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Frank
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  • Como, CO
  • United States
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Frank replied to newlife's discussion Staying in the marital home or moving elsewhere?
"Hi, Staying in the home is something I think most all of us think about.  First, the advice most often given is to not make any major decisions until after at least a year has transpired.  I've talked with many who moved.  They…"
16 hours ago
Frank replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"The song that ran through my mind after Susan's passing was a song by the Everly Brothers... Dream. It brought such tears to my eyes. Now-a-days, one about the loss of a loved one can tear my up. Frank"
Sunday
Frank replied to Hopesmom's discussion relationships after
"Hi, When Susan passed, I camped out here in WV ( the winter snows were so bad it was unsafe to drive the 100 miles over the passes into Denver) and when the snows abated, I joined a Grief Group in Denver.  I was shocked one meeting when one of…"
Sunday
Frank replied to frankenpickle's discussion New forum member, trying to "find my way"
"Hi Frankenpickle, Than you for your note.  It is probably one of the hardest things anyone might have to do is to tell the Doctors and Nurses to please stop.  It means giving up all hope. It is so final.  We all hang onto…"
Jan 27
Frank replied to trucker's wife's discussion Fear of death recently
"Hi, I'm not sure that I actually fear death as my religious beliefs have me secure in that way.  I've told the Good Lord that I don't care if the streets in heaven are paved in gold, or just muddy, nor do I care how many houses…"
Jan 26
Frank replied to frankenpickle's discussion New forum member, trying to "find my way"
"Hi Frankenpickle, Welcome to WV.  We are all sorry you find yourself here, but honestly, here is the best place to be.  My wife, Susan, died suddenly. She went to sleep on a Sunday night and did not wake up Monday morning.  We'd…"
Jan 26
Frank posted a photo

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Jan 21
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi KJPE The situation with your friends is completely normal.  It's not that they forget, its mostly that life interferes with things and "We" sort of slip into the background.  I plead with folks here to not wish them ill…"
Jan 6
Frank replied to sis's discussion Never Saw Myself In Need Of This Support
"Hi Sis, The title of your comment captured me.  For various reasons, I too never thought I would need help/support from anyone or anything.  In life, as we grew up and went through our phases in retrospect, I think we had some training for…"
Jan 3
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2012
"You know, From the minute I looked at that picture, it instantly grabbed my eyes, and the more of the picture I looked at the more it grabbed my mind.  The winter landscape, the bright full moon, and Santa's Sleigh and reindeer, and there…"
Jan 3
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi KJPE, Welcome to our club.  It is not the best club to belong to. It comes with terrible agony, loneliness, and terrible loss.  But, this is the best place to be.  Here you can vent, scream, cry, question, and cry your eyes…"
Jan 3
Frank replied to booktime (Susan)'s discussion New Year's Eve
"Hi, This is my 6th year as well.  Susan and I had decided that all the hoopla was for the young kids and neither of us drank.  Instead we would watch TV have a wonderful hug and kiss, and then go to bed.  Nowadays I'm especially…"
Dec 31
Frank replied to Monkey's discussion How do i let go of the pain without leaving my husband behind?
"Hi Guys, Yes, you are just starting on the journey and no one would expect either of you to be anywhere near that point.  I'd intended my letter to acknowledge your pain and it's intensity, and to support you by giving you things to…"
Dec 28, 2018
Frank replied to Monkey's discussion How do i let go of the pain without leaving my husband behind?
"Hi Monkey, What you are asking simply cannot be done with the "Flick of a switch."  It takes months and years and at some point you will accept that Joe has passed.  Your mind will accept it, and with that acceptance comes a…"
Dec 27, 2018
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2012
"After 6 years, I'm actually tackling Christmas Cards.  I find I can actually say MERRY CHRISTMAS and mean it. No tree, no lights, its just me and my two Attack House Cats, not into all the show. While I may be a few days early, I do want…"
Dec 18, 2018
Frank replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Christmas
"Today, 6 years ago in 2012 this was a Sunday (just like today was).  Tomorrow morning at 0630 the phone rang, it was the nurse at the facility where my wife of 35 years, Susan was recovering from a kidney rejection and broken ankle.  The…"
Dec 16, 2018

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I'm retired Navy, an Amateur Radio Operator (HAM),
My hobbies also include freshwater aquariums, I am an "Aqua Gardener." My home is at 10,000ft elevation inside the Colorado Rocky Mountains. My formal education is in Geology and Philosophy.

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Reflections

Posted on March 7, 2018 at 9:03pm 6 Comments

I was sound asleep the 17th of December 2012 when the phone rang. I’d been up late that night and was sleeping in. Susan had gone to bed that night round 9pm saying that they’d worked her hard during physical therapy, that she was tired and that she’d call me early in the morning to wake me.

I grabbed the phone and exclaimed, “Boy you weren’t kidding when you said you would call early, how are you doing honey?” “Is this Frank? “Asked a strange voice. “Yes.” Frank this is (I don’t…

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At 11:35am on July 24, 2018, Rkay said…

Hi Frank..

I checked in this morning and saw your Hello.  I walked away from my computer last night when I went to put the horses away and didn't come back to my office.  Anyway..Hello to you! 

~Ronna

At 9:54pm on May 10, 2018, Mamitha said…

Hi Frank, how are you? How is Colorado? 

At 7:41am on February 21, 2018, Gunnerx2 (Carol) said…

Hi Frank, thanks for the friend request :)

At 8:17pm on October 30, 2017, kemunto said…

Hi Frank,  oh no this search for one another is taking another turn.  It has been more than a week since we had a chat!  Please confirm that you are fine.

At 9:44am on July 10, 2017, TxDD said…
Have a good day Feank... Keep hanging in there! Ee all support and encourage each other. Q

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At 12:10pm on December 27, 2016, BabushkaD (Debbie) said…

Frank, I of course could come meet you nearer to Hampden. There's also a Village Inn near Wadsworth and Hampden, right? (by the Kohl's and Chipotle?) I don't know if that's where you shop, or not. You are making the trek, so once you're here, let's make it as convenient for you as possible.
-Debbie

At 10:45pm on January 19, 2016, kemunto said…

Thank you Frank.  I appreciate you,  you have a great sense of humour.  Good night.

At 1:48pm on July 29, 2014, beachgirl3 said…

Hi Frank,  Saw your message and appreciate your thoughts. I doing well, keeping busy. Lots of beach time with the family and had loads of fun .  Anticipating my 44th wedding anniversary with so many emotions. I must say I do feel better, it's not as raw . This is the 3rd one without Gary. It was always a day of celebration. He would bring me roses, and we would go out somewhere to celebrate. On different occasions we celebrated with a destination. Now I must carry on. I will buy those roses and have a nice dinner , drink some wine and toast the love of my life... How lucky we were.....     Please tell me what you have been doing? How are you doing these days?

At 10:59am on March 25, 2013, Morgana (Janet) said…

Frank the "My Likes" list what you have clicked on that you like (the blue heart).

At 8:39pm on March 6, 2013, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Frank. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.  

Here's a good place to start: Basic Site Info  Join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  Those 'chirps' you hear when you're in Widowed Village mean people are talking in the Chat Room; stop in some time and join the conversations.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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