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shouldn't i feel worse than i do?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Blithe Jun 4. 19 Replies

Hi everyone- I lost my husband 3 months ago, after watching him deal with cancer for almost 2 years. I feel like i was grieving for a lot of that time, since we knew it was incurable. It was really…Continue

 

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Fromage replied to Luv4Z's discussion Now I box?
"Great idea! I have been thinking about that for my teenager- but to do it myself too sounds good1"
Oct 3
Blithe replied to Fromage's discussion shouldn't i feel worse than i do?
"I would consider it a blessing that your grief is not debilitating. I lost my husband 3 weeks ago and I really want to feel better. I'm hoping that there is a finite amount of sadness in me and if I let it out, it will eventually be manageable.…"
Jun 4
Nitabug replied to Fromage's discussion shouldn't i feel worse than i do?
"Hi and welcome. I also often feel that I am not grieving enough. My husband passed suddenly and inexplicably in Dec 2016.  I guess at first I felt it was due to shock. Then I found some things out that no wife should have to know or find. So…"
May 30
Nitabug replied to Fromage's discussion shouldn't i feel worse than i do?
"Hi and welcome. I also often feel that I am not grieving enough. My husband passed suddenly and inexplicably in Dec 2016.  I guess at first I felt it was due to shock. Then I found some things out that no wife should have to know or find. So…"
May 30
Fromage replied to Fromage's discussion shouldn't i feel worse than i do?
"Welcome Wren. That is definitely true for me too about kids, there is so much to do.  I have had that same feeling, that if we had paid attention we could have caught it earlier, and maybe he could have had surgery which at least would have…"
May 23
Wren replied to Fromage's discussion shouldn't i feel worse than i do?
"Hi, I just joined this group and your post caught my eye because I lost my husband to cancer 4 months ago after 19 years of marriage and have a 10 & 12 year old. I am also not feeling his loss at every moment. That's not to say that I…"
May 23
Rainy (Misty) replied to Fromage's discussion shouldn't i feel worse than i do?
"I can see how this explanation makes perfect sense.  "
May 16
booktime (Susan) replied to Fromage's discussion shouldn't i feel worse than i do?
"Each one of us is so different! While my story may seem similar to yours, we are traveling our paths differently. I do think I pre-grieved.  He lived with his diagnosis of cancer for 11 years; it was the last one which was so hard. When he…"
May 12
MaryK replied to Fromage's discussion shouldn't i feel worse than i do?
"Thank you Fromage for your honesty. I have felt that way too. The grieving comes on in waves-but doesnt weigh me down too often. I lost my husband after 3 year struggle with cancer. His death was a relief in some ways for me, mostly because he…"
May 7
sus replied to Fromage's discussion shouldn't i feel worse than i do?
"3 months, still a very raw time. My late husband was ill for 3 years, and, like you, at first I was almost just heaving a sigh of relief - he was out of pain. Eventually my grief hit me.   I don't think I ever thought I couldn't…"
May 7
barbee replied to Fromage's discussion shouldn't i feel worse than i do?
"What you feel is what you feel. There is no better or worse. We are all different because of the time and way death came into our lives. We can get comfort here by knowing others are grieving too and we can share our stories and offer our…"
May 3
Athena53 replied to Fromage's discussion shouldn't i feel worse than i do?
"I was independent, too, Fromage- married the first time at 31 and had a career that gave me a lot of satisfaction.  I even went to a meeting of my professional society last May because it was in Toronto and I liked Toronto- also planning to go…"
May 3
Fromage replied to Fromage's discussion shouldn't i feel worse than i do?
"Thanks everyone.  Athena- some of what you say does resonate with me. Also I have been following the forums for a bit, and I have been impressed with your travel and all that you do! I don't really feel that loss of identity, that's…"
May 2
Rainy (Misty) replied to Fromage's discussion shouldn't i feel worse than i do?
"I wish I could help, but I really don't have first-hand experience with those feelings, however, I would just like to say. Everyone reacts in their own way and there isn't anything abnormal about your thoughts or feelings. …"
May 2
Rainy (Misty) replied to Fromage's discussion shouldn't i feel worse than i do?
"I love that sonnet too. "
May 2
Athena53 replied to Fromage's discussion shouldn't i feel worse than i do?
"I'd certainly agree with that.  I was watching a YouTube video of a Widor organ toccata, a piece I've always loved, and suddenly I was crying- the heavy bass notes just touched something sad in me.  This happens sometimes; you…"
May 2

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At 6:16pm on January 29, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Fromage. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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