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Debz
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Debz replied to Crabby's discussion Grief, guilt, and regret in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi Littleblue,  I read a timely blog from KevinMD this morning, and I think it is worth a read for all of us who think we could have done more to recognize when our spouses were in…"
Oct 14
Debz replied to Crabby's discussion Grief, guilt, and regret in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi Crabby, My mum became a widow two days ago. My dad's story is similar to yours in that dad had a cardiac arrest at home on July 20.  My 80 yr old mother did CPR until the rescue squad arrived. My dad survived...with severe brain damage…"
Oct 13
Debz replied to Mary H's discussion Dating Again for those Born in the 60s in the group Born in the 60s
"Hi Diane,  Your date sounds like the first date I had with my husband. I was certain that I didn't want to see him again. We had a nice dinner, but no spark, no attraction, nothing. He asked me out again and I went, I didn't want to…"
May 30
Debz replied to Mary H's discussion Dating Again for those Born in the 60s in the group Born in the 60s
"Hi Mary, I tried Match two years after my husband's death. It didn't go so well. I joined again in January this year and my experience has been very similar to yours. Initially, I had a ton of scammers, who are easily recognizable once you…"
Mar 20
Debz replied to Mary H's discussion Dating Again for those Born in the 60s in the group Born in the 60s
"Hi,  I found my late husband on Match, back in the very beginning of Match. There wasn't any chemistry at first, but I kept seeing him every weekend and he just grew on me. We married a year after meeting. I have been back on Match…"
Mar 6
Debz replied to Mary H's discussion Dating Again for those Born in the 60s in the group Born in the 60s
"There may be hope then! I will be widowed four years in March. I haven't dated, I halfheartedly tried Match and eharmony. I met my hubby on Match years ago. All I can say it is not the same site as it was back in the day. My problem is…"
Jan 9
Debz replied to Mary H's discussion Dating Again for those Born in the 60s in the group Born in the 60s
"Another tip I learned form the show "Catfish" is to copy the photo image of the person, and then do an image search using Google image. Deb"
Mar 1, 2017
Debz replied to Mary H's discussion Dating Again for those Born in the 60s in the group Born in the 60s
"Elaine, I could have written your post. It is scary how similar your life is to mine. it will be three years next month. I was just telling someone today, I have no purpose in life. I sleep, work, and repeat. The thought of the next thirty years in…"
Feb 21, 2017
Debz commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"@gwamma, Doug, I moved from my home within weeks of my hubby's death. I couldn't stand to be in the house. I sold everything ( i regret that now) All I kept was the things,he gave me, cards, letters, presents, and the rest went. I had an…"
Jan 3, 2017
Debz commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"MickeysLove, I am 2 years and 6 months out. My journey has been somewhat as you describe.  I think it is important to remember that we all grieve in different ways and NONE of us will follow the exact same journey. There is no right or wrong…"
Oct 8, 2016
Debz commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"Hi Neita & Hope,  I have literally shut myself away for days at a time. The days seem to go fast, but then it feels like yesterday sounds familiar too. I just feel like I am waiting for something, and yet I have no idea what. Sometimes I…"
Aug 7, 2016
Debz commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"I haven't been on here for a long time. I thought I was doing ok, or at least trying to move on, whatever that means. This last couple of weeks have been really hard. I realize I have shut myself away, except to go to work. I have no friends,…"
Aug 5, 2016
Debz replied to Mary H's discussion Dating Again for those Born in the 60s in the group Born in the 60s
"Hi Robin, I am sorry you found this group first. There are two groups where you will find the support you need - one is widowed in 2015 ,and the other Widowed Suddenly. Both are probably more of what you need in terms of support. If you go to the…"
Jan 23, 2016
Debz replied to Mary H's discussion Dating Again for those Born in the 60s in the group Born in the 60s
"Hi Mary,  It is  interesting that your therapist is suggesting when you should begin dating. I thought we were the experts on what was right for us, and we should not pay attention to anyone who tried to put a time line on any part of the…"
Jan 22, 2016
Debz replied to Mary H's discussion Dating Again for those Born in the 60s in the group Born in the 60s
"It will be two years in March. I miss the companionship of having a husband a lot. I know I will never replace my hubby. But I also know that I think there could be someone else at some point.I tried Match for a few months. What I seem to find is…"
Jan 19, 2016
Debz replied to Hayley_A's discussion Where is everyone from?
"Hi Lynn, Also from he UK (Surrey) but live in the US now.  Deb"
Nov 24, 2015

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At 5:40pm on November 14, 2016, MickeysLove said…

Hi thank you for your kind comments and trying to stick up for me a while back.  I was then and still am now in a very vulnerable spot and I really need to learn to let things roll off of me and not react to negative comments.

Again, thank you

Sandi

At 4:09pm on April 6, 2014, Doug02122014 said…
Hi Debz. Sorry for your loss. Your in good company here. You're absolutely correct about the bad ride. I described caring for my wife's, long term illnesses, as a roller coaster ride in total darkness, never knowing when we were going to go up or fall over a cliff. Hang on/in there we're all going to make it!!!

Doug
At 6:38am on April 6, 2014, judy said…

Hi Deb,

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.

 

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