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Come to the Kutztown Folk Festival

Started this discussion. Last reply by Cee Jun 10, 2016. 3 Replies

I'm wondering if anyone nearby would like to join us at the festival. It is held at the fairgrounds near the University in Kutztown, PA. It is open from Sat - june 28 to Sat July 6. It is open from…Continue


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Cee commented on only1sue's blog post Seven second hand roses
"You are an inspiration.  Thank you for expressing how many of us feel, and giving us strength to move through this life we have been given."
May 19
Cee replied to Sissy's discussion I Had Another " First " Today.
"You have expressed my feelings exactly - what do I do now.  There are some medical tests I should have and some dental work to be done. But what do you do when you have no one to be a driver for you- and you are right they don't want to…"
May 12
Cee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Hope, I picked out a couple of words in your message that interested me - "experimenting with life" and finding a "tribe"  both are food for thought.  Jan your "catching a butterfly...." is a good description…"
Jan 24
Cee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"HUGS to those who have so recently joined us. I am so sorry for your losses and wish there were a magic wand that could help us with this new life that has been pushed upon us."
Jan 24
Cee replied to Doug02122014's discussion What to do with spouses personal effects and when?
"Good idea and I have one my son gave me a couple of years ago - I'll have to see if I can find it."
Jan 24
Cee replied to Doug02122014's discussion What to do with spouses personal effects and when?
"Well, we are in a new year another chance to deal with making our lives better. I look forward to doing some more sorting and cleaning. Things that I feel someone else can make use of I plan to give to them. Things in bad shape and of no use to…"
Jan 23
Cee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"I love hearing reports of people being active and finding new things to do. I love positive attitudes. I seem to have lost mine. I would like to follow the "you are here for a reason" but I wish I could find that reason. I miss my special…"
Jan 23
Cee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"((HUGS))  I hope each of us as an individual can find something we need in this site.  For some of us in the early stages - we need the support to just get through the day. Others need to see that we still have a life to live and it helps…"
Jan 18
Cee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"I am enjoying the stories about DNA testing and family researching. As I mentioned I really enjoy this activity and have connected with several "cousins" even one In France that I would love to go meet in person.  The majority of…"
Jan 15
Cee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"I love your stories about the roses.  I will share one with you that I hope will make you laugh. This was on my birthday.  I picked a friend up from the subway station and as she into the car she giggled and gave me this "long rose…"
Jan 15
Cee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Faolan, I am so happy for you that you connected with some relatives and ancestors. It is so exciting when that happens. I love genealogy research and it has been my go to activity when I need a break from real life.   I also hope the…"
Jan 14
Cee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Ceilya, nice that you do come back to visit. I too spend a lot of time with the tv on. usually just for background noise. I just made it through another holiday without my Jim and miss him even more. I try to move on but can't find…"
Jan 10
Cee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"This is my 6th holiday season alone also and I am really not any better at spending it alone. Yet I do not want to spend it with other happy people - especially couples. So it will be me, myself and I and a tv dinner maybe a glass of wine at…"
Dec 31, 2016
Cee replied to Doug02122014's discussion What to do with spouses personal effects and when?
"We are all dealing with this transition in our own ways, yet the ways are similar. And it isn't easy.  I find I have been going in "spurts". Today I was looking at some sweatshirts and pants I have been wearing and realized they…"
Dec 20, 2016
Cee replied to Rose481's discussion Am finding that the more I am alone...
"This is the 6th Christmas without the love of my live and I feel like I have been in a coma most of that time and have been running on remote control just going through the motions.  I loved my time with him and we did almost everything…"
Dec 12, 2016
Cee replied to Golferths111's discussion Learning to cope.
"Cloudwatcher.  You are on my decorating wave length this year. I plan to put a wreath up on the front door so the house looks lived in and not deserted. I also put some solar lights on a little tree off the front patio. I like the light…"
Dec 12, 2016

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Some things don't change

Posted on January 27, 2014 at 7:49am 5 Comments

'I just reread at my blog post from July of 2012. and you know what? I feel exactly the same way now. '.

Missing him

Posted on July 18, 2012 at 6:00am 1 Comment

It doesn't need a special day
To bring you to my mind
For days without a thought of you
Are very hard to find

Isn't working

Posted on July 2, 2012 at 9:54am 17 Comments

Well, I thought this would be a good place to be able to meet others going through the same thing I am. It started out with a few welcomes etc, but guess I never really fit in and now I feel more alone then ever.  I'll stay on for a while. Just wish I was able to connect with people better. Maybe it is time just to pack everything in and go back to my small home town and get used to being alone.

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At 8:56am on June 9, 2015, Elaine said…

I mentioned that I have been reading anything and everything about being a widow and the grieving process, etc.,etc.  Well I have stumbled upon a rather refreshing book that I hesitated to read "because it addressed women who had been widowed in their prime, so to speak.  Basically from 30-50 years of age"  And here I am, much older.  But I downloaded it onto my Kindle anyway.  And what a treat it is.  It is called The Saturday Night Widows.  The writer, a widow herself, started this little group of 6 widowed women, with the goal of exploring new and different activities and ideas to help themselves reclaim their independence and their lives.   So, I thought, isn't that what we are all trying to do eventually?  I know I am.  But of course, true to my nature, I am trying to rush it along.  Learning it can't be done my way.  Well, this book is delightful as it introduces the idea that there can still be a lot of fun out there, regardless of my age.

At 8:47am on May 20, 2014, wildflower said…

Just read your post about giving away your husband's personal possessions and I can relate to where you are.  I'm not in that group to post since I lost my husband in 2013.  But you words were what I have been doing.  I recently started with the underwear and sock drawer and only cleared out the old and worn ones.  I also  bagged the worn shoes and tattered pants.  Gave a few shirts that were newer to a nephew.  And also I have a pile of t-shirts I'm considering making into a quilt.  Guess I'm finished for the present time.  Take care.


At 11:43am on February 13, 2014, Slick said…

And you my friend! 

At 7:56am on December 23, 2013, WhereNow? said…
Hi cee - thank you for the friend request. This is such a hard time of year. I haven't written on WV for ages because I find it makes me cry and I still cry all the time anyway. Yesterday was 11 months - I feel as empty as I ever have. The first Christmas without my beloved Phillip. How can I ever feel like celebrating???
At 4:29pm on December 16, 2013, barbaralynnann said…
Hi Cee, thanks for the hello! At least we all have something in common, not everyone
Can relate who hasn't been there. Again, thanks,
At 11:02am on December 4, 2013, Cat said…
Cee: I have been thinking about you. Hope the holidays will be peaceful and a blessing to you this year even though we will not be in the circumstances of our choosing. I will try to make the best of it with my family. They will understand if I don't fully engage in the usual activities. We have a pretty big snowstorm brewing here. The first one since Jim died. He always made me feel so secure in bad weather - being prepared for anything. I had snow tires put on the car this morning and felt pretty proud for getting it done and not sliding in the ditch on my way!
At 7:12pm on November 18, 2013, Cat said…
Thank you. I am new to this, but hope it will help to visit with others in my situation. My husband Jim died on July 27th. It will be 4 months the day before Thanksgiving. My heart is broken and I feel that I am just existing with no purpose right now. Everyone says time will help, and I hope they are right. We had a beautiful relationship and I wouldn't give up a day of it to stop the current pain. I just want some peace.
At 6:44pm on February 22, 2013, SpiritWalker said…

I have spent many hours in the Black Hills as I sought the essene of my native american heritage.  There is a part of me that remains there always....


At 2:14pm on January 24, 2013, Mford4 (Marlene) said…
I'm doing ok. I see u r in kutztown. I'm in new hope we don't like the cold either. I'm lucky here because I live in a 55 plus community and it has a club house. When I go stir crazy I go up to the library and talk to people when they come in. But this cold keeps me locked in
At 4:33pm on November 4, 2012, judy said…

Thank you Cee - was a very hard day - I know I made Justin proud of me - very drained right now - today is our 6th wedding anniversary.


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