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EverydayMorning (Sam)
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I have 2 great kids. My son is 13 and my daughter is 9. My husband, Patrick, was born with Transposition of the Great Arteries, a congenital heart defect. In Dec 2010 he was listed for a heart transplant. He waited 15 months and 3 days before he received his transplant on March 6, 2012. He immediately started experiencing complications. He spent 35 days in the ICU before he passed away on April 10, 2012. We got 12 days together with him doing really good and having a healthy normal heart. I will forever be thankful to his donor and their family for those 12 days.
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dublin53 commented on EverydayMorning (Sam)'s blog post He Wasn't Perfect
"Dear Sam- I love that you want to remember the good- Bravo to you! I have been told that I have made my husband into a saint now that he's dead. I may be doing this, but what is the point of remembering his faults? He was just like all of…"
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janet commented on EverydayMorning (Sam)'s blog post He Wasn't Perfect
"Sam, people are people and they are not here going through what we are. Remember the good in him and yes the bad to because that was who he was. The good out weighs the bad but we as widows/widowers knew our spouse/partner better than…"
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Lori commented on EverydayMorning (Sam)'s blog post He Wasn't Perfect
"That is just fine to remember the good sam! some observers are not happy with us unless we are miserable
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Roe commented on EverydayMorning (Sam)'s blog post The One Question I Wish I Could Ask Him
"I have this same dream almost every night. MY husband Lary was killed by a distracted driver (garbage truck) that was on his phone while lost driving his route for the first time. He had severe brain injury that the doctor said was…"
Cristina commented on EverydayMorning (Sam)'s blog post The One Question I Wish I Could Ask Him
"Sam - I have a suggestion. I found an fantastic medium, who will do sessions over the phone (mine was in person as she lives only an hour away...) and I was able to ask the questions I really needed to ask, and get answers back in English, no…"
Lori commented on EverydayMorning (Sam)'s blog post The One Question I Wish I Could Ask Him
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EverydayMorning (Sam) commented on Dianne in Nevada's event Camp Widow WEST 2013
"I will be there for the Sunday breakfast. Have so many things going on that weekend, but I will make the trip down for breakfast."
EverydayMorning (Sam) is attending Dianne in Nevada's event
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June 28, 2013 at 8am to June 30, 2013 at 12pm
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hendrixx2 commented on EverydayMorning (Sam)'s blog post I Have A Right To Be Happy
"Hi Sam,
You know you're right...after enduring the loss and thinking we might never laugh again, it is a welcome relief when we find we can laugh again. I'm with you, I'm trying to laugh every chance I get, and am not apologizing…"
missmyhunny commented on EverydayMorning (Sam)'s blog post I Have A Right To Be Happy
"Sam, You are exactly right, we all deserve to smile and laugh again amidst our tears and heartache, and learn to live again without our significant other. I am sure they would want this for us too, to grieve for a time, but then to get back into…"
Mstexan commented on EverydayMorning (Sam)'s blog post I Have A Right To Be Happy
"Sam, you Do deserve to be happy, to laugh, to have joy in your life. I am sorry that you are now a heart mom, but you are a good mom and will deal with those issues as they need to be dealt with. Hopefully, not for a very long…"
cec commented on EverydayMorning (Sam)'s blog post I Have A Right To Be Happy
"we all deserve to be happy ..Happy is ok too...."
Marsha commented on EverydayMorning (Sam)'s blog post I Have A Right To Be Happy
"No apologys necessary to anyone ever Sam! We all so deserve to be happy again and the laughter in chat is so uplifting. Something I desperately needed. I know I have had the strengh to move forward with my life because of all the wonderful people…"
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He Wasn't Perfect
Posted on April 30, 2013 at 8:33pm 4 Comments 3 Likes
I was told that I am in love with Patrick more now than when he was alive because I am making him out to be the perfect husband. I will be the first to say that Patrick was far from perfect. Like everyone he had his flaws. We had our fair share of problems.
He was the type of person that broke things when he got mad. He would fly off the handle over weird things. He was one to make spontaneous purchases that used to drive me insane.
There are many other…
Continue The One Question I Wish I Could Ask Him
Posted on April 24, 2013 at 10:27pm 3 Comments 0 Likes
I have so many questions I wish I could ask Patrick, but there one I really wish I could ask him is if he forgives me.
The last 2 nights I've had the same dream. In the dream I'm hanging out with the kids and a friend of mine. Patrick shows up. He's realized that he's missed a year and he can't figure out why. The last thing he remembers is calling me to tell me he got to order 1 flavor of every jello they had and he couldn't wait to eat. (This was March 28, he hadn't had…
Continue I Have A Right To Be Happy
Posted on April 18, 2013 at 12:12pm 5 Comments 2 Likes
Today marks 1 year since Patrick's funeral.
Back then I never thought I'd ever be happy. I didn't think it was possible. If I laughed, I felt guilty.
It did take a while for that guilty feeling to go away. I knew Patrick wouldn't want me to feel that way, but it was something I couldn't help. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn't get that feeling to leave.
Then it slowly did. I would find myself laughing at something the kids did or said…
Continue 1 Year, Trip To Stanford, And 2 Broken Hearts
Posted on April 15, 2013 at 11:00pm 2 Comments 0 Likes
Comment Wall (7 comments)
- At 10:42am on July 14, 2012,
Dianne in Nevada said… 
Thinking of you today and hoping sweet memories will bring you unexpected smiles.
- At 2:01am on July 14, 2012,
jimswife33 (Michelle) said… Happy Birthday Sam! I hope you have a good day. Hugs to you.
Michelle
- At 5:35pm on May 23, 2012,
VOLUNTEERSupa Dupa Fresh said… Welcome to our community.... I hope we can keep you company on your journey ahead. Please look around a bit and read this basic introduction to the site. You can find more information about how the community works under "Help!" in the navigation bar, and we'll send you a few newsletters with tips and ideas in the coming weeks. If you need a little more help, go to the Home page and look in the right hand column to see the link to a "Help Desk" form.
We all use the site differently, but we hope you feel comfortable sharing among us in the coming days, weeks, and months.
Big hug!
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- At 12:53pm on May 14, 2012,
Arnie (New Normal) said… Hi EverydayMorning,
I am so sorry for your loss yet I am glad you found us. You will find some great help here on the site and the relationships you will build with all of the great people here. We are all on the other side of life now and only we can really understand how you feel. I am on chat quiet often and it is scary and overwhelming at times in the beginning. I would like to offer a bit of assistance when you are ready use the chat room.
1. I always advise you watch for a bit, the room gets busy sometimes and hard to follow at first.
2. You will see some joking and even laughter, you will also see tears and breakdowns. The people here are here to support and be supported by peers.
3. Looking at the chat you will see that the left window has a sliding bar that tells you who is online (they may be on another part of the site though)
4. If you click on a name in the side bar this should open up a private chat or PC as we call it.
5. I f you receive a PC a red # will show under the main lobby with the name and icon of the person it is from or if you sent it to someone
6. Your first entry:
This is hit or miss, it really depends on when you jump in if lots of folks are chatting you can easily get missed. I recommend just saying Hi I am new and give whatever info you want (hi I am Arnie From NJ and today I am 3 months and 3 days out) this way if others are from NJ they may want to know more.
7. BE READY:
Ok once you do go into the lobby be ready as the questions are needed and they are sometimes gentile, sometimes the questions fly at you. Please take your time here as if this is new for you this may open you up emotionally, and it is normal to feel this and from what i am told a needed part of trying to begin to live again.
8. Most people on the chat are women as of now but the men that are involved are very respectful and sometimes fun.
9. Remember almost no one knew each other until they came here.
10. Good luck and I sent you a friend request, lets face it near or far we need support, and with so many from around the world there is almost always someone on.
ALSO using internet explorer is problematic with chat so Firefox appears to be the best..
I hope this long winded letter helps you in the beginning and again SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS.
- At 8:26pm on May 13, 2012,
WidowerMDK said…
I'm so sorry for your loss and the fact that you have to be a member of this website. None of us want to be here, but its good to find and hear from others that are going through the same loss. I lost my wife on February 5th, 2012 to lung cancer (she never smoked a day in her life) she put up a galiant battle for two and half years before she passed away at our home on an early Sunday morning. I was at her side, holding her hand when she passed away and I closed her eyes for the last time. We had two years of chemo, radiation treatments, losing hair, medications, being sick, and finally in the end, hospice and to a point she could no longer function on her own and could barely speak. We were together for 12 years and she was my best friend, my pal and my soulmate. We were always laughing and teasing eachother and these past three months have been hell on earth. I think I miss her more everyday and hopefully down the road it will get easier. There are a lot of good people on this site, with many stories such as your own and they are here to help you. God bless you and your children. Take it one minute at a time.
- At 5:35pm on May 13, 2012,
Joyce said… Welcome Samantha: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I know you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".
- At 5:31pm on May 13, 2012, Dianne in Nevada said…
I'm so very sorry for your loss, Samantha, but glad you found us. There is caring support and friendship here. Join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. Those 'chirps' you hear when you're in Widowed Village mean people are talking in the Chat Room; stop in some time and join the conversations. I look forward to getting to know you here.
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