"I think you've chosen the right place to try and make a new life. If I could I would move back to Tassie tomorrow. And Hobart is really the best of both worlds as you have a great little city and all the beautiful day trips you could want.…"
"Hi Danielle,I'm sorry for not replying for so very long. I had my husband's birthday and two anniversaries to get through (on top of the Christmas and New Year's malarkey) and I must say I didn't handle any of it very well (ended…"
"Oops I hit the button before I had finished!
I also wanted to say that I found having something arranged for the day was a godsend. Don't leave yourself too much time alone with your thoughts. Mike's friends wanted to have a 'do'…"
"LadyLipstick, firstly, my heart goes out to you at this very difficult time. I very recently marked the 1st Anniversary of my husband Mike's passing - 17 November. Even writing it now, it still doesn't seem real. But, of course it is, and…"
"Hi Danielle, I thought maybe I should move this post to your wall. Not sure how all this works. I am so sorry about your husband. I have no idea how I'll cope when it gets near that one year mark. Anniversaries of any kind terrify me. My…"
I really am so sorry you are here. I am in a very similar situation to yourself, my husband Mike died at 39 years old on the 17th November last year, very suddenly. We had been married 11 years.
It is a horrendous time you are going…"
The balloons at the park sounds fantastic, and the plaque, what an amazing idea. I lost Mike in November last year - he was 39 - so this October will be his 40th, I have been starting to dread it but I love how you just got out there…"
Fantastic, thank you. I am SO glad I've booked the camp. October will be Mike's 40th birthday,, 17th November the 12month anniversary of his death - and I've just returned to my home country for the first time since he…"
Lovely to hear from you, sorry it has to be in these circumstances. Newcastle is a great spot in the world, I have a very good friend there.
Your message was a light in a rather miserable day, I was having a shocker of a time today…"
"Aaah! I missed it too, so glad I spotted this conversation. Will be off to the shops for a dress!
I feel so confused about how to feel about the Camp! I'm excited and then I remember what it's all about......ugh....."
I'm also a member of this little club. I'm 43 and Mike was 39 when he died last year. Hubby and I decided not to pursue having kids after it didn't happen naturally. No regrets, I have four gorgeous young nephews who I…"
"Me! I'll be flying in from Australia so am arriving a couple of days early to get rid of jet-lag :)
My husband and I had just moved to Pennsylvania last year when he passed away very suddenly. I've still got all our belongings in our…"
My hubby died in November last year and both my birthday and our wedding anniversary were in the following February. Ugh. I tried to ignore both of them. Kept very quiet about the wedding anniversary and told no one but my sister told…"
I hope you're doing okay, I know you posted this a little while ago but I wanted to add my voice to the 'Yes, its normal!' chorus. I too had those feelings, almost like I was at the very peak of a rollercoaster then the…"
"Miket, your post was heartbreaking and yet so beautifully, brutally honest. Keep crying (though it is exhausting!) and keep grieving at your own pace. No one can tell you how to do this, nor should they try. Please hang in there. As suddenly as…"
I think you've chosen the right place to try and make a new life. If I could I would move back to Tassie tomorrow. And Hobart is really the best of both worlds as you have a great little city and all the beautiful day trips you could want. I'm considering Ballarat at the moment. It's cheaper rent wise and I still have so much to pay for. I don't really know what's happening with the super stuff and I'm concerned people are going to come and take the car away etc. if I don't get my finances under control.
I'm sorry for not replying for so very long. I had my husband's birthday and two anniversaries to get through (on top of the Christmas and New Year's malarkey) and I must say I didn't handle any of it very well (ended up in the bathroom bawling on Christmas day, while his very large family ate lunch and whispered about me ... and don't even get me started on his birthday gathering). I hope your get together went a little better than mine, but I suspect the general pain would've been the same regardless. I don't think other people realise how hard these celebrations are when you've lost a husband.
In other news: I went home for five days, which was calming but also a lot of hard work handling the kids alongside the grief. My youngest had a ball though, and it was lovely to see him enjoying life again. He ran naked on Freers beach and even went down in the Gunns Plains caves. Oh to be three again!
I thought maybe I should move this post to your wall. Not sure how all this works. I am so sorry about your husband. I have no idea how I'll cope when it gets near that one year mark. Anniversaries of any kind terrify me. My thoughts are with you. xx
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