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Etchtech
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  • Mesa, AZ
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Hiding behind humor....at least I hope it’s humorous.....

Started this discussion. Last reply by Dee1960 Oct 2, 2019. 6 Replies

Don’t like Halloween. Kids come to my door dressed as me. Black cats get scared if I cross their path. When I was a kid I told my parents we need to get a scary dummy to sit on the porch and hold the…Continue

Still Lost

Started this discussion. Last reply by Freebird Nov 27, 2019. 8 Replies

I can deal with living alone. The part that’s tough is the feeling of being lost. It’s like being far out at see where the horizon goes on forever. The sails are up, the water is calm but there is no…Continue

 

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Etchtech replied to MishyB's discussion Is it just me, or is "How are you?" a dumb question to ask a widow?
"Why are you still here? Well through the course of our lives we touch so many other lives. Sometimes we are aware and other times we have no idea. The smallest gesture or action by you may be that one thing that someone needed that day. Our purpose…"
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Etchtech replied to MishyB's discussion Is it just me, or is "How are you?" a dumb question to ask a widow?
"Sorry, that wasn’t my intention. I was trying to point out that if you see things through the eyes of others you get a different perspective. People that haven’t been through it have know way of knowing how to react. There are others…"
Jan 6
Etchtech replied to MishyB's discussion Is it just me, or is "How are you?" a dumb question to ask a widow?
"Actually, be thankful that people care enough to ask. I was married for 29 years. My wife passed almost three years ago. We were each others friends so we had no real friends. Seems like I'm bothering anyone I do talk to, At least that's…"
Jan 6
Etchtech replied to lonecougar's discussion Urn display
"I posted this in another thread but it’s more appropriate here. I  have the urn on the bottom shelf of a slim curio cabinet. I took off a gold necklace I use to wear an threaded it though our rings, then draped it over the neck of…"
Jan 5
Etchtech replied to Maggiepie's discussion Keepsake accessory for ashes
" I know this doesn’t help but I just thought I’d share it. I know you said you didn’t want to spend too much but for around $3000 and about 2 Tablespoons of ash you can have a Diamond made to be put into a…"
Dec 30, 2019
Freebird replied to Etchtech's discussion Still Lost
"Hello, New member here. Widowed since Fall of 2004. If it is any consolation, I still refuse to go out and eat by myself. I simply won't subject myself to that reinforcement of being "Alone" or have people think I'm…"
Nov 27, 2019
Etchtech replied to Melissa's discussion Support we need vs get
"Support group? I wish! I only received the PC version of support. Just what people felt was necessary in times like this. The I’m so sorry and let me know what I can do dried up fast. I had to take care of everything on my own while dealing…"
Nov 27, 2019
Etchtech replied to Rich's discussion The obsession of starting a new relationship
"If another relationship is in my future I’d prefer to have one where we reside in our own homes but see each other frequently. I would keep it an exclusive relationship but still not give up our own lives as they exist now. Does that sound…"
Nov 12, 2019
Etchtech replied to JPSwifeCathy's discussion ENDING YOUR OWN LIFE TO EASE THE PAIN----WOULD IT HELP?----HAVEN'T WE ALL CONSIDERED IT?!
"From the time we are born our lives are never really ours. As time goes on we touch so many lives in ways we never even know. What if you were never born? How would those lives be changed? Now how would all those lives be affected if you were to…"
Oct 8, 2019
Dee1960 replied to Etchtech's discussion Hiding behind humor....at least I hope it’s humorous.....
"Oh dear, you are a funny guy, but stop trying so hard. Women like a kind, sensitive guy --- just saying.... Good luck!"
Oct 2, 2019
Etchtech replied to Etchtech's discussion Hiding behind humor....at least I hope it’s humorous.....
"Unfortunately...this actually is who I am."
Oct 2, 2019
Dee1960 replied to Etchtech's discussion Hiding behind humor....at least I hope it’s humorous.....
"LOL -- you sound like a funny guy, but just be yourself, alright?"
Oct 2, 2019
Etchtech replied to Etchtech's discussion Hiding behind humor....at least I hope it’s humorous.....
"With us seniors on a budget, can I get free vacation travel if I convert my money to the currency of the country I want to visit, then turn myself in as an immigrant from that country? Just don’t tell them you have a passport and come back…"
Oct 2, 2019
Etchtech replied to Etchtech's discussion Hiding behind humor....at least I hope it’s humorous.....
"Working on pickup lines. I’m over 30 years out of the dating scene. How’s this? “Hi, I’m Mark. I’m short, bald, neurotic, live with two cats and have a last name no one can pronounce.” “ Hi I’m Mark, I…"
Oct 2, 2019
Etchtech replied to Etchtech's discussion Hiding behind humor....at least I hope it’s humorous.....
"Well, another wonderful day at the gym. Looked like God’s waiting room. At first I thought I showed up at the “I’ve fallen and I can’t get up” commercial auditions. There was one older woman killing it on the treadmill.…"
Oct 2, 2019
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Hiding behind humor....at least I hope it’s humorous.....

Don’t like Halloween. Kids come to my door dressed as me. Black cats get scared if I cross their path. When I was a kid I told my parents we need to get a scary dummy to sit on the porch and hold the candy bowl. They liked the idea so they made me sit on the porch and hold the candy bowl. I had an uncle that on every Halloween, he would only refer to me as “Pumpkin Head”. We lived in a neighborhood with a lot of old people on fixed incomes. Who gives out Rolaids, suppositories and Fixodent?…See More
Oct 2, 2019

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At 12:53pm on August 13, 2019, Dianne in Nevada said…

We have an active Soaring Spirits Regional Group that meets in the Phoenix area.  You can see their events on the group's Facebook page: 

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At 12:50pm on August 13, 2019, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Etchtech. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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