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Come to the Kutztown Folk Festival

Started this discussion. Last reply by Cee Jun 10, 2016. 3 Replies

I'm wondering if anyone nearby would like to join us at the festival. It is held at the fairgrounds near the University in Kutztown, PA. It is open from Sat - june 28 to Sat July 6. It is open from…Continue


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Cee replied to Doug02122014's discussion What to do with spouses personal effects and when?
"You made me smile with the comment on screwdrivers. My son came and helped me cleaning out the garage and he couldn't believe all the duplicates- I could because Jim had a habit of putting everything he use for a repair in a pail or box and…"
Jul 12
Cee replied to Doug02122014's discussion What to do with spouses personal effects and when?
"I'm back to doing some more sorting, Now it is a lot of papers that were in file drawers and in files on shelves, and then photos that were stuck in all kinds of strange place. I noticed someone said make sure you go through everything because…"
Jul 12
Cee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"Wonder what it is that is causing a resurgence of the sadness at this point. Some days are almost impossible even when things are going ok. I am so sorry for those of you with major medical problems and no spouse to help you through. It looks like…"
Jul 12
Cee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"only1 Sue, how are you doing? I didn't see when you were going in for your surgery but hope all goes/went well. Hope to see you on soon."
Jul 10
Cee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"I was reading your posts on how Dr. treat us "ex youngsters" and realized how true it is and if you have put on weight - forget it. they treat you like -why are you taking up my time. My Dr. moved and I had to get a new one, I don't…"
Jul 10
Cee replied to JK (OK)'s discussion Having a hard time taking my wife off of accounts, etc...Is anyone else having trouble? Is it important?
"I also had a credit card that had both of our names on it but it seems he was the primary and his financial info was on it  - Strange that it only took them seven years to find out he died and I was the only one using it. When they called I had…"
Mar 9
Cee replied to Doug02122014's discussion What to do with spouses personal effects and when?
"Hi, Jim has been gone for 7 yrs and I still miss him.  About 2 years after he passed I saw a drive for winter clothing for a men's shelter and it hit me he would not have wanted someone to be freezing when a coat he wasn't using could…"
Mar 9
Cee replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Have you found art/creative outlets to help you heal?
"Haven't seen any posts here for a while but I have an update on my activities -  I am an all out crafter - show me a craft and I will try it :)  Most of the things I do on my own are more along the line of "scrap crafts' as…"
Mar 9
Cee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Laurajay, How are you feeling, hope everything is good now. Love trying different types of apples, - the one I missed out on was called the"townsend apple. named after an original apple tree on an ancestors farm, it was reported to be very good…"
Feb 24
Cee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"HUGS and Happy New Year from rainy Pennsylvania.  May the coming year be good to you."
Dec 31, 2018
Cee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"MERRY CHRISTMAS  and HUGS to those who celebrate. HUGS to others. May you all have a peaceful day."
Dec 25, 2018
Cee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"MERRY CHRISTMAS to those that celebrate it.  HUGS for the day to others. I wish you a peaceful day."
Dec 25, 2018
Cee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Noelene, I have noticed that also.  At times I feel it is a matter of out of sight out of mind.  I do have a couple of friends that will mention him and something he did, but not often.  It also is a problem that the people here are…"
Nov 29, 2018
Cee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"OKB - that was a different meal, it sounds good. -- I'm sure you removed all the calories from it. :) "
Nov 23, 2018
Cee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Bonnie, you definitely are not alone, we are all living the same lives.  I had dinner with three other people - non relative. It was nice to be with people but missed being with family - especially my special person.  I came home watched a…"
Nov 23, 2018
Cee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"FRANK - HUGS back to you. and I admire you for making the best of a bad situation. Always remember the good parts of each holiday."
Nov 23, 2018

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Some things don't change

Posted on January 27, 2014 at 7:49am 5 Comments

'I just reread at my blog post from July of 2012. and you know what? I feel exactly the same way now. '.

Missing him

Posted on July 18, 2012 at 6:00am 1 Comment

It doesn't need a special day
To bring you to my mind
For days without a thought of you
Are very hard to find

Isn't working

Posted on July 2, 2012 at 9:54am 17 Comments

Well, I thought this would be a good place to be able to meet others going through the same thing I am. It started out with a few welcomes etc, but guess I never really fit in and now I feel more alone then ever.  I'll stay on for a while. Just wish I was able to connect with people better. Maybe it is time just to pack everything in and go back to my small home town and get used to being alone.

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At 8:56am on June 9, 2015, Elaine said…

I mentioned that I have been reading anything and everything about being a widow and the grieving process, etc.,etc.  Well I have stumbled upon a rather refreshing book that I hesitated to read "because it addressed women who had been widowed in their prime, so to speak.  Basically from 30-50 years of age"  And here I am, much older.  But I downloaded it onto my Kindle anyway.  And what a treat it is.  It is called The Saturday Night Widows.  The writer, a widow herself, started this little group of 6 widowed women, with the goal of exploring new and different activities and ideas to help themselves reclaim their independence and their lives.   So, I thought, isn't that what we are all trying to do eventually?  I know I am.  But of course, true to my nature, I am trying to rush it along.  Learning it can't be done my way.  Well, this book is delightful as it introduces the idea that there can still be a lot of fun out there, regardless of my age.

At 8:47am on May 20, 2014, wildflower said…

Just read your post about giving away your husband's personal possessions and I can relate to where you are.  I'm not in that group to post since I lost my husband in 2013.  But you words were what I have been doing.  I recently started with the underwear and sock drawer and only cleared out the old and worn ones.  I also  bagged the worn shoes and tattered pants.  Gave a few shirts that were newer to a nephew.  And also I have a pile of t-shirts I'm considering making into a quilt.  Guess I'm finished for the present time.  Take care.


At 7:56am on December 23, 2013, WhereNow? said…
Hi cee - thank you for the friend request. This is such a hard time of year. I haven't written on WV for ages because I find it makes me cry and I still cry all the time anyway. Yesterday was 11 months - I feel as empty as I ever have. The first Christmas without my beloved Phillip. How can I ever feel like celebrating???
At 4:29pm on December 16, 2013, barbaralynnann said…
Hi Cee, thanks for the hello! At least we all have something in common, not everyone
Can relate who hasn't been there. Again, thanks,
At 11:02am on December 4, 2013, Cat said…
Cee: I have been thinking about you. Hope the holidays will be peaceful and a blessing to you this year even though we will not be in the circumstances of our choosing. I will try to make the best of it with my family. They will understand if I don't fully engage in the usual activities. We have a pretty big snowstorm brewing here. The first one since Jim died. He always made me feel so secure in bad weather - being prepared for anything. I had snow tires put on the car this morning and felt pretty proud for getting it done and not sliding in the ditch on my way!
At 7:12pm on November 18, 2013, Cat said…
Thank you. I am new to this, but hope it will help to visit with others in my situation. My husband Jim died on July 27th. It will be 4 months the day before Thanksgiving. My heart is broken and I feel that I am just existing with no purpose right now. Everyone says time will help, and I hope they are right. We had a beautiful relationship and I wouldn't give up a day of it to stop the current pain. I just want some peace.
At 6:44pm on February 22, 2013, SpiritWalker said…

I have spent many hours in the Black Hills as I sought the essene of my native american heritage.  There is a part of me that remains there always....


At 2:14pm on January 24, 2013, Mford4 (Marlene) said…
I'm doing ok. I see u r in kutztown. I'm in new hope we don't like the cold either. I'm lucky here because I live in a 55 plus community and it has a club house. When I go stir crazy I go up to the library and talk to people when they come in. But this cold keeps me locked in
At 4:33pm on November 4, 2012, judy said…

Thank you Cee - was a very hard day - I know I made Justin proud of me - very drained right now - today is our 6th wedding anniversary.

At 12:01pm on May 7, 2012, Suz said…

You bet, Dakota Gal!


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