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Frank replied to WoodTurner's discussion Permission to Remarry
"Hi, At one time while watching a Movie on TV, Susan made a similar comment to me.  She said that should I live past her that I should marry and I told her the same thing.  'Course, I figured that I'd pass first as the guy usually…"
Jul 5
Frank replied to Whitedoves9698's discussion Im sadly new
"Hello Whitedoves, I'm glad you found us and I'm sorry you are here, but here is the best place you can be.  Here you can scream, cry, vent, ask questions, or just read as we all talk about our loss and what we are doing and how we are…"
Jun 24
Frank replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Having to say the "W" word
"Hi All, It is hard to check that box Widower.  Susan and I were married for 35 years.  Her medical problems were many and varied.  We used the same hospital for the last 20 years, and it came to the point where even the "Gurney…"
Jun 19
Frank replied to only1sue's discussion What are the fundamentals of dating in your 60s and 70s?
"HI All, About a year after my divorce I was remarking to a coworker that the gals in the "Wave Cage" were starting to be interesting.  He told me that I needed help and later that night he and his wife chatted.  She knew a…"
Jun 9
Frank replied to Miss Em (Emma)'s discussion Other people's wedding anniversaries
"Hi Miss Em, Ya know, it really does not matter if you had a few months, a few years, or decades together.  The one thing we all wish, is that we had more time.  Wish them a very Happy Anniversary, and then thank your spouse for the…"
May 29
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi Shelley, Celebrations of life overall are wonderful things that help family and friends to just what is says.. Celebrate the life of...  For those of us that have just gone through that loss it can be both terrible and wrenching or, if you…"
May 20
Mamitha left a comment for Frank
"Hi Frank, how are you? How is Colorado? "
May 10
Frank replied to Dez's discussion Emotional Days?
"Hi Dez, I suspect we all experience times as you describe.  I call them "Zingers."  It's been 6 years since my wife unexpectedly died.  She went to sleep on a Sunday night and did not wake up Monday morning.  The…"
Apr 7
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Hi Barb, IOU Been out of state, and on return, under the weather. When I got back I had 389 Emails to go through + SPAM's to check. I'll respond the beginning of next week. ((((HUGS)))) Frank"
Mar 30
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi Going on slowly, I want to reassure you that as your counsellor told  you, you have been making progress.  Let me add, that many of us go through the first year in a kind of fog.  In a sense it is "Natures Way" of…"
Mar 27
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Visiting overseas for all that time.  Sounds like a severe case of driving on the wrong side of the road combined with the time difference, and the jet lag..  wow!  Perhaps a good shower and a bit of tea with just a nip in it…"
Mar 27
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2012
"Hi All. Susan and I grew up in small towns at opposite ends (E/W) of New York State.  She grew up near Albany, and I grew up between Rochester and Buffalo.  She used to say her town was smaller than mine, until I told her we only had one…"
Mar 16
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"HI All, Our "Greeting" was "You have reached Frank and Susan, please your number and we will call you back as soon as we can."  I could not change that recording until this last year (5 years out.).  The kids were…"
Mar 16
BabushkaD (Debbie) commented on Frank's blog post Reflections
"Hope it will be sunny and warm and snow-free soon and I can come for a visit, or catch you in Denver. Let me know next time you are coming into town!"
Mar 15
Frank replied to Aly brabham's discussion Is it normal to keep items around your house of theirs
"Hi, When I lost Susan, I printed a picture of her and placed it on the passenger seat in our van and I talked to her as I would drive down the road.  One day, I picked up one of my sons and he jumped into the truck and sat on the picture. …"
Mar 13
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi, Anger is one of the stages that most go through.  Sometimes it is more than anger, it is outright rage!. Sometimes its directed at ourselves.. If only we had done this, or noticed that, our spouse would still be with us. Sometimes its…"
Mar 13

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Posted on March 7, 2018 at 9:03pm 6 Comments

I was sound asleep the 17th of December 2012 when the phone rang. I’d been up late that night and was sleeping in. Susan had gone to bed that night round 9pm saying that they’d worked her hard during physical therapy, that she was tired and that she’d call me early in the morning to wake me.

I grabbed the phone and exclaimed, “Boy you weren’t kidding when you said you would call early, how are you doing honey?” “Is this Frank? “Asked a strange voice. “Yes.” Frank this is (I don’t…


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At 9:54pm on May 10, 2018, Mamitha said…

Hi Frank, how are you? How is Colorado? 

At 7:41am on February 21, 2018, Gunnerx2 (Carol) said…

Hi Frank, thanks for the friend request :)

At 8:17pm on October 30, 2017, kemunto said…

Hi Frank,  oh no this search for one another is taking another turn.  It has been more than a week since we had a chat!  Please confirm that you are fine.

At 9:44am on July 10, 2017, TxDD said…
Have a good day Feank... Keep hanging in there! Ee all support and encourage each other. Q

At 12:10pm on December 27, 2016, BabushkaD (Debbie) said…

Frank, I of course could come meet you nearer to Hampden. There's also a Village Inn near Wadsworth and Hampden, right? (by the Kohl's and Chipotle?) I don't know if that's where you shop, or not. You are making the trek, so once you're here, let's make it as convenient for you as possible.

At 10:45pm on January 19, 2016, kemunto said…

Thank you Frank.  I appreciate you,  you have a great sense of humour.  Good night.

At 1:48pm on July 29, 2014, beachgirl3 said…

Hi Frank,  Saw your message and appreciate your thoughts. I doing well, keeping busy. Lots of beach time with the family and had loads of fun .  Anticipating my 44th wedding anniversary with so many emotions. I must say I do feel better, it's not as raw . This is the 3rd one without Gary. It was always a day of celebration. He would bring me roses, and we would go out somewhere to celebrate. On different occasions we celebrated with a destination. Now I must carry on. I will buy those roses and have a nice dinner , drink some wine and toast the love of my life... How lucky we were.....     Please tell me what you have been doing? How are you doing these days?

At 10:59am on March 25, 2013, Morgana (Janet) said…

Frank the "My Likes" list what you have clicked on that you like (the blue heart).

At 8:39pm on March 6, 2013, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Frank. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.  

Here's a good place to start: Basic Site Info  Join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  Those 'chirps' you hear when you're in Widowed Village mean people are talking in the Chat Room; stop in some time and join the conversations.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.


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