"Shelley - you make some excellent points about medical care. I have found that if someone is in the hospital and no one comes to check on them in person, (and can ask some questions), they might not receive as good of medical care.
"Crabby...so much of what you write reminds me of what I went through. I cried all the way to and from work each day in the car, during my 45 minute commute. I finally realized I could no longer listen to music on the radio when I…"
"Tess O yes,a magic wand would be nice indeed. I'm watching the Halloween special on TV, with many songs from Wicked, which Gary and got to see on Broadway. I miss him so much because he was so smart, and funny, and we…"
"Tess- I too often want someone to come to my rescue. My husband has been dead 4 years, and a year ago my oldest brother had a stroke so I am taking care of him. I will be honest, it's nice to have the company, and he…"
"Not really have to do with my loss....but my brother's car was stolen 2 weeks ago, found a new one today,but now the key doesn't work in the ignition. And, a dog we got a couple of months ago appears to have mange...although I was…"
"I decided a long time ago that looks were not that important (side story, a guy I worked with was SOOO good looking all of us women were swooning...but as time went on I realized he was a stupid jerk, and completely forgot about his…"
"Maria- no kidding.
You other comments are spot on.... but unless someone calls them on it, they won't get it. I was at dinner with a couple of friends one time, and was complaining about my mother (as was one other friend),…"
"Frank P - WE understand. My mother was with me for some time when my first husband was dying, and when he died. About 4 days after the funeral she wanted to help me clean out his closet, get rid of all of his clothes. I was…"
Please be kind to yourself. Our lives have many of those "would have, could have, should have" moments.
Hindsight is 20/20.
I have recently been racked by guilt of not helping an older brother who was…"
"Melissa - Thank you. It's nice to know I am not alone.
After reading the previous posts about "the death", perhaps I need to write my story as I have not told anyone, nor written it. Gary was not at all…"
"Oh my!! Yes, we can often postpone and bury grief.... I did so after my first husband died by working. But, when my father died it seemed to trigger the suppressed grief. Writing helped me, and has helped other…"
"Shelley... I often call a friend, maybe one who is also widowed. I remind myself I am still alive, and what do I want to do with the rest of my life. I am not saying this makes missing your spouse any easier.....I also sometimes journal,…"
"Yesterday I went with my brother (who had a stroke and lives with me) to the VA to pass out magazines and homemade cookies. We went to the hospice and the nursing home. My late husband stayed in the nursing home for 6 weeks after…"
Gary's wife, Hello there, welcome to WV. This is an awesome site, and the support is caring and loving. I joined in May and I am so glad I found it. It's been wonderful to talk to and get to know people who get "it". Have a blessed day.
Welcome to WV, I am sorry for your loss. I neeive over the next fews days and the succeeding weeks, you will come to appreciate this site like all the members here have always affirmed.
I am just about 2 weekS old in the site and it feels lilke I have known these beautiful companions on WV. Way to. Go. Post whatever issues that bother you on line and you can be sure that members with a wide range of experiences would respond to your queries. Cheers!
Welcome Gary'swife: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It"