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Golferths111
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Learning to cope.

Started this discussion. Last reply by Cee Jan 21. 11 Replies

ChristmasThis will be my second Christmas without Brenda here. Last year I did not decorate the house like we usually did, instead I flew to…Continue

Thank you for this site.

Started this discussion. Last reply by widow85 Oct 4, 2016. 1 Reply

It has now been a year since my beloved wife passed away suddenly. I want to thank you for letting me be part of this group. I have persevered through this last year with a lot of help from family,…Continue

 

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Athena53 replied to Golferths111's discussion Learning to cope.
"I'm grateful to be with family over the holidays. My mother died on October 4 and DH died on November 15. Mom was 85, DH was 78, both had forms of cancer that had little chance of survival and chose not to treat aggressively. Both died quietly…"
Dec 24, 2016
booktime (Susan) replied to Golferths111's discussion Learning to cope.
"I think I will try to smile more today and tomorrow! Ed loved seeing me happy so I can do that. I did not put up a tree this year but did put up lights and candles. Also decorated my mantel. One thing I am trying to do is start new traditions. It…"
Dec 24, 2016
cloudwatcher replied to Golferths111's discussion Learning to cope.
"Same to you Cee.  I like the idea of solar lights outside!   I just took 6 packages to mail and it cost me about 115 dollars in postage.  Most of the gifts were handmade, it's the postage and lugging boxes that is a pain.…"
Dec 14, 2016
danny's girl replied to Golferths111's discussion Learning to cope.
"Thank you for sharing that lovely video. My faith tells me that my husband is watching over me and we will be reunited someday. Regarding the Christmas season, my husband passed on December 18, 2010 and his funeral service took place on December…"
Dec 14, 2016
Cee replied to Golferths111's discussion Learning to cope.
"Cloudwatcher.  You are on my decorating wave length this year. I plan to put a wreath up on the front door so the house looks lived in and not deserted. I also put some solar lights on a little tree off the front patio. I like the light…"
Dec 12, 2016
cloudwatcher replied to Golferths111's discussion Learning to cope.
"Why do you have to?  Will you have visitors?  I'm just thinking it may upset you.  This is the 3rd year for me.  I put up wreaths outside and may not put up anything else, unless my neighbor comes over for tea after the…"
Dec 11, 2016
Annie replied to Golferths111's discussion Learning to cope.
"I am coming upon my 8th Christmas. I don't have family other than my adult daughter. We have coped by going away at Christmas. I don't have my home anymore and my apt doesn't feel like home.  It's a difficult time of year.…"
Dec 11, 2016
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Golferths111's discussion Learning to cope.
"(((HUGS GOLFERTHS))) "Unfortunately, there is no "magic pill"--nor "road map-- This is true. What does exist is alot of hard work mentally, emotionally, spiritually & physically. However, we do have choices .. I chose a…"
Dec 9, 2016
chef (John) replied to Golferths111's discussion Learning to cope.
"Unfortunately, there is no "magic pill"--nor "road map--which is I what I wanted when I was going through my first year alone. In the end, I realized I had to survey the territory and draw that map myself. Give yourself the time to…"
Dec 8, 2016
stevie60 replied to Golferths111's discussion Learning to cope.
"My wife also loved this time of year. She would spend the whole month making cookies, shopping and hiding in the spare room wrapping presents. The kids really loved to come over Christmas morning and see what was in their stockings. Last season my…"
Dec 7, 2016
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Learning to cope.

ChristmasThis will be my second Christmas without Brenda here. Last year I did not decorate the house like we usually did, instead I flew to Missouri to be with daughter-in-law and my grandkids. Our son had passed away in 2013 and then to lose Brenda was almost too much for me and I had to get away. A few days ago a friend sent me this video and it brought tears to my eyes. I knew that I have to decorate for Christmas and to celebrate…See More
Dec 7, 2016
Golferths111 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Dublin-I kept my wife's ashes for a year at my house. I just couldn't let her go. Finally after talking to my daughter and my mom, I interned her ashes at DFW National Cemetery on her birthday. It was one of the toughest things I had to…"
Nov 23, 2016
Golferths111 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"It is very tough during the holidays. After Brenda died in August, I couldn't even think about decorating the house. She always decorated the inside and I did the outside. I left the decorations in the shed. What I did do was go to Missouri and…"
Nov 16, 2016
Golferths111 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"@country Girl; I kept my wife's urn for a year at the house. It was hard to let her go. I finally had her interned at DFW National Cemetery on her birthday. I still talk to my wife, in fact every morning before I had her interned, I would get…"
Oct 20, 2016
Golferths111 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Mixelated-I know what you mean. When I met my wife I never thought I would ever marry. I was enjoying the free easy life of bachelorhood then I met Brenda. My mind went totally out of control & I fell head over heels for her. Only 2 weeks after…"
Oct 14, 2016
Golferths111 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Mary H; Please don't feel that way. Since my wife's passing a year ago my life has been up & down like a roller coaster. I tried the dating online and that was a joke. The only one I got to meet was after money and after she found out…"
Oct 12, 2016

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At 8:33pm on September 29, 2016, Patience (Diane) said…
Welcome to Widville, Golferths111. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the "help" link at the top of the page. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. There is a chat room available 24/7. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.
 
 
 

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