually. Someone asked me (because I still wear my wedding ring) "what does your husband do for a living". I went into a minor panic. Do I lie and tell them what he use to do? Do I tell them he'd gone…"
Hi Carol, just stopping by to say hello, I know how discouraging it can be to have a rough patch. Hitting anniversaries can be scary. Didn't understand the whole anniversary thing myself till my husband died. Now I now it's natural. We do the best we can. Sending hugs to you!
I didn't realize your birthday was coming up, Carol. Hope it's a very special day for you. You have a lot on your plate in the next few days. So wish I was on the east coast so I could join you at Arlington. I'll be thinking of you.
i know. that hasn't happened to me since 2 weeks ago. at least i stopped collapsing to the floor out of grief. my meds keep that kind of reaction at bay. you can do this. do we really have a choice? looking at all these other widows on this forum who have made it through to a life again makes me know that we will make it through this, even if i go kicking and screaming.
Hi carol, i'm gayle. i also lost my husband last august. i'm also unmotivated but feeling a lot less lost. that doesn't mean that i know where i am going, it just means that i know where i am again- the fog of grief is lifting for me. I'm glad you are here. :)