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Crabby
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Pualili221 replied to Crabby's discussion Since He Died... in the group Suddenly Widowed
"My husband just passed away Feb. 21, 2019.  I resonate with everything you just mentioned. I hate that we are where we are at. "
Jun 23
sis replied to Crabby's discussion Since He Died... in the group Suddenly Widowed
"I, too, had a hard time with people telling me how"strong" I was, and how I would "get through it". Sometimes it would anger me, but then I remembered the words of an old song, "You don't know about lonely or how long…"
May 31
Roxi replied to Crabby's discussion Since He Died... in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Ciao today a friend of my loved one says to me "sei tosta"... In italian slang means " you're are very strong"...they're misunderstanding your calm and no talking about him as a solved problem...they don't see when…"
May 24
Kris63 replied to Crabby's discussion Since He Died... in the group Suddenly Widowed
"I lost my husband on June 2, 2018 and I too, keep hearing how strong I am. And, like you, I don’t feel strong either. I feel like I am on auto-pilot. I sometimes want to tell them how I cry almost daily. I want to tell them I scream silently…"
May 21
ForeverMourning replied to Crabby's discussion Since He Died... in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Crabby, I know exactly how you feel. Your post felt like I was reading my own words. I am constantly told I am so strong and I’m doing so well. But they don’t see all the tears and emotional struggles.  I am just not the type of…"
May 11
Curleyque replied to Crabby's discussion Since He Died... in the group Suddenly Widowed
"I'm so sorry for your loss. There's just no other way to say it - it's hard, and sometimes - it's even harder. I'm six years out now from my husband's death - and I promise you, it will get better. I don't remember…"
May 9
Crabby replied to Crabby's discussion Since He Died... in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Thank you Tess.  Yes, it is ironic - Don would have done the same. I wish I could be proud of myself, but I think that the reason I have to do all of this overshadows my ability to recognize the strides I have made."
May 9
pricytapestry replied to Crabby's discussion Since He Died... in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Hello Crabby, People thinking I was doing great and holding up so well didn't bother me so much at first, it will be 7 months for me this Saturday, and so many days the only way I could push through the logistics of legal, financial and other…"
May 9
Tess replied to Crabby's discussion Since He Died... in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi Crabby. I hate that crap too. I know they mean well, but others don't live in our skin day to day. I am so sorry for the things you had to negotiate since your husband's death. It would be enough to lose a spouse, but the logistics that…"
May 9
Crabby added a discussion to the group Suddenly Widowed
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Since He Died...

People are always telling me how strong I am.  I don't feel strong.  It's rare that a day goes by when I don't cry.  You could probably count on one hand how many days I haven't cried since July 29, 2018.  And the anxiety-ridden sleepless nights?  Too many to count.  Leaving work because I am having a grief burst?  Lots of times.  Calling out because I didn't sleep the night before, or had a dream about Don and woke up crying?  Also too many to count (Thank God for FMLA.)  How many…See More
May 8
Roxi replied to Crabby's discussion Old Mementos in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Ciao crabby when i discover something write by him i'm hitting by the great wave of pain...yes we're grieving 'cos we're loving so much...and we know now too much well what meaning love them and lose them...it's the time of…"
May 1
jlsrdh replied to Crabby's discussion Old Mementos in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Crabby, I can sense all the pain you are in and I totally understand. I’m at 8 months myself, and the disjointed reality of this awful “new” way of life is often most days horrible.  Cry all you want, he is worth every tear.…"
Apr 30
Gary'swife replied to Crabby's discussion Old Mementos in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Oh Crabby....I cried reading this.  You are not even past your first year and yet must pack up the house and move.  I am past 5 years and now making the 3rd pass at going through Gary's things.   This is my 2nd time, as I…"
Apr 30
Crabby added a discussion to the group Suddenly Widowed
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Old Mementos

Tonight I was going through boxes in the basement, trying to declutter some because I have to move.  Don died 9 months ago yesterday.  i went out to get pizza, and when I came home, I found him. He was gone.  So I have to sell my home, which I am hating every step of the way.  Going through the boxes, I found an old Valentine's Day card Don had given me when we first started dating at 16.  I had been looking for it since he died.  I knew I saved it somewhere, but couldn't find it. I pulled a…See More
Apr 30
Crabby commented on jlsrdh's blog post I MISS... YOU'RE SMILING FACE
"This is so touching JL. It brings tears to my eyes, because it also represents what we lost, and we lost so, so much. (((HUGS)))"
Apr 26

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At 4:44am on November 8, 2018, jlsrdh said…

I replied to you’re email. If you do not receive let me know

julie

At 7:04pm on November 2, 2018, Brucer said…

Hi Crabby,

I am very sorry for your loss.  I read your story on Suddenly Widowed and it is heartbreaking.  As time goes by, I hope you are able to focus on the love and joy you shared with your husband over the years.  Your grandchildren will provide a wonderful, happy place for your heart.  I know mine are for me.  I wish you all my best,

Bruce

At 8:16pm on September 14, 2018, Patience said…


Welcome to Widville, Crabby. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the "help" link at the top of the page.You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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