"You are correct but my kids really want me to get things sorted. Today is the first day of the second year of loosing my sweet husband, and I am heading down to my mom's house to access the mess a renter who didn't pay has left me. I knew…"
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Brandywine Gal replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Bucket lists: do you have one? Has it changed?
"Update: I took the cruise Sept/Oct 2012 so glad I did. Scattered ashes many places so he was there :-)"
Brandywine Gal replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Bucket lists: do you have one? Has it changed?
"We had a bucket list of places we wanted to travel to. One trip was a cruise from Barcelona which we loved on to the Black Sea (Russia, Ukraine, Bulgaria) and back to Turkey where we hadn't been since like 30 years, then Israel and Egypt, also…"
Brandywine Gal commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"Been awhile since I checked in as I have been on iPad and notices hadn't come through until today.
I was blindsided at how difficult today has been *sigh* as I have continued looking forward and etching out my life as a widow. Today is the…"
Brandywine Gal commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group More than one loss (Multiple losses)
"Been awhile since I checked in as I have been on iPad and notices hadn't come through until today.
I was blindsided at how difficult today has been *sigh* as I have continued looking forward and etching out my life as a widow. Today is the…"
Brandywine Gal commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"Been awhile since I checked in as I have been on iPad and notices hadn't come through until today.
I was blindsided at how difficult today has been *sigh* as I have continued looking forward and etching out my life as a widow. Today is the…"
Brandywine Gal commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"I just have no ambition, each day just drifts by, and then the next. I try to force myself out of the house every couple of weeks, but if I don't need anything from the store, well why waste gas? It's cold here for us, down to…"
Brandywine Gal replied to CrazyWidow's discussion Rings and Remarriage
"I am going to take our wedding rings and have them made into a bracelet some day. At one time he thought he had lost his ring, again, and we had another made. It is far larger and heavier than the first replacement we had made. So I have three of…"
Brandywine Gal commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"Today it is 7 months since my sweet husband passed away at barely 60. Still seems impossible. I know he isn't coming back like from a trip as he used to do, but even our dog looks out the window for his car.
I am holding up as well…"
Brandywine Gal commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"I am approaching the 6 month mark (Dec 8) and so dreading Christmas as that was the day Steve was rushed via ambulance to ER. Then the next 5 1/2 months of hospital visits, 11 times ranging from 4 to 17 days, and then...................
I…"
Brandywine Gal commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"Wednesday we will go to the cementry and they will place Steve's ashes in the grave, next to our son's. Did this same thing for our son 15 years go, same week, right before Thanksgiving. *sigh* I am really dragging, and…"
Brandywine Gal commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"Oh do I understand the hoarding issue, both my mom who passed Jan 2011 and my hsband who passed June 2012 loved to shop and shop and shop. I am so over helmed by the amount of stuff. Both bought so many clothes, ell everything!"
Brandywine Gal commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"Thought I'd check in as I am back and "survived" the cruise. It was a good decompression time. I am glad my daughter talked me into going. It was to be our 40th anniversary ruise, 30 days and 21 ports. I…"
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- At 11:46pm on August 21, 2012,
maddogdolly said… Hi Brandy, thanks for the friend request. I haven't been on in awhile but it was nice to get on tonight and find a few new friends. I hope you are hanging in there and finding ways to peace. It's quite a process. I just passed the one-year date. My husband and I were together 35 years. So hard to start life over again at 56 :(
- At 10:36pm on July 30, 2012,
Juliana said… Hi Brandy, I have two corgis and a beagle. They are all boys and such characters. Coach and Dewey are the corgis. Lil Man is the beagle.
What beautiful pictures you have. Such wonderful memories. Those are our greatest treasures. How fortunate we have been to have such wonderful soul mates in our lives. We are certainly blessed.
- At 8:24pm on July 30, 2012,
camry said… Hey Brandy...I hate the similarities but am grateful that someone else out there "gets it".
- At 2:48am on July 25, 2012,
Lynne said… Hi there and thanks for the friend request. That's so interesting about your husband being originally from this area - this is a pretty little place so it's one of those "small world" things, I suppose. Anyway, so very sorry for your loss and hope that you're doing as well as can possibly be expected. Wishing you all the best. Lynne
- At 7:08pm on July 24, 2012,
Susan J said… Weekends are tough because everyone else is busy and we used to be busy with our husbands or just spending time together. I amange the evenings, but come Friday...
I will be out in Walnut Creek on the 4th. Call me this evening and let's get together. We can share hugs.
- At 5:00pm on July 22, 2012,
emptyheart said… Yes, we are going to make it. We may have bad days, but we're going to have good days too! It is two steps forward, one back. Sometimes it's one step forward, two back, but then I pick myself up again and keep putting one foot in front of the other. I lost my Neal after only 5 years together, but that doesn't make the pain any less. We were enjoying life together so much. He was supremely happy after years of being miserable. And I finally found the love of my life. I am gonna make it through this and keep living. I know that's what Neal would want me to do!
- At 6:32am on July 19, 2012,
Arnie (New Normal) said… So sorry we have to meet this way, I am Arnie from NJ and offer friendship and a ear when needed. I do not write much but love the chat feature so I hope to see you there. My losses are many in short times, a 19 yr old son, a wife of 21-1/2 yrs, a Dad and BF wife all in span of less than 7 months, new and very deep but I have found an amazing place of comfort and healing, this place has been a big part of it. The rest of my "healing" is for private conversations. Just wanted to say Hi and welcome to the club no one wanted to belong to.
Love and hugs for my new friend
- At 9:29am on July 17, 2012,
VOLUNTEERSupa Dupa Fresh said… Welcome to our community.... I hope we can keep you company on your journey ahead. Please look around a bit and read this basic introduction to the site. You can find more information about how the community works under "Help!" in the navigation bar, and we'll send you a few newsletters with tips and ideas in the coming weeks. If you need a little more help, go to the Home page and look in the right hand column to see the link to a "Help Desk" form.
We all use the site differently, but we hope you feel comfortable sharing among us in the coming days, weeks, and months.
Big hug!
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- At 2:14pm on July 15, 2012,
Dianne in Nevada said… 
I'm so very sorry for your loss, FDNWINE, but glad you found us. There is caring support and friendship here. Here's a good place to start: Basic Site InfoJoin the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. Those 'chirps' you hear when you're in Widowed Village mean people are talking in the Chat Room; stop in some time and join the conversations. I look forward to getting to know you here.
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