"I feel the same way about Fridays. I used to love them as much as Don did, but now I just get this heavy feeling in my heart as I am on my way home from work. Don passed away suddenly 6 months ago. During the warmer months we would cook out on…"
"Hello crabby, I don’t know if on your page my reply is present, I certainly cannot find it now. I don’t always understand the workings of this site. I’m glad you slept last night. I hope you have watched the TED talks YouTube video…"
My therapist told me the same thing - speak up when someone says something insensitive. I'm working on that. If only the things people say were that simple.
I also have issues with my father. I wasn't the one who told him that Don…"
"Hello Crabby, I know all to well the holding my tongue when someone says something. But you know what I stopped. I now reply with “you never ever say that to a widow. Some just do that strange look, others say I did not know that. What should…"
I too struggle with people who just don't understand the depth of the pain and the severity of the loss. One of them is my adult daughter. Immediately after Don died, she and her husband and my two granddaughters stayed with me for…"
"Hey Melissa, So much I could say but so tired after a long day at work. I too had a hard time eating, lost 26 lbs. Unfortunately, I've gained most of it back as I soothe myself with food. I love, love, love your description of…"
"Oh, Crabby. It's so hard, especially when we were blessed with husbands who pampered us and adored us the way ours did.
I lost thirty pounds in the three months after my husband died. I literally could not swallow food. I tried to tell…"
"Thank you Tess. I really hope that was him. I really do. I'm a natural born skeptic who believes there is a logical answer to everything, but I am trying hard to believe he is sending messages.
I mentioned earlier that he may be…"
"Hi Crabby. I am so very sorry that you lost your husband. It is so very hard when we lose our spouses suddenly - they are here one moment and gone the next. There is no preparation, no transition.
I don't have a lot of sage advice to give you,…"
"Crabby, my experience was very similar to yours, so I really do understand. I left for an errand at 9:45 am. He waved goodbye to me in garage. I came home at 10:20. I found him on our bathroom floor, also blue with his eyes open pupils fixed…"
I actually have the book by Megan Devine, and it has helped in that it lets me know I am not crazy and I am not losing my mind. What I am experiencing is normal in such a great loss. I think I have some PTSD issues due to the way it…"
"Crabby, I do understand what you are going through. My husband of 38 years unexpectedly died 10 weeks ago. No kids just always us. So
i hope some of the things I’ve tried can help. I eat mostly easy sandwiches. Sometimes just French bread and…"
"Crabby...so much of what you write reminds me of what I went through. I cried all the way to and from work each day in the car, during my 45 minute commute. I finally realized I could no longer listen to music on the radio when I…"
I am very sorry for your loss. I read your story on Suddenly Widowed and it is heartbreaking. As time goes by, I hope you are able to focus on the love and joy you shared with your husband over the years. Your grandchildren will provide a wonderful, happy place for your heart. I know mine are for me. I wish you all my best,
Welcome to Widville, Crabby. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here. Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the "help" link at the top of the page.You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.