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Crabby
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jlsrdh left a comment for Crabby
"I replied to you’re email. If you do not receive let me know julie"
Nov 8
jlsrdh replied to Crabby's discussion Random Thoughts on a Rough Weekend in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Hello crabby, I don’t know if on your page my reply is present, I certainly cannot find it now. I don’t always understand the workings of this site. I’m glad you slept last night. I hope you have watched the TED talks YouTube video…"
Nov 7
Crabby replied to Crabby's discussion Random Thoughts on a Rough Weekend in the group Suddenly Widowed
"jlsrdh, My therapist told me the same thing - speak up when someone says something insensitive. I'm working on that. If only the things people say were that simple. I also have issues with my father. I wasn't the one who told him that Don…"
Nov 7
jlsrdh replied to Crabby's discussion Random Thoughts on a Rough Weekend in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Hello Crabby, I know all to well the holding my tongue when someone says something. But you know what I stopped. I now reply with “you never ever say that to a widow. Some just do that strange look, others say I did not know that. What should…"
Nov 6
Melissa replied to Crabby's discussion Random Thoughts on a Rough Weekend in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Thank you, Shelley. I've discovered podcasts as well. They are a good alternative to music.  Take care. I wish you well."
Nov 6
Crabby replied to Crabby's discussion Random Thoughts on a Rough Weekend in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi jlsrdh, I too struggle with people who just don't understand the depth of the pain and the severity of the loss. One of them is my adult daughter. Immediately after Don died, she and her husband and my two granddaughters stayed with me for…"
Nov 6
shelley replied to Crabby's discussion Random Thoughts on a Rough Weekend in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Hey Melissa, So much I could say but so tired after a long day at work.  I too had a hard time eating, lost 26 lbs.  Unfortunately, I've gained most of it back as I soothe myself with food.  I love, love, love your description of…"
Nov 5
Melissa replied to Crabby's discussion Random Thoughts on a Rough Weekend in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Oh, Crabby. It's so hard, especially when we were blessed with husbands who pampered us and adored us the way ours did.  I lost thirty pounds in the three months after my husband died. I literally could not swallow food. I tried to tell…"
Nov 5
Crabby replied to Crabby's discussion Random Thoughts on a Rough Weekend in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Thank you Tess. I really hope that was him. I really do.  I'm a natural born skeptic who believes there is a logical answer to everything, but I am trying hard to believe he is sending messages. I mentioned earlier that he may be…"
Nov 5
Tess replied to Crabby's discussion Random Thoughts on a Rough Weekend in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi Crabby. I am so very sorry that you lost your husband. It is so very hard when we lose our spouses suddenly - they are here one moment and gone the next. There is no preparation, no transition. I don't have a lot of sage advice to give you,…"
Nov 5
shelley replied to Crabby's discussion Random Thoughts on a Rough Weekend in the group Suddenly Widowed
"I am so sorry, Crabby.  I also adored and was adored by my husband.  It's hard.  The widows and widowers on this web site that can help.   "
Nov 4
jlsrdh replied to Crabby's discussion Random Thoughts on a Rough Weekend in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Crabby, my experience was very similar to yours, so I really do understand. I left for an errand at 9:45 am. He waved goodbye to me in garage. I came home at 10:20. I found him on our bathroom floor, also blue with his eyes open  pupils fixed…"
Nov 4
Crabby replied to Crabby's discussion Random Thoughts on a Rough Weekend in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi jlsrdh, I actually have the book by Megan Devine, and it has helped in that it lets me know I am not crazy and I am not losing my mind. What I am experiencing is normal in such a great loss.  I think I have some PTSD issues due to the way it…"
Nov 4
jlsrdh replied to Crabby's discussion Random Thoughts on a Rough Weekend in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Crabby, I do understand what you are going through. My husband of 38 years unexpectedly died 10 weeks ago. No kids just always us. So i hope some of the things I’ve tried can help. I eat mostly easy sandwiches. Sometimes just French bread and…"
Nov 4
Gary'swife replied to Crabby's discussion Random Thoughts on a Rough Weekend in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Crabby...so much of what you write reminds me of what I went through.   I cried all the way to and from work each day in the car, during my 45 minute commute.  I finally realized I could no longer listen to music on the radio when I…"
Nov 4
Crabby added a discussion to the group Suddenly Widowed
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Random Thoughts on a Rough Weekend

Since my husband died 14 weeks ago, I now take 6 pills a day for anxiety and insomnia.  I still don't sleep.I hate eating alone.  I can't even figure out what to shop for or what to make. When I do figure out what to make, I sit at the table and cry while eating. Sometimes my t loss is so overwhelming, it makes me sick to my stomach, and I end up not eating anyway.I hate not having him to turn to for advice, or to show me how to do something, or where something is. Every time I think reality is…See More
Nov 4

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At 4:44am on November 8, 2018, jlsrdh said…

I replied to you’re email. If you do not receive let me know

julie

At 7:04pm on November 2, 2018, Brucer said…

Hi Crabby,

I am very sorry for your loss.  I read your story on Suddenly Widowed and it is heartbreaking.  As time goes by, I hope you are able to focus on the love and joy you shared with your husband over the years.  Your grandchildren will provide a wonderful, happy place for your heart.  I know mine are for me.  I wish you all my best,

Bruce

At 8:16pm on September 14, 2018, Patience said…


Welcome to Widville, Crabby. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the "help" link at the top of the page.You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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