"Sorry I have been so down lately, I am just so tired of not getting things done and always being behind, My Love always had my back and did things before I knew they needed...I don't think I will ever be able to do that,,,I have cryied all day…"
"Patience I think part of my problem is I was expecting some releif at the one year mark and it didn't happen. Everyone said the "first" are the worst, so far for me the "seconds" have been worse...I think the first…"
"Angjoy...I too had to learn to put gas in the car(you can even put in the nozzel and it will stay on its own...I really suck at washing the window though...I can't seem to get the streaks out...I also had never taken the car to the car wash or…"
"My animals too knew my husband was sick..the one would lay on his chest each night and then My husband would lift him up on the bed to sleep with us( he was too fat to jump and he had arthritis, the cat) When my husband went into the hospital…"
"My love passed 14 months ago...and I feel I have failed him and I have tried so hard to make him proud but I just had to go to the doctor today, I have been having terrible headaches and not sleeping...he said "to" take the sleeping pills…"
"amatxlatina don't worry you are fine, it is you are still in shock and a fog, you may not notice it now but down the road looking back you will wonder how you even functioned....it is "normal" for each of us, our own…"
"Frank thank you for your 'love story'...I sure wish mine had gone as well....I came to see my mother-in-law and my Love's two brothers and wives and his sister and husband...it was so hard to not have him here...I was strong most of…"
"My Love didn't want to be buried, I have his ashes and have them in different place, I took some to the 18th hole of the golf course where he played, on the farm where I greww up and want my ashes, I have a little heart that has a vile in…"
"I am going to go spend mothers day with my Love Mom and his sister and two brothers. They all live out of town and this will be the first I have seen them since my Loves service.....a little nervous...I have been and seen Mom a number of times but…"
"alwayshopeful I love that saying...I think some days Sayings are all that keeping me going...I am at 13 months and this is hell, there is no other word for it...I miss my Love so much we were 48yrs together we were and are "one"...this…"
"Frank, 1:38am, I to am having a rough night and can't get to sleep also, went into crying for no reason all day, thing is I need to be up and productive today, ya right...hugs and soft days for all of us
"alwayshopeful..my husband had lung and liver cancer...from when they found it till he passed was only 5 months..I had surgery( he said wouldn't do his chemo if I postponed it) but I was on pain meds most of the time and looking back it was…"
"MissingRKK, you said that your anniversary means all that you have to give up...why, you don't have anything you need to get rid of feeling wise....our Love is a part of us and you never have to give that up...I was married for 45 yrs and I…"
Dusty, just wanted to say hello, I haven't been on WV that much lately, but your "Note to self", is one that I have seen pop up in your comments many times since I joined WV, and it always brings me comfort when I see it. Congratulations on your award...and hugs.
Dusty, tomorrow will be a year since my husband of 33 years died from an accident at work. I plan to go out to dinner with my two children and their spouses. Not sure how that will go....but we'll go somewhere Scott loved. I miss him terribly.
Dusty--I read your post about your billing fiasco. I was still trying to rectify all the bills one year after my husband passed. I even got a statement from the oncology office billing me for an office visit for a day he was in the hospital. Every time I tried dealing with it and had to explain my husband was gone---I cried. It is just so hard. Eventually it was all resolved, what frustrated me was the lack of compassion by drs. offices and their billing services.
Ted died Feb 25, so it's been 7 months for me. At the moment, I'm not in as much of a fog. But I did spend all day in bed yesterday. I couldn't get warm. Solved that problem this morning. I built a fire in the woodstove. Just a small one to take off the chill. It's suppose to get up to 85 this afternoon.
Hello Dusty. I am so sorry for your loss. I never really know what to say but welcome to this site. It is so very hard for people who have not lost their significant other to understand what your going through. People here all have lost their love and understand. I lost my husband April 8. I found this site in May. All I can say is there are a lot of people here who help me. For that I will be eternally grateful. When you are ready, read a blog, write a blog or join in the chat. If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me. I will do my best to help you. I will send you a friend request, if you wish you can accept.
Welcome Dusty: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It"
So sorry for the reason you’re here but glad that you’ve joined us. You’ll find insight, understanding and support here at Widowed Village. We’re traveling the same journey together some further down the road than others. Join a group when you’re ready to get better connected. Participate in a forum and/or chat anytime. If you have questions, feel free to ask. There is always someone around willing to help.