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Patience (Diane) said… Hi Diane!!
oh my goodness, we have so much in common... I too have a 26 year old house with my husband's signature all over it... other things too... my daughters live here with me, so can't sell yet... but when I'm ready, i will.. Diane, we are actually meeting Kelley Lynn and Janine and a few others in NYC this Saturday... I know it's Mother's day weekend, but Kelley has a show she's doing with her Adelphi Theater students.. so anyhow we will figure out a way to meet soon.. I'm actually going to CWW this year. can't believe it, but i feel I need to go to West this year ...
hugs, Diane
Thanks, Diane. Same to you!
Diane, the room is in my name - Liza Rupp (maybe under Elizabeth) and I'm staying with another WV'er Kshy. I'm sure we'll meet up at the pool. I'm driving down from PA (well from MD on Thurs - staying with friends in MD Weds night).
Hi DIane. I am planning on attending the meetup on Thursday afternoon. I hope to be there by around 5pm. Will you be there?
Liza

smallfish1 (Mariann) said… Good morning Diane. My husband had a history of heart disease. At age 49 he had by-pass surgery. However, had not had any problems (that he told me about) for 20 years. He was on his way to the grocery store to pick up meat for dinner and died of a heart attack in his vehicle at the end of our street.
I have been talking and texting with this man for almost 4 weeks now. We literally talk about 2 hours almost every day. He is a beekeeper...something I knew absolutely about and have learned much about over the last few weeks. He is from Maine but was in Florida with the bees when we started communicating. He is now in California where the bees are used to pollinate the almond crop. He owns the business with one or two others and they have a crew that loads, unloads the bees. Anyway, he expects to be back in Maine within the next two weeks. I am so nervous. Just got over the no sleeping because of the grief now I can't sleep because of the anticipation of meeting this man. Crazy!
How do you think you will go about meeting men? Can't remember where you live. The dating pool in my area is pretty limited so I did do the online thing. God, I hope it wasn't a mistake. I'll be the guinea pig and let you know how it works!
I hope so much you come to Camp Widow. I am so looking forward to meeting the many friends I have made here.
Take care...have a great day.

smallfish1 (Mariann) said… Diane, my daughter has asked if I would like to go out for dinner on Thursday (the 1 year anniversary). Not sure I want to be in public. May be get take out and just sit around and talk. Not sure what to do. Today is the 40th anniversary of the day we met. Shed a lot of tears. I'll be thinking of you every day this week and keeping you in my prayers.
Brucer said… Hi Diane,
I am very sorry for your loss. The reality of all this is just overwhelming at times. I hope you can find many moments of peace.
My wife and I lived in Mentor, OH most of our lives until May of 2010 when we moved to Albuquerque, NM. She passed on October 16, 2012 after a long battle with ovarian cancer. I sent you a friend request if that's OK.
blueskies said… Thank you for your kind support.

smallfish1 (Mariann) said… Thank goodness we don't have gardens (a very small one) but the house I now live in alone has been in my husband's family since the 1930's. It was a cottage that we converted into a year-round retirement home. My husband did almost all of the work himself. Although he was a retired from full time firefighting he still worked a couple days a week for a State fire training agency. He was looking forward to being fully retired in June and we were going to spend more time on the lake. I sold "his" boat and bought a new one. I thought looking out the window and seeing his boat tied to the dock day in and day out would be too painful. Perhaps it would have been more painful, but seeing a boat tied to the dock--covered day in and day out is still painful. No one to share any of this with. Can't conceive of selling "his" house--not sure I can handle the pain of staying.
Welcome Diane to the one group I wish none of us needed to belong to. But I'm so glad that you've joined us. Where ever you are in your journey of healing I know you will fit right in. This community and everyone in it has so much compassion, and wants nothing more then to help the next person that has to deal with this all consuming pain and loss. So no matter if it's someone to talk to, someone to listen while you vent or just to know someone cares you've come to the right place. We are always here if you need us....Lisa
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