"SFbayI feel this way all the time. I was born in 79 and he was born in 76. He walked out the door and I went looking for him when he didn't come back. I found him gone (heart related) on my front door step. My youngest has the same thing wrong…"
"My husband passed in September 2017 and things have only just started to calm down now. I also had a house to prepare for selling and I bought and renovated a home. I still have so much to sort through but I feel like he's here with me and that…"
"Widowed at 38 here. In 2017. I'm not interested in being with anyone else, well, ever, really, but interestingly people in my life spy on me and assume I'm seeing people (I'm not but I wish their butting into my life included…"
"Yes, it's so much easier having kids to love. Really? I have to pay people to look after my kids in order to actually be able to grieve. My eldest is special needs and my youngest is 4. For crying out loud!"
"I get the anger, alwayssmilemichele. I found my husband on my doorstep in September last year (aortic dissection, so sudden and unexpected). I'm so angry my youngest son is going to grow up not knowing him. I had to move. I know people say…"
"I feel like giving up a lot but for some reason I don't. The kids need me, so I guess they keep me going. I have two: 17 and 4. Both boys. The feeling itself is normal, I think. It's when I stop, let the house get messy, cancel plans,…"
"I'm new to this, and not sure how it works. Is this where I send you a message? Thank you for reaching out to me. I could use a friend. I've been so exhausted. I feel like something is physically wrong with…"
"I get the overwhelming feeling of house stuff, ForeverMourning. I'm currently renovating, which is so hard without that extra pair of hands. I pay a lot in childcare just to be able to get my days free, but having kids does give me purpose…"
"Sorry for your loss, Mike. At five months here and I'm doing the same thing. I have no idea when it stops. Maybe never. I have stopped the internet searches though. My mum is a nurse and her best advice was to stay clear of Google."
Just wanted to check in and see how things are going. I hope you've had some progress with the financial side of things. Just another incredibly stressful thing to deal with, isn't it? Any more thoughts on Ballarat? A change…"
Just a little note to say hello. Thinking of you. I hope you have friends and family around you, this time of year is difficult. Hang in there.
I'm in Hobart now. Settling in to a new life. Yesterday was a hard day with lots of…"
I wanted to check in and see how you are doing. I'm sorry I've been away a while - I left the United States not long after our last conversation, so I've been dealing with jet lag and general 'moving country'…"
I'm new to this, and not sure how it works. Is this where I send you a message? Thank you for reaching out to me. I could use a friend. I've been so exhausted. I feel like something is physically wrong with me. Is this normal with grief?
Just wanted to check in and see how things are going. I hope you've had some progress with the financial side of things. Just another incredibly stressful thing to deal with, isn't it? Any more thoughts on Ballarat? A change could be a blessing in disguise. I wasn't sure about moving back to Melbourne, until I got there and thought - nope - too many memories. Felt like I needed to start afresh and can't say I regret the move to Tassie. It really is stunning down here. Been kept busy with sorting out my new place, but I have a sneaking suspicion once I have time to stop then its all going to hit me anew. I have found a fellow widow down here and have met up for a chat with her. There really is nothing like having someone who 'gets it' to chat to. I hope you've found some support in Melbourne. There's no organised group down here so I'm liasing with First Light to try and get a group going.....will see how we go!
I wanted to check in and see how you are doing. I'm sorry I've been away a while - I left the United States not long after our last conversation, so I've been dealing with jet lag and general 'moving country' stuff.
I'm in Brisbane at the moment - gorgeous weather up here. How is Melbourne? I'm flying into Melbourne on Wednesday - Friday will be the 12month anniversay of Mike's death so his friends have organised a get-together. Ugh. I'm looking forward to seeing everyone but of course, it will also suck big time.
I've been thinking about you, hoping you are being supported, and that you are getting through the days.
Soaring Spirits International has partnered with First Light Widowed Association, an organization for widowed people in Australia, to provide a private forum for our Aussie widows to connect. In addition to this online community, First Light hosts local catch ups throughout the country and is working with Soaring Spirits to bring Camp Widow to Australia in the future.
Here's a link to the private group page here in the Village: