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Donutmom4x
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  • Ellinwood, KS
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Please tell me it's not just me...

Started this discussion. Last reply by barbee Apr 28. 12 Replies

It has been 2 years, one month, and 3 days since my Husband was taken from this earth.  I still don't go a day without thinking about him.  Unfortunately, my own family has turned their backs on me…Continue

 

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barbee replied to Donutmom4x's discussion Please tell me it's not just me...
"My husband passed Feb 2, 2013. So you and I are a few days apart and half the world apart. I live in Washington state, where we just broke a 125 year plus record for amount of rain and number of days in a row of rain. I'm going on faith that…"
Apr 28
my roses replied to Donutmom4x's discussion Please tell me it's not just me...
"My Roses Donut mom  don't worry. I  Iost the love of my life  in January 2013  and I still think of him everyday. I look at his photo and see his lovely smile. The house has never been the same since.  He was loving and…"
Apr 27
Dianthus0625 replied to Donutmom4x's discussion Please tell me it's not just me...
"I'm so sorry you've had such a series of losses. I'm no expert but having been raised my a mother with a personality disorder I recognize the signs ythat your mother might have that distorted perception that comes with that. It's…"
Apr 24
Callie2 replied to Donutmom4x's discussion Please tell me it's not just me...
"Alone, your story and others here are quite sad. I am not real close to my family but we do stay in touch. My husband was one of five boys and now there are two left. The one that was closer calls me now and then and stops by Christmas but…"
Apr 22
Alone replied to Donutmom4x's discussion Please tell me it's not just me...
"Hello xx I'm sorry sorry for all you are going through. My husband never fitted in with his family and they made him feel so unwelcome. Since he died they have caused me so much grief with wanting to arrange the funeral etc and have tried to…"
Apr 22
SpringLight replied to Donutmom4x's discussion Please tell me it's not just me...
"To directly answer your question, I have two sisters who now view me as competition for the affections of men. The change in our relationship dynamic is dramatic. They have no concept of what it means to be widowed. My husband died two and a half…"
Apr 22
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Donutmom4x's discussion Please tell me it's not just me...
"(((HUGS))) First, be gentle & loving w/yourself ... Secondly, do not place blame on yourself. Not everything under the sun is your fault or responsibility ... Thirdly, its common for a widow to buy a new address/phone book ... Fourth, do not…"
Mar 27
Callie2 replied to Donutmom4x's discussion Please tell me it's not just me...
"I am sorry for your loss. Grieving is not easy and at times, it consumes us. It can make us feel angry and impatient. We can be anxious and emotional. We may feel the need to talk or we may feel more comfortable saying little or nothing. Its hard to…"
Mar 19
iluvmyrandr replied to Donutmom4x's discussion Please tell me it's not just me...
"It's unfathomable how a family that once "loved" you can turn on you when someone passes. I tell myself they are grieving too but they aren't. His kids have given him more attention in death than they ever did alive."
Mar 18
Kaci replied to Donutmom4x's discussion Please tell me it's not just me...
"I've had my ups and downs with my mother-in-law. Things are okay for now but I know it's not good for me to be around her too much. I want to have a decent relationship with her (and the rest of my in-laws because they are my…"
Mar 17
vintage56(barb) replied to Donutmom4x's discussion Please tell me it's not just me...
"Hi - I lost my Frank too, over 2 years ago. His sister has been great, we are closer than ever. His brother acted like I no longer exist. His kids (not mine) are great too for the most part. On my side I just have one sister and she is very…"
Mar 16
BabushkaD (Debbie) replied to Donutmom4x's discussion Please tell me it's not just me...
"My husband's mother decided to blame his death on me, and then tried to spread lies about me to poison the attitude of others towards me. She did not even come to his memorial service, but held something at her house that she did not invite me…"
Mar 16
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Please tell me it's not just me...

It has been 2 years, one month, and 3 days since my Husband was taken from this earth.  I still don't go a day without thinking about him.  Unfortunately, my own family has turned their backs on me and so I feel even more alone than ever.  My mother (Whom was my #2 person to talk to before Frank died) decided after watching me grieve for a year and a half, that she no longer wanted to be a part of my life.  She told everyone in the family that I was being this horrible person to her and she…See More
Mar 16
Donutmom4x replied to Young Widow's discussion How can I long for affection from a stranger so early on?!
"I want to say thank you for sharing this.  I was having these thoughts and feeling that I too felt so guilty about.  I knew I didn't want to be with anyone else but for a while, it seemed like all I thought about was being held by…"
Sep 25, 2015
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My husband and best friend died on February 13, 2015. 

My husband and I were married for 17 years and had known each other for 24 years total.  We have 3 children together at the age's of 23, 21, and 17.  I became a widow at the age of 43, which is way too young if you ask me and my husband was only 45 years old when he was taken from us. 

My husband died while driving a fuel truck.  It is very unclear on what exactly happened to cause the accident.  We just know that any health or vehicle complications were determined not to be the cause of it.  His semi ended up crashing into the back end of another type of semi (a sand/gravel truck) which then caused my husbands truck to explode on impact.  He was gone within seconds, while the driver in the other semi walked away with minor injuries. Needless to say, we do not have any closure.  We could not view him as he was burned beyond recognition and we did not get to say our good-byes. 

Life as I knew it died that day.  As all of you, I am trying to learn how to live again.  A minute does not go by that I don't think about him.  I miss him every second of every day.  Feelings I never knew existed have consumed me completely.  I feel lost and alone most of the time.  I am simply living day by day, moment by moment and trying to just muddle through it all.  Since coming to this site, I have found others like me and that has helped a lot.  I am honestly very grateful for this site.  There are so many people that care for me and are around me, but they don't truly understand and most the time, it shows.  I find myself needing others in my life that have gone through this kind of loss. 

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4th of July

Posted on July 10, 2015 at 1:26am 3 Comments

I knew the 4th of July would be a hard one to get through but I didn't know it would feel like this.  The 4th of July was my husbands favorite holiday.   He was like a little kid, setting off his fireworks.  Not to mention how he enjoyed BBQing all the food for everyone.  I decided that we would have one more big 4th of July in honer of him (he passed away February 13th, 2015).  We bought the night works that he always loved to light up, BBQed hamburgers and hot dogs, and invited all the…

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At 10:05pm on September 24, 2015, Aly_8 said…
Hi - My husband was on his way home from a work event. I was denied by workers comp/ His company lied and said it was voluntary...it was not. The company who had worked him more than 18hrs with no breaak are the ones to call and tell me I had no insurance....They did not even attend his memorial. They said they were going to raise money to help pay for his cremation and service. The did not. I hate Buffalo Wild Wings....no bones about it. (pardon the pun) I sent you a friend request....sorry I should go....will contact you later....I'm having an angry day....sorry if it carried over to my response.
At 3:07pm on June 8, 2015, wannabmartha said…

So sorry for the reason you’re here but glad that you’ve joined us. You’ll find insight, understanding and support here at Widowed Village. We’re traveling the same journey together some further down the road than others. Join a group when you’re ready to get better connected. Participate in a forum and/or chat anytime. If you have questions, feel free to ask. There is always someone around willing to help. Following is a link that you might find helpful as a new member.

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