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Crabby
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KJPE replied to Crabby's discussion The 6-month mark in the group Suddenly Widowed
"@Crabby Dear Crabby, Thank you for your post.  Your experience is so much like mine.  Whenever I'm home alone I cry a lot.  I am also so aware now of how much Greg was a part of me.  Your thought - "I don't want…"
Feb 14
Roxi replied to Crabby's discussion The 6-month mark in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi crabby i lost my love almost one year ago and i'm still grievin' i'm still crying i'm still want him back...as you i'm feeling alone surrounded by people...and i'll hope to less this pain in my heart 'cos i feel…"
Feb 1
Rainy (Misty) replied to Crabby's discussion The 6-month mark in the group Suddenly Widowed
"@crabby   "When he died, he took a part of me with him that I will never get back. But that's okay, I don't want it back. I want him to have it forever. "That's one of the sweetest things I've read.  Hugs…"
Feb 1
Just.me replied to Crabby's discussion The 6-month mark in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Dear Crabby, your post really touched my heart today. I’ve been fortunate to share thoughts on this site for four years and all of you who post your thoughts and feelings have blessed my life in some tough moments. We’re here for you as…"
Feb 1
Crabby replied to Crabby's discussion The 6-month mark in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Thank you Tess. Yes, there is an absence that cannot be filled by anyone else. I can be surrounded by people but still feel totally alone."
Feb 1
Crabby replied to Crabby's discussion The 6-month mark in the group Suddenly Widowed
"I also have a hard time using the word "widow." It really brings home the devastation that hit my life 6 months ago. But sometimes when part of me is still in disbelief, I say it out loud - you are a widow, your husband died. Yes, this…"
Feb 1
sis replied to Crabby's discussion The 6-month mark in the group Suddenly Widowed
"I can totally identify with not thinking he was capable of dying. It will be a year for me in March and I look back with the same thoughts. We had discussed final preps, even had all the paper work done. I don't think either of us actually…"
Feb 1
Tess replied to Crabby's discussion The 6-month mark in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Crabby, your post brought me to tears. I am sorry that you need to have this unhappy mark that you just reached. It sounds as if you both grew up together. I feel that way about my husband too. It is hard when a part of who you are is gone. There is…"
Jan 31
Crabby added a discussion to the group Suddenly Widowed
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The 6-month mark

I hit the 6-month mark this past Tuesday. As expected, it was very sad and emotional for me. I took off from work Tuesday and Wednesday because I just could not face the world. My daughter did take me to lunch on Tuesday, which was a nice distraction, but as always, as soon as I returned home, the wave of sadness was back, and so were the tears. I did some painting in our living room on Wednesday, because sooner rather than later I will need to sell our home.  This may sound ridiculous, but it…See More
Jan 31
Polly replied to Crabby's discussion Other "Firsts" in the group Suddenly Widowed
"I married my late when I was almost 36, and he only lived another 6 1/2 years, so facing crises alone didn't feel unusual -- just so unfair.  I had already struggled through my 20s and half of my 30s alone and I finally had someone to…"
Jan 24
KJPE replied to Crabby's discussion Other "Firsts" in the group Suddenly Widowed
"I've already had a bunch of those firsts.  First time I went to our favorite movie theater, first time I saw his car in the parking lot & realized with a shock that I had driven it, 10 things in the house that have gone wrong that…"
Jan 23
Crabby added a discussion to the group Suddenly Widowed
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Other "Firsts"

Just some thoughts - I think we've all heard people say that the first year is the hardest. They tell us you have to get through all of the firsts - first holidays, first birthdays, first anniversaries, etc. But what about other firsts? First time someone in your family is seriously ill and you can't turn to him? First time your car breaks down? First time you get a flat tire? First time your dog is injured?  First time you hear something in the middle of the night and you're terrified? I am…See More
Jan 23
Crabby replied to KJPE's discussion He deserved so much more love in the group Suddenly Widowed
"I saw a saying once... “Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of…"
Jan 23
Crabby commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2018
"I feel the same way about Fridays. I used to love them as much as Don did, but now I just get this heavy feeling in my heart as I am on my way home from work. Don passed away suddenly 6 months ago.  During the warmer months we would cook out on…"
Jan 18
jlsrdh left a comment for Crabby
"I replied to you’re email. If you do not receive let me know julie"
Nov 8, 2018
jlsrdh replied to Crabby's discussion Random Thoughts on a Rough Weekend in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Hello crabby, I don’t know if on your page my reply is present, I certainly cannot find it now. I don’t always understand the workings of this site. I’m glad you slept last night. I hope you have watched the TED talks YouTube video…"
Nov 7, 2018

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At 4:44am on November 8, 2018, jlsrdh said…

I replied to you’re email. If you do not receive let me know

julie

At 7:04pm on November 2, 2018, Brucer said…

Hi Crabby,

I am very sorry for your loss.  I read your story on Suddenly Widowed and it is heartbreaking.  As time goes by, I hope you are able to focus on the love and joy you shared with your husband over the years.  Your grandchildren will provide a wonderful, happy place for your heart.  I know mine are for me.  I wish you all my best,

Bruce

At 8:16pm on September 14, 2018, Patience said…


Welcome to Widville, Crabby. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the "help" link at the top of the page.You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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