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Roxi replied to GrievingandLost37's discussion 1 Year Anniversary in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Ciao gal it's a year also    for me....and i've the same feelings as you...always i'm missing him, the pain inside me is still intense...and i have friends who understand and try to help...but i survive, i see the life goes…"
May 1
Flissa replied to GrievingandLost37's discussion 1 Year Anniversary in the group Suddenly Widowed
"It's not easy.  I just passed the five year anniversary of my husband's death.    I'd like to say it does get easier, but while you may not burst into tears as often, the pain is always there, sometimes harder to deal…"
Apr 30
GrievingandLost37 added a discussion to the group Suddenly Widowed
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1 Year Anniversary

I am coming up to the 1 year anniversary of my husband's sudden death. How do you cope with such a profound loss? One minute I am fine and the next minute I am crying. People are still supportive, however, it is hard for them to understand what I am going through.  I am moving forward day by day as best I can. I have a great support network of family and friends. I just miss my husband.See More
Apr 30
KJPE replied to GrievingandLost37's discussion The Shock Has Worn Off in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Dear f650cs, First thing in the morning is a tough time. I cry then too.  I'll think of you tomorrow morning, and hope that you get your morning tears out just fine, every tear that you need to shed.  Wipe your tears before you go out…"
Mar 25
KJPE replied to GrievingandLost37's discussion The Shock Has Worn Off in the group Suddenly Widowed
"How heartbreaking that the only place to cry is by yourself.  that's what a therapist is for - therapists (and I am one) are totally used to people crying, have no feelings of shock or embarrassment, know enough to sit with you quietly…"
Mar 25
riet replied to GrievingandLost37's discussion The Shock Has Worn Off in the group Suddenly Widowed
"dear f650cs This is really terrible: Friends that prevent you from crying in front of them. Do it anyway, otherwise you will get sick. How can you remain silent and pretend that nothing has happened if you have this terrible pain? My dear husband…"
Mar 25
Callie2 commented on GrievingandLost37's blog post How Do You Deal with Grief?
"Sorry for your loss, I know it is difficult. You ask “how you deal with grief?”  I think about all you can do is go with it.  Cry, allow yourself to feel it, do whatever you need to do. You can vent your feelings here among…"
Mar 14
KJPE replied to GrievingandLost37's discussion The Shock Has Worn Off in the group Suddenly Widowed
"I just heard from a grief expert that the period from 9 mos. to a year after the death of a spouse is usually more intense than the months preceding because of the upcoming anniversary.  All normal -- and we can hope that perhaps the intensity…"
Mar 13
f650cs replied to GrievingandLost37's discussion The Shock Has Worn Off in the group Suddenly Widowed
"I know just how you feel. I start every morning crying when I realize, again, that he is still not here. I guess I wake up hoping it was just a horrible bad dream. I just miss him so much. I can't imagine what I'm supposed to do for the…"
Mar 13
KJPE replied to GrievingandLost37's discussion The Shock Has Worn Off in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Dear GrievingandLost37, I am so sorry that you lost your husband so suddenly, as did everyone in this group, and hope that you will find some comfort knowing that everyone on Soaring Spirits is in the same boat.  Shock protected me a little…"
Mar 2
Rainy (Misty) replied to GrievingandLost37's discussion The Shock Has Worn Off in the group Suddenly Widowed
"I'm sorry for your loss, thank goodness you have a good support system.  "
Feb 26
Melissa replied to GrievingandLost37's discussion The Shock Has Worn Off in the group Suddenly Widowed
"I'm so sorry for your loss. It's so hard when the shock wears off.  I lost my husband 16 months ago, and I don't cry all the time anymore. I do things; I get out more and have more interest in things again, but the huge empty…"
Feb 24
alwayssmilemichele replied to GrievingandLost37's discussion The Shock Has Worn Off in the group Suddenly Widowed
"GrievingandLost37, I hear you.  It is good that you have support but they are not your husband, right? You will be grateful and loved by your family however, you will miss your spouse.  It is the love price we pay.  You will rebuild a…"
Feb 23
DIVA70 replied to GrievingandLost37's discussion The Shock Has Worn Off in the group Suddenly Widowed
"So sorry for your loss. This is not a 'club" we joined voluntarily. It is good to have supportive family and friends during this time. We accept what we can not change and hopefully begin to carve out a 'new" normal It's…"
Feb 23
GrievingandLost37 added a discussion to the group Suddenly Widowed
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The Shock Has Worn Off

The shock of losing my husband has slowly worn off.  I am left with the reality that he is never coming home.  I will never hear his voice again.  He will never walk in the door of our home.  While the shock protected me during the first few months, I now have to accept the fact that my husband is dead.  My brain is still trying to process what happened.  My heart is still shattered.  I feel lost without him.  We shared everything together.  Even just the simplest things like eating a meal…See More
Feb 23
KJPE commented on GrievingandLost37's blog post How Do You Deal with Grief?
"I lost my husband October, 2018, just 3 months ago.  I cry multiple times a day, and I too ask myself when I will feel some peace and comfort.  From everything that I understand at this point, we only have one way to deal with the grief…"
Jan 30

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How Do You Deal with Grief?

Posted on January 20, 2019 at 11:15am 3 Comments

Since my husband died suddenly, I have good days and bad days. The tears hit me out of the blue.  I could be at work or on my way home or sitting on the couch and then I start crying.  I will hear a song on the radio that reminds me of him. I miss our life together.  I miss my husband and best friend.  How do you deal with grief?  It is hard for people to understand what I am going through right now. No one knows what to say to me. Being a widow is tough.  I have a good support network.

How Do You Deal with Grief?

Posted on January 20, 2019 at 11:15am 0 Comments

Since my husband died suddenly, I have good days and bad days. The tears hit me out of the blue.  I could be at work or on my way home or sitting on the couch and then I start crying.  I will hear a song on the radio that reminds me of him. I miss our life together.  I miss my husband and best friend.  How do you deal with grief?  It is hard for people to understand what I am going through right now. No one knows what to say to me. Being a widow is tough.  I have a good support network.

How Do You Cope with the Death of a Spouse?

Posted on January 6, 2019 at 7:04am 4 Comments

My dear husband recently died quite suddenly and I am devastated.  I feel like I am in a nightmare that never ends. How do you cope with the sudden death of a spouse?

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At 3:07pm on January 2, 2019, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, GrievingandLost37. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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