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Clare commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 70s
"@Devinbendig79 I am so very sorry this has happened to you. When my husband died I had to wait for answers too. In my husband's instance it was aortic dissection. It was sudden too (I found him on the doorstep). I also had a three yr old and…"
Sep 3
Clare replied to Elizabeth's discussion Regrets in the group Suddenly Widowed
"My husband died from aortic dissection in 2017. He was 40 and my youngest was 3. My youngest is now about to turn 6 and all he wants for his birthday is his daddy back. I'm not very content in my new life. The PTSD from finding him and…"
May 1
Clare replied to Jill's discussion How old were you when your spouse died? How does your age affect your self-concept now that you're on your own?
"I was 38 and he was 40."
Dec 31, 2019
Clare replied to TeresaNY's discussion So Many Unanswered Questions in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi Teresa,In Australia the coroner gives you a code, so you can check in with them about the autopsy. My husband died of Aortic Dissection at 40. It took a long time to get the certificate but they did ring me when they were certain this was what it…"
Sep 21, 2019
AandC left a comment for Clare
"Sweet family pictures. Sweet memories. I look at my pictures every day and read text messages often. I'm newly widowed as of July 27 and it is still so raw. After reading many other blogs, it seems to always be a painful memory but learning to…"
Sep 8, 2019
Clare commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 70s
"SFbayI feel this way all the time. I was born in 79 and he was born in 76. He walked out the door and I went looking for him when he didn't come back. I found him gone (heart related) on my front door step. My youngest has the same thing wrong…"
May 16, 2019

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At 10:29am on September 8, 2019, AandC said…

Sweet family pictures. Sweet memories. I look at my pictures every day and read text messages often. I'm newly widowed as of July 27 and it is still so raw. After reading many other blogs, it seems to always be a painful memory but learning to live with the pain. 

At 6:13pm on July 17, 2018, jpurpleshoes said…

I'm new to this, and not sure how it works.  Is this where I send you a message?  Thank you for reaching out to me.  I could use a friend.  I've been so exhausted.  I feel like something is physically wrong with me.  Is this normal with grief?

At 4:58pm on January 21, 2018, Danielle said…

Hi Clare,

Just wanted to check in and see how things are going. I hope you've had some progress with the financial side of things. Just another incredibly stressful thing to deal with, isn't it? Any more thoughts on Ballarat? A change could be a blessing in disguise. I wasn't sure about moving back to Melbourne, until I got there and thought - nope - too many memories. Felt like I needed to start afresh and can't say I regret the move to Tassie. It really is stunning down here. Been kept busy with sorting out my new place, but I have a sneaking suspicion once I have time to stop then its all going to hit me anew. I have found a fellow widow down here and have met up for a chat with her. There really is nothing like having someone who 'gets it' to chat to. I hope you've found some support in Melbourne. There's no organised group down here so I'm liasing with First Light to try and get a group going.....will see how we go!

Anyway, thinking of you.


At 9:51pm on December 18, 2017, Danielle said…

Hey Clare,

Just a little note to say hello. Thinking of you.  I hope you have friends and family around you, this time of year is difficult. Hang in there.

I'm in Hobart now. Settling in to a new life. Yesterday was a hard day with lots of tears. They come and go, always surprising me! 

Anyway, I hope you find your way to WV every now and then. It really can be a lifesaver.


At 2:12pm on November 12, 2017, Danielle said…

Hi Clare,

I wanted to check in and see how you are doing. I'm sorry I've been away a while - I left the United States not long after our last conversation, so I've been dealing with jet lag and general 'moving country' stuff. 

I'm in Brisbane at the moment - gorgeous weather up here. How is Melbourne? I'm flying into Melbourne on Wednesday - Friday will be the 12month anniversay of Mike's death so his friends have organised a get-together. Ugh. I'm looking forward to seeing everyone but of course, it will also suck big time. 

I've been thinking about you, hoping you are being supported, and that you are getting through the days. 


At 8:08pm on November 4, 2017, Dianne in Nevada said…

Soaring Spirits International has partnered with First Light Widowed Association, an organization for widowed people in Australia, to provide a private forum for our Aussie widows to connect.  In addition to this online community, First Light hosts local catch ups throughout the country and is working with Soaring Spirits to bring Camp Widow to Australia in the future. 

Here's a link to the private group page here in the Village:

At 8:06pm on November 4, 2017, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Clare.  I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.

Be sure to check out the HOME page for the latest news.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.


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