"Just found out a guy from my "grief group" has died. I quit going to the group over 2 years ago (it is now past 5 years since Gary died), when my brother had a stroke and I am taking care of him.
This guy who died was younger than me…"
"Landi (Linda) I know what you mean. I miss my old life, even now at past 5 years I think about how my life now is dull. What keeps me going every day is I am now taking care of my brother who became disabled 2 years…"
"Melissa and everyone...
I agree it is so nice that people here get it. I, like everyone here, will try to hold it together in the real world. Last night for the first time in a long time I just broke down and cried. I…"
Sorry for the delay in commenting. I hope things to go OK with your Mother's care.
My brother and I went to the VA yesterday, and I got the phone number for the caregiver coordinator, which I believe is a new…"
"Oh Tess....I hear ya/. When we are under stress it's just so difficult to deal with these unexpected and irritating things. I remember after my mother died I was at the library, and the librarian said I had book fines, and I…"
Oh my, what a mess with Medicaid. You are very good to catch all their mistakes, others would not have been so diligent.
I posted in another group about finding a blog that mentioned perhaps when you think you are depressed, it's…"
"It's been over 5 years for me, and I have never gotten the joy back in my life. I found this in a blog today
"Lacking much in the way of ego and motivation, we wonder what to do, how to live, what even matters. This is not…"
"I just read yur post on your flooded basement and my heart felt for you. My husband just passed April 1 and in that time my freezer quit working, my garage door, my lawnmower, and my car is having all kinds of issues. I am just trying to get…"
"I so wish I had someone to take care of me. With all the rain I got water in the basement, and either from the water or the fan I have running it appears the pilot light went out on the hot water heater. I have lit it before, but…"
"Oh...eating out. After my first husband died, I decided I wanted to find a diner where I could eat breakfast by myself on Sat. morning, just read the newspaper and drink coffee. I visited probably 6 different diners before I found…"
"Oh Ron, My husband Gary would have been 70 on April 26. He died more than 5 years ago, so the grief is not so fresh. After he died I didn't accomplish much for 3 years. I had so much I should have been doing, but all I…"
"Oh Crabby....I cried reading this.
You are not even past your first year and yet must pack up the house and move. I am past 5 years and now making the 3rd pass at going through Gary's things. This is my 2nd time, as I…"
"TESS You must be my long lost twin. I only manage to get something done if I have a deadline. When I was getting rid of my stuff when I sold my house, I tried to get something out of the house every day. I…"
"Tess- Thank you so much for your comments. It's nice to know I am not alone. What I did not mention is I actually did this type of "death cleaning" 15 years ago. My first husband died in 1990, and in 2002,…"
"I have decided I really must do a "death cleaning", getting rid of all but the essentials as I don't have any children, and my family members don't appear to be able to do these kind of things...if I died today I hate to think…"
I just read yur post on your flooded basement and my heart felt for you. My husband just passed April 1 and in that time my freezer quit working, my garage door, my lawnmower, and my car is having all kinds of issues. I am just trying to get through it all. He was so good at taking care of everything. I don't know why this is all happening right now. I just keep telling myself I will be ok. People try and help but it is still my problem. The car is the scariest though because I have no idea about any of it.
Gary's wife, Hello there, welcome to WV. This is an awesome site, and the support is caring and loving. I joined in May and I am so glad I found it. It's been wonderful to talk to and get to know people who get "it". Have a blessed day.
Welcome to WV, I am sorry for your loss. I neeive over the next fews days and the succeeding weeks, you will come to appreciate this site like all the members here have always affirmed.
I am just about 2 weekS old in the site and it feels lilke I have known these beautiful companions on WV. Way to. Go. Post whatever issues that bother you on line and you can be sure that members with a wide range of experiences would respond to your queries. Cheers!
Welcome Gary'swife: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It"