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I have 2 great kids.  My son is 13 and my daughter is 9.  My husband, Patrick, was born with Transposition of the Great Arteries, a congenital heart defect.  In Dec 2010 he was listed for a heart transplant.  He waited 15 months and 3 days before he received his transplant on March 6, 2012.  He immediately started experiencing complications.  He spent 35 days in the ICU before he passed away on April 10, 2012.  We got 12 days together with him doing really good and having a healthy normal heart.  I will forever be thankful to his donor and their family for those 12 days.

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Normal Was So 2 Years Ago

Posted on March 4, 2014 at 7:21am 4 Comments

March 4, 2012 was the last day of my old, normal, life. 

It was a Sunday. 

We went to Target so Patrick could walk around for a little while (no where in this town is flat, so we walked around the stores to get his walking in).  Then we started our spring cleaning.  Little did I know that spring cleaning was going to take me over a year to finish because I couldn't bare to get rid of the piles, but I couldn't bare to go through them to put them away either. …


memorial basketball game

Posted on December 5, 2013 at 6:54pm 0 Comments

Last Tuesday (Nov 26) was the memorial basketball game in honor of Patrick.

Unfortunately his cardiologist was called out of town, but our favorite nurse stepped in for him.  Robbie got his butt beat by a girl, but he had fun.

It was so much fun, and to see both of my kids happy and excited made it all worth it.

Both local news stations were there along with one of the newspapers.

I think Robbie has watched the videos about 100…


April 9, 2012 written by Robbie

Posted on November 22, 2013 at 12:01pm 5 Comments


This was an English assignment that Robbie wrote this year. The teacher chose one to read to the class, and the poor woman chose Robbie's at random.  She told me she's been teaching for 10 years and she's never had an essay bring her to tears like Robbie's did.

On April 9, 2012 the kids were brought up to the hospital so they could say their goodbyes to Patrick.  Some things are a little…


The Difference

Posted on November 7, 2013 at 7:01am 8 Comments

This has been running through my head for a few days now.  I finally gave in and wrote it all down.  Not sure if it makes sense or not.  It did make sense in my head.

The Difference

Talking with another widow, the topic of broken hearts come up. I don't remember the entire conversation, but she asked me "aren't our hearts broken too?"…


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At 7:23pm on September 1, 2013, JPSwifeCathy said…

I'll be praying

At 6:42am on July 14, 2012, Dianne in Nevada said…

Thinking of you today and hoping sweet memories will bring you unexpected smiles.

At 10:01pm on July 13, 2012, jimswife33 (Michelle) said…

Happy Birthday Sam! I hope you have a good day.  Hugs to you.


At 1:35pm on May 23, 2012,
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At 8:53am on May 14, 2012, Arnie (New Normal) said…

Hi EverydayMorning,

I am so sorry for your loss yet I am glad you found us. You will find some great help here on the site and the relationships you will build with all of the great people here. We are all on the other side of life now and only we can really understand how you feel. I am on chat quiet often and it is scary and overwhelming at times in the beginning. I would like to offer a bit of assistance when you are ready use the chat room.
1. I always advise you watch for a bit, the room gets busy sometimes and hard to follow at first.
2. You will see some joking and even laughter, you will also see tears and breakdowns. The people here are here to support and be supported by peers.
3. Looking at the chat you will see that the left window has a sliding bar that tells you who is online (they may be on another part of the site though)
4. If you click on a name in the side bar this should open up a private chat or PC as we call it.
5. I f you receive a PC a red # will show under the main lobby with the name and icon of the person it is from or if you sent it to someone
6. Your first entry:
This is hit or miss, it really depends on when you jump in if lots of folks are chatting you can easily get missed. I recommend just saying Hi I am new and give whatever info you want (hi I am Arnie From NJ and today I am 3 months and 3 days out) this way if others are from NJ they may want to know more.
Ok once you do go into the lobby be ready as the questions are needed and they are sometimes gentile, sometimes the questions fly at you. Please take your time here as if this is new for you this may open you up emotionally, and it is normal to feel this and from what i am told a needed part of trying to begin to live again.
8. Most people on the chat are women as of now but the men that are involved are very respectful and sometimes fun.
9. Remember almost no one knew each other until they came here.
10. Good luck and I sent you a friend request, lets face it near or far we need support, and with so many from around the world there is almost always someone on.
ALSO using internet explorer is problematic with chat so Firefox appears to be the best..

I hope this long winded letter helps you in the beginning and again SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS.

At 4:26pm on May 13, 2012, WidowerMDK said…

I'm so sorry for your loss and the fact that you have to be a member of this website. None of us want to be here, but its good to find and hear from others that are going through the same loss. I lost my wife on February 5th, 2012 to lung cancer (she never smoked a day in her life) she put up a galiant battle for two and half years before she passed away at our home on an  early Sunday morning. I was at her side, holding her hand when she passed away and I closed her eyes for the last time. We had two years of chemo, radiation treatments, losing hair, medications, being sick, and finally in the end, hospice and to a point she could no longer function on her own and could barely speak. We were together for 12 years and she was my best friend, my pal and my soulmate. We were always laughing and teasing eachother and these past three months have been hell on earth. I think I miss her more everyday and hopefully down the road it will get easier. There are a lot of good people on this site, with many stories such as your own and they are here to help you. God bless you and your children. Take it one minute at a time.

At 1:35pm on May 13, 2012, Joyce said…

Welcome Samantha:  I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I know you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".

At 1:31pm on May 13, 2012, Dianne in Nevada said…

I'm so very sorry for your loss, Samantha, but glad you found us. There is caring support and friendship here.  Join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  Those 'chirps' you hear when you're in Widowed Village mean people are talking in the Chat Room; stop in some time and join the conversations.  I look forward to getting to know you here.


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