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Gary'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Oh Tess....I hear ya/.   When we are under stress it's just so difficult to deal with these unexpected and irritating things.  I remember after my mother died I was at the library, and the librarian said I had book fines, and I…"
May 15
Gary'swife commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"Nieta Oh my, what a mess with Medicaid.  You are very good to catch all their mistakes, others would not have been so diligent. I posted in another group about finding a blog that mentioned perhaps when you think you are depressed, it's…"
May 14
Gary'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"It's been over 5 years for me, and I have never gotten the joy back in my life.  I found this in a blog today "Lacking much in the way of ego and motivation, we wonder what to do, how to live, what even matters. This is not…"
May 12
Telynn left a comment for Gary'swife
"I just read yur post on your flooded basement and my heart felt for you. My husband just passed April 1 and in that time my freezer quit working, my garage door, my lawnmower, and my car is having all kinds of issues.  I am just trying to get…"
May 9
Gary'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I so wish I had someone to take care of me.  With all the rain I got water in the basement, and either from the water or the fan I have running it appears the pilot light went out on the hot water heater.  I have lit it before, but…"
May 9
Gary'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Oh...eating out.   After my first husband died, I decided I wanted to find a diner where I could eat breakfast by myself on Sat. morning, just read the newspaper and drink coffee.  I visited probably 6 different diners before I found…"
May 4
Gary'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Oh Ron, My husband Gary would have been 70 on April 26.   He died more than 5 years ago, so the grief is not so fresh.  After he died I didn't accomplish much for 3 years.  I had so much I should have been doing, but all I…"
May 1
Gary'swife replied to Crabby's discussion Old Mementos in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Oh Crabby....I cried reading this.  You are not even past your first year and yet must pack up the house and move.  I am past 5 years and now making the 3rd pass at going through Gary's things.   This is my 2nd time, as I…"
Apr 30
Gary'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group More Than One Loss (Multiple Losses)
"TESS   You must be my long lost twin.   I only manage to get something done if I have a deadline.  When I was getting rid of my stuff when I sold my house, I tried to get something out of the house every day.   I…"
Apr 30
Gary'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group More Than One Loss (Multiple Losses)
"Tess- Thank you so much for your comments.  It's nice to know I am not alone.   What I did not mention is I actually did this type of "death cleaning" 15 years ago.  My first husband died in 1990, and in 2002,…"
Apr 29
Gary'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group More Than One Loss (Multiple Losses)
"I have decided I really must do a "death cleaning", getting rid of all but the essentials as I don't have any children, and my family members don't appear to be able to do these kind of things...if I died today I hate to think…"
Apr 29
Marina replied to Gary'swife's discussion For Marina in the group More Than One Loss (Multiple Losses)
"Thank you for your words of encouragement. The whole situation seems surreal. I thought I would bounce back to whatever normal would be by now, but I haven’t. Unless this is my new normal. I pray it isn’t. Knowing that there are groups…"
Apr 15
Gary'swife added a discussion to the group More Than One Loss (Multiple Losses)
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MarinaI saw your post.  I have never used the discussion function before, but thought I would give it a try.   Four months is a very short time.  I know....everyone else thinks you should be better after 3 months or so, but most of us aren't.I lost my first husband when he was 52, and my 2nd when he was 64.   Many, many years apart (I was 20 years younger than my first husband).   It was oh so hard, and I only managed to survive because I threw myself into my job. Sending hugs, and hope this…See More
Apr 14
Gary'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"@Tess     Thank you for your kind words.  It triggered a memory of when I went to go clean out the desk of my first husband when he went on disability...about 6 months before he died.  As I was packing up things, one of his…"
Mar 14
Gary'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"@KJPE   So sorry.  5 months is such a short time.  It's nice this site is helpful to you.  Sending hugs."
Mar 13
Gary'swife commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Watching Netflix tonight and a show called "After Life" came up.  It has Ricky Gervais in it, as a man whose wife died of cancer.  I wasn't sure I could watch it, and I probably could not have before, but as it's been 5…"
Mar 13

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At 2:04pm on May 9, 2019, Telynn said…

I just read yur post on your flooded basement and my heart felt for you. My husband just passed April 1 and in that time my freezer quit working, my garage door, my lawnmower, and my car is having all kinds of issues.  I am just trying to get through it all.  He was so good at taking care of everything.  I don't know why this is all happening right now.  I just keep telling myself I will be ok.  People try and help but it is still my problem.  The car is the scariest though because I have no idea about any of it.

At 7:06am on April 25, 2015, leendah said…

sheri baby said it.........takes awhile for emotional healing...........And we wouldn't have the sorrow if we hadn't loved them..........I would rather have loved than not loved at all.

At 9:59am on June 25, 2014, Shirah said…

Gary's wife,  Hello there,  welcome to WV.  This is an awesome site, and the support is caring and loving.  I joined in May and I am so glad I found it.  It's been wonderful to talk to and get to know people who get "it".  Have a blessed day. 

At 12:38am on June 25, 2014, Damianino! said…
Gary's wife,

Welcome to WV, I am sorry for your loss. I neeive over the next fews days and the succeeding weeks, you will come to appreciate this site like all the members here have always affirmed.

I am just about 2 weekS old in the site and it feels lilke I have known these beautiful companions on WV. Way to. Go. Post whatever issues that bother you on line and you can be sure that members with a wide range of experiences would respond to your queries. Cheers!
At 6:12pm on June 24, 2014, Joyce said…

Welcome Gary'swife:  I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It"

 
 
 

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