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Frank
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Frank replied to Dee1960's discussion What to say, when well meaning friends tell you to "get over it"?
"Hi All, Folks do say the darnedest things and in our state of mind, sometimes we snap back at them thinking sometimes that what they said is just plain mean. When we loose our spouse it is an agony that is overwhelming.  We can't think, we…"
Sep 10
Frank replied to soulmate's discussion Nights
"Hi, Nights, and possibly weekends, can be terrible.  Much of the problem is that traditionally, we are out working during the days, come home, and relax with our spouse. This when we eat with each other and relax with each other, after a busy…"
Sep 6
Frank replied to Alma's discussion The physical comfort
"Hi All, I would have to agree with Laurajay.  I'm 8 years out and I'd give my eye teeth for a hug. Particularly now-a-days with the CORVID mess going around.  "They" had a thing on TV a little while ago talking about…"
Aug 30
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2012
"Hi All, Gee... This December it will be 8 years of life without "Adult Supervision" for me too.  Just me and my two Attack House cats.  I'm retired navy and spend alot of time at sea.  I used to stand out on the…"
Aug 30
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi all, I lost my wife of 35 years 17 DEC 2012.  She went to sleep on Sunday night and did not wake up Monday morning.  As has been mentioned, we thought we were "young" too.  At least my body was not telling me I was in my…"
Aug 30
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Military Families
"Hi, I'm retired Navy (Jan '84). My wife Susan, passed suddenly in her sleep shortly after our 35 wedding anniversary on Dec, 2012.  Turned out that she had a "Silent Heart Attack."   Hugs to you all, Frank"
Aug 30
Frank replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"Hi Dee, I like Laura's answer.  Susan and I were married 35 years when she suddenly passed in her sleep.  I continued to wear my wedding band for three to four years longer.  We had chatted about what to do if one of us died…"
Jan 22
Maggiepie left a comment for Frank
"Yes, Frank, I won't be making big decisions for a long while. I can see that I'm not in the right frame of mind to do much. Even deciding what to do next is an anxiety attack.  I did gather the medicines for proper disposal. I'm…"
Jan 10
Frank replied to Rich's discussion Ever awake at 2:45 in the morning?
"Hi Rich, I live at 10,000' elevation in south, Park County, Colorado. Take care (((HUGS))) Frank"
Jan 9
Maggiepie left a comment for Frank
"Just wondering, when did you (if you did) start reorganizing Susan's belongings?  (I'm still not sure about leaving comments here or sending a direct message - if you have a preference, please let me know.)"
Jan 8
Maggiepie left a comment for Frank
"Thanks, Frank!"
Jan 7
Frank replied to Rich's discussion Ever awake at 2:45 in the morning?
"Hi Rich, After the Navy, I went back to school majored in Geology and minored in Philosophy.  After school which was the height of the "Oil Bust" I did soil surveys and soil analysis. I suffer from "Hoof-in-Mouth" disease…"
Jan 6
Frank replied to Rich's discussion Ever awake at 2:45 in the morning?
"Rich and Maggiepie I'm in the Mountain Time Zone.  I don't normally go to bed till midnight here and the getting to sleep may depend upon how frisky my two attack house cats are feeling.  If either of you would like to talk, I am…"
Jan 6
Frank replied to Alma's discussion Getting through my first Christmas
"Hi Alma, I was reading through some of our writings over the past months and found this unanswered note that you posted.  Christmas has come and gone and I'm sorry to only now have seen your note.  How was your Christmas? Did you have…"
Jan 5
Frank replied to Rich's discussion Ever awake at 2:45 in the morning?
"Hi Rich, Yes, I think many of us do. For me it is around 0400 in the morning.  This is the time they checked on Susan ( she was in an assisted living facility recovering from a kidney rejection and a broken ankle) and found her sleeping…"
Jan 5
Frank replied to MishyB's discussion Is it just me, or is "How are you?" a dumb question to ask a widow?
"Hi MishyB, Folks just want to know how we are doing and perhaps open some dialog with us. Most everyone we meet will not have had the experience that we are going through.  They can see, hear, and sometimes feel, that we are in pain.  They…"
Jan 3

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My hobbies also include freshwater aquariums, I am an "Aqua Gardener." My home is at 10,000ft elevation inside the Colorado Rocky Mountains. My formal education is in Geology and Philosophy.

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Posted on March 13, 2019 at 3:23pm 1 Comment

Hi Lostandlonely,

I do have a suggestion. Try contacting Jennifer at the Heart Light Center in Denver CO,



Heartlight Center Inc., Grief Support in Denver Metro

https://www.heartlightcenter.org/ ; (720) 748-9908



When you reach Jennifer tell her where you are and that I suggested you call her. Ask her if she might have a suggestion for you for a Grief Group where you live or near by. With her professional…

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Reflections

Posted on March 7, 2018 at 9:03pm 6 Comments

I was sound asleep the 17th of December 2012 when the phone rang. I’d been up late that night and was sleeping in. Susan had gone to bed that night round 9pm saying that they’d worked her hard during physical therapy, that she was tired and that she’d call me early in the morning to wake me.

I grabbed the phone and exclaimed, “Boy you weren’t kidding when you said you would call early, how are you doing honey?” “Is this Frank? “Asked a strange voice. “Yes.” Frank this is (I don’t…

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At 4:38am on January 10, 2020, Maggiepie said…

Yes, Frank, I won't be making big decisions for a long while. I can see that I'm not in the right frame of mind to do much. Even deciding what to do next is an anxiety attack. 

I did gather the medicines for proper disposal. I'm working on general decluttering a little here and there. Personal stuff will wait. I did put up some stuff on Craiglist. I have plenty to do, it's confronting each activity that's painful. But commonsense tells me to do what I can each day. I stopped working ten years ago to take care of hubby. I don't know what's ahead of me right now. Once the finances are in order, I'll need to take a hard look at life ahead. For now, I'm okay where I am.

Thanks, Frank. I did keep your contact and number, just in case! Very much appreciated.

At 7:43am on January 8, 2020, Maggiepie said…

Just wondering, when did you (if you did) start reorganizing Susan's belongings? 

(I'm still not sure about leaving comments here or sending a direct message - if you have a preference, please let me know.)

At 4:17am on January 7, 2020, Maggiepie said…

Thanks, Frank!

At 4:58am on August 29, 2019, Morgana (Janet) said…

Frank if you are on Facebook there is a Widowedvillage Chat set up.

At 11:35am on July 24, 2018, Rkay said…

Hi Frank..

I checked in this morning and saw your Hello.  I walked away from my computer last night when I went to put the horses away and didn't come back to my office.  Anyway..Hello to you! 

~Ronna

At 9:54pm on May 10, 2018, Mamitha said…

Hi Frank, how are you? How is Colorado? 

At 7:41am on February 21, 2018, Gunnerx2 (Carol) said…

Hi Frank, thanks for the friend request :)

At 8:17pm on October 30, 2017, kemunto said…

Hi Frank,  oh no this search for one another is taking another turn.  It has been more than a week since we had a chat!  Please confirm that you are fine.

At 9:44am on July 10, 2017, TxDD said…
Have a good day Feank... Keep hanging in there! Ee all support and encourage each other. Q

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At 12:10pm on December 27, 2016, BabushkaD (Debbie) said…

Frank, I of course could come meet you nearer to Hampden. There's also a Village Inn near Wadsworth and Hampden, right? (by the Kohl's and Chipotle?) I don't know if that's where you shop, or not. You are making the trek, so once you're here, let's make it as convenient for you as possible.
-Debbie

 
 
 

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