Hi everyone- I lost my husband 3 months ago, after watching him deal with cancer for almost 2 years. I feel like i was grieving for a lot of that time, since we knew it was incurable. It was really…Continue
"Welcome Wren. That is definitely true for me too about kids, there is so much to do.
I have had that same feeling, that if we had paid attention we could have caught it earlier, and maybe he could have had surgery which at least would have…"
"Hi, I just joined this group and your post caught my eye because I lost my husband to cancer 4 months ago after 19 years of marriage and have a 10 & 12 year old. I am also not feeling his loss at every moment. That's not to say that I…"
"Each one of us is so different! While my story may seem similar to yours, we are traveling our paths differently.
I do think I pre-grieved. He lived with his diagnosis of cancer for 11 years; it was the last one which was so hard. When he…"
"Thank you Fromage for your honesty. I have felt that way too. The grieving comes on in waves-but doesnt weigh me down too often. I lost my husband after 3 year struggle with cancer. His death was a relief in some ways for me, mostly because he…"
"3 months, still a very raw time.
My late husband was ill for 3 years, and, like you, at first I was almost just heaving a sigh of relief - he was out of pain. Eventually my grief hit me.
I don't think I ever thought I couldn't…"
"What you feel is what you feel. There is no better or worse. We are all different because of the time and way death came into our lives. We can get comfort here by knowing others are grieving too and we can share our stories and offer our…"
"I was independent, too, Fromage- married the first time at 31 and had a career that gave me a lot of satisfaction. I even went to a meeting of my professional society last May because it was in Toronto and I liked Toronto- also planning to go…"
Athena- some of what you say does resonate with me. Also I have been following the forums for a bit, and I have been impressed with your travel and all that you do!
I don't really feel that loss of identity, that's…"
"I wish I could help, but I really don't have first-hand experience with those feelings, however, I would just like to say. Everyone reacts in their own way and there isn't anything abnormal about your thoughts or feelings. …"
"I'd certainly agree with that. I was watching a YouTube video of a Widor organ toccata, a piece I've always loved, and suddenly I was crying- the heavy bass notes just touched something sad in me. This happens sometimes; you…"
"My grief buddies widowed by anticipated death said the same as you have ...
In general, they began to experience grief later in the year. The ongoing worry & angst at their husband's constant pain & suffering provided them w/relief…"
"Hi, and sorry you have to join us.
One thing you'll learn here is that we're all different. My husband died in November, 2016 at age 77, six months after being diagnosed with acute myeloid leukemia and ten years after being diagnosed…"
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