"Feb. 18 will be 30 years since my first husband died. My mom came to help me take care of him (he had cancer), and she was so afraid he would die on Valentine's day. He asked her to buy me a box of chocolates and a nice…"
"Lauretta and sadderbytheday You struck a nerve with the comments about having to make every decision, and do everything alone. I realize now just having someone to hold me accountable caused me to get things done. And, although I…"
"Lark....what they said! Your family thinks they are doing the best for your by insisting that you spend the day with them. They do not have any idea what you are feeling...and quite frankly, until I went through this, I did not…"
"It's not really natural, but I found that Benadryl helps. If you are working you might try it on the weekend, as sometimes there is a Benadryl "hangover", and I feel sleepy in the afternoon. It's not for…"
"@Mary This is the right place to come and vent. I am now past 5 years, so not so many melt downs now, but there was a time....... when it happened what seemed daily.
When I was young and someone died I had…"
"Just found out a guy from my "grief group" has died. I quit going to the group over 2 years ago (it is now past 5 years since Gary died), when my brother had a stroke and I am taking care of him.
This guy who died was younger than me…"
"Landi (Linda) I know what you mean. I miss my old life, even now at past 5 years I think about how my life now is dull. What keeps me going every day is I am now taking care of my brother who became disabled 2 years…"
"Melissa and everyone...
I agree it is so nice that people here get it. I, like everyone here, will try to hold it together in the real world. Last night for the first time in a long time I just broke down and cried. I…"
Sorry for the delay in commenting. I hope things to go OK with your Mother's care.
My brother and I went to the VA yesterday, and I got the phone number for the caregiver coordinator, which I believe is a new…"
"Oh Tess....I hear ya/. When we are under stress it's just so difficult to deal with these unexpected and irritating things. I remember after my mother died I was at the library, and the librarian said I had book fines, and I…"
Oh my, what a mess with Medicaid. You are very good to catch all their mistakes, others would not have been so diligent.
I posted in another group about finding a blog that mentioned perhaps when you think you are depressed, it's…"
I just read yur post on your flooded basement and my heart felt for you. My husband just passed April 1 and in that time my freezer quit working, my garage door, my lawnmower, and my car is having all kinds of issues. I am just trying to get through it all. He was so good at taking care of everything. I don't know why this is all happening right now. I just keep telling myself I will be ok. People try and help but it is still my problem. The car is the scariest though because I have no idea about any of it.
Gary's wife, Hello there, welcome to WV. This is an awesome site, and the support is caring and loving. I joined in May and I am so glad I found it. It's been wonderful to talk to and get to know people who get "it". Have a blessed day.
Welcome to WV, I am sorry for your loss. I neeive over the next fews days and the succeeding weeks, you will come to appreciate this site like all the members here have always affirmed.
I am just about 2 weekS old in the site and it feels lilke I have known these beautiful companions on WV. Way to. Go. Post whatever issues that bother you on line and you can be sure that members with a wide range of experiences would respond to your queries. Cheers!
Welcome Gary'swife: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It"