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Gary'swife replied to Doug02122014's discussion What to do with spouses personal effects and when?
"Started watching the Netflix show about "Tidying Up"...   tried to watch the episode where the woman was widowed.and had a closet full of her husbands clothes etc.  ..but too much of a trigger.  Now I am in a funk and…"
Jan 26
Gary'swife commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"Hope everyone survived the Christmas holiday, and soon New Year's will be over.   New Years Eve was never a big deal for us, so tonight does not hold any special sadness for me.   I am coming up on 5 hard to…"
Dec 31
Gary'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Shelley - you make some excellent points about medical care.   I have found that if someone is in the hospital and no one comes to check on them in person, (and can ask some questions), they might not receive as good of medical care. My…"
Dec 10, 2018
Gary'swife replied to Crabby's discussion Random Thoughts on a Rough Weekend in the group Suddenly Widowed
" much of what you write reminds me of what I went through.   I cried all the way to and from work each day in the car, during my 45 minute commute.  I finally realized I could no longer listen to music on the radio when I…"
Nov 4, 2018
Gary'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Tess   O yes,a magic wand would be nice indeed.  I'm watching the Halloween special on TV, with many songs from Wicked, which Gary and got to see on Broadway.  I miss him so much because he was so smart, and funny, and we…"
Oct 29, 2018
Gary'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Tess-   I too often want someone to come to my rescue.  My husband has been dead 4 years, and a year ago my oldest brother had a stroke so I am taking care of him.  I will be honest, it's nice to have the company, and he…"
Oct 29, 2018
Gary'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Not really have to do with my loss....but my brother's car was stolen 2 weeks ago, found a new one today,but now the key doesn't work in the ignition.  And, a dog we got a couple of months ago appears to have mange...although I was…"
Oct 14, 2018
Gary'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Tekwriter-  Oh that is tough.  Is your son OK now?   Don't give up on going to grief classes.  It's good to "talk" with people here, but it's also to go to a group."
Oct 5, 2018
Gary'swife replied to Lissa's discussion fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me in the group Born in the 50s
"I decided a long time ago that looks were not that important (side story, a guy I worked with was SOOO good looking all of us women were swooning...but as time went on I realized he was a stupid jerk, and completely forgot about his…"
Sep 14, 2018
Gary'swife replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Maria- no kidding.    You other comments are spot on.... but unless someone calls them on it, they won't get it.  I was at dinner with a couple of friends one time, and was complaining about my mother (as was one other friend),…"
Sep 10, 2018
Gary'swife commented on Miss Em (Emma)'s blog post The right time for everything
"Frank P - WE understand.  My mother was with me for some time when my first husband was dying, and when he died.  About 4 days after the funeral she wanted to help me clean out his closet, get rid of all of his clothes.  I was…"
Sep 1, 2018
Gary'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I hope my post didn't come off wrong....I think I made it sound like a contest....of course we all here know this is no contest anyone would want to be a part of.  It all just sucks."
Aug 22, 2018
Gary'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"@NoLongerInBergenJC Please be kind to yourself.  Our lives have many of those "would have, could have, should have" moments. Hindsight is 20/20.  I have recently been racked by guilt of not helping an older brother who was…"
Aug 22, 2018
Gary'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Melissa - Thank you.  It's nice to know I am not alone. After reading the previous posts about "the death", perhaps I need to write my story as I have not told anyone, nor written it.   Gary was not at all…"
Aug 8, 2018
Gary'swife replied to Kipuka's discussion when one loss triggers feeling of other losses..
"Oh my!!   Yes, we can often postpone and bury grief.... I did so after my first husband died by working.  But, when my father died it seemed to trigger the suppressed grief.    Writing helped me, and has helped other…"
Aug 8, 2018
Gary'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"My life isn't bad, but I oh so miss my husband.  OK, not the bad stuff, just the good stuff.  I know all here will understand.  Just having one of those days."
Aug 8, 2018

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At 7:06am on April 25, 2015, leendah said…

sheri baby said it.........takes awhile for emotional healing...........And we wouldn't have the sorrow if we hadn't loved them..........I would rather have loved than not loved at all.

At 9:59am on June 25, 2014, Shirah said…

Gary's wife,  Hello there,  welcome to WV.  This is an awesome site, and the support is caring and loving.  I joined in May and I am so glad I found it.  It's been wonderful to talk to and get to know people who get "it".  Have a blessed day. 

At 12:38am on June 25, 2014, Damianino! said…
Gary's wife,

Welcome to WV, I am sorry for your loss. I neeive over the next fews days and the succeeding weeks, you will come to appreciate this site like all the members here have always affirmed.

I am just about 2 weekS old in the site and it feels lilke I have known these beautiful companions on WV. Way to. Go. Post whatever issues that bother you on line and you can be sure that members with a wide range of experiences would respond to your queries. Cheers!
At 6:12pm on June 24, 2014, Joyce said…

Welcome Gary'swife:  I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It"


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