"Terry, if you don't do as you had initially planned what will become of the rings? I think maybe you will be reassured after the appointment tomorrow. If you are still uncertain then maybe just leave it for a little while and then revisit the…"
"I agree that I am never going to be the same person again.I miss him in so many ways but I also feel quite lost. My life has changed so very much and it's hard to see where it's going now. For the moment I try to just do today and hope…"
"Bundles549, I think the very fact that you bought the ticket is a big achievement.
I have two friends who are both widows, one I meet when our husbands were fighting cancer and The other at the hospital when my husband was dying. Both have become…"
I find going out difficult, my married friends have a different life now, it's not always the same when we go out.
I have made friends with two wonderful ladies, both of whom are widows, they get it and it is so easy to be with…"
"Like so many of you I have found year two really hard, I feel like the color has disappeared from my life since I lost my husband 21 month ago.
I find for the most part I put on my game face in public and get through most days though that can be…"
"I'm still plodding along, I think outwardly I do a good impression of being ok, but it's still all there inside.
I still crave time alone and I am generally still very tired by the end of a work day (is that the grief or the putting on a…"
Good for you for being brave and following your instincts! I am pretty sure you wouldn't have taken this step if you were not sure you could manage financially and it will allow you time to grieve and regroup and see what it is you want…"
"Is anyone struggling with insomnia?
I didn't sleep well all through my husbands battle with cancer and it has continued since his death. I am running on 4-5 hours of sleep a night and it is really taking its toll on me.
I have tried melatonin…"
"Mary, I feel like the grief and sadness of not having my lovely man any more is settling on me more and more heavily as time goes on (it's almost 16 months now).
For me year one was about survival, year two is now facing up to the reality that…"
"Bundles and Hope,
I crave quiet time! People always ask me if I am lonely - the answer is no but I miss my husband horribly. I find being around people is very tiring and by the time I have spent the day trying to be normal at work I am done! I make…"
I understand your desire to lock the door, draw the blinds and hide away. Do you have the option to take a few sick days and do just that, at least for a few hours each day, it might just give you the strength to face the next few months.
"I am feeling very overwhelmed at the moment. Steve died on December 7th 2015, his birthday is December 6th and our son is going to be 21 on November 27th. Steve was to be 50 this year and he and my son had always said they would have a double…"
"I am trying too! I think part of it is that food became such an emotional subject during my husbands later stages of cancer. Having my son home from college makes me cook more but like you salads and soups are a staple for now."
"CanuckGirl, I don't think people really do know what to say. I find being with friends who have done this walk easiest - they get it. Unless you have lost your partner you have no idea of the pain, loss and fear. Our entire lives have changed…"
Flower - thanks for the reply.
It's nice to know that there is someone closer by from widows village who is unfortunately on the same path. Wet have a small farm in east coventry township. My husband who was 59 died suddenly from a heart arhtymia and I found him outdoors near a tree he was trying to cut down.
Yes your right is no so raw add it wad early but it's always they in the Bachelor. Sorry of like having a hidden computer program operating in the background. From the pats I know you have a stressful event comng up with your in laws and I'll be thinking of you and hoping ask goes well. Since we are close in location if there is ever a time you need to just get away and talk or vent let me know
Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here! You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. Come in the chat room which is available 24/7 to you. I look forward to getting to know you and support you through your journey.