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Callie2 commented on GrievingandLost37's blog post How Do You Deal with Grief?
"Sorry for your loss, I know it is difficult. You ask “how you deal with grief?”  I think about all you can do is go with it.  Cry, allow yourself to feel it, do whatever you need to do. You can vent your feelings here among…"
Mar 14
KJPE replied to GrievingandLost37's discussion The Shock Has Worn Off in the group Suddenly Widowed
"I just heard from a grief expert that the period from 9 mos. to a year after the death of a spouse is usually more intense than the months preceding because of the upcoming anniversary.  All normal -- and we can hope that perhaps the intensity…"
Mar 13
f650cs replied to GrievingandLost37's discussion The Shock Has Worn Off in the group Suddenly Widowed
"I know just how you feel. I start every morning crying when I realize, again, that he is still not here. I guess I wake up hoping it was just a horrible bad dream. I just miss him so much. I can't imagine what I'm supposed to do for the…"
Mar 13
KJPE replied to GrievingandLost37's discussion The Shock Has Worn Off in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Dear GrievingandLost37, I am so sorry that you lost your husband so suddenly, as did everyone in this group, and hope that you will find some comfort knowing that everyone on Soaring Spirits is in the same boat.  Shock protected me a little…"
Mar 2
Rainy (Misty) replied to GrievingandLost37's discussion The Shock Has Worn Off in the group Suddenly Widowed
"I'm sorry for your loss, thank goodness you have a good support system.  "
Feb 26
Melissa replied to GrievingandLost37's discussion The Shock Has Worn Off in the group Suddenly Widowed
"I'm so sorry for your loss. It's so hard when the shock wears off.  I lost my husband 16 months ago, and I don't cry all the time anymore. I do things; I get out more and have more interest in things again, but the huge empty…"
Feb 24
alwayssmilemichele replied to GrievingandLost37's discussion The Shock Has Worn Off in the group Suddenly Widowed
"GrievingandLost37, I hear you.  It is good that you have support but they are not your husband, right? You will be grateful and loved by your family however, you will miss your spouse.  It is the love price we pay.  You will rebuild a…"
Feb 23
DIVA70 replied to GrievingandLost37's discussion The Shock Has Worn Off in the group Suddenly Widowed
"So sorry for your loss. This is not a 'club" we joined voluntarily. It is good to have supportive family and friends during this time. We accept what we can not change and hopefully begin to carve out a 'new" normal It's…"
Feb 23
GrievingandLost37 added a discussion to the group Suddenly Widowed
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The Shock Has Worn Off

The shock of losing my husband has slowly worn off.  I am left with the reality that he is never coming home.  I will never hear his voice again.  He will never walk in the door of our home.  While the shock protected me during the first few months, I now have to accept the fact that my husband is dead.  My brain is still trying to process what happened.  My heart is still shattered.  I feel lost without him.  We shared everything together.  Even just the simplest things like eating a meal…See More
Feb 23
KJPE commented on GrievingandLost37's blog post How Do You Deal with Grief?
"I lost my husband October, 2018, just 3 months ago.  I cry multiple times a day, and I too ask myself when I will feel some peace and comfort.  From everything that I understand at this point, we only have one way to deal with the grief…"
Jan 30
KJPE replied to GrievingandLost37's discussion When Friends Step Back in the group Suddenly Widowed
"How perfectly you describe what we need in these early months after our beloved husbands' sudden deaths.  I might quote you & send the email around to a few people!  My guess is they don't know what to do and would love to…"
Jan 29
silverlady replied to GrievingandLost37's discussion When Friends Step Back in the group Suddenly Widowed
"My heart goes out to you, GrievingandLost37.  It is so hard having to deal with others being uncomfortable with our reality on top of all we are dealing with as widows/widowers. My husband died suddenly of cardiac arrest almost five years ago,…"
Jan 27
DIVA70 replied to GrievingandLost37's discussion When Friends Step Back in the group Suddenly Widowed
"First, let me say I'm sorry for your loss. I understand completely. I lost my husband nine months ago. I think that after a couple of months people just want to get back to their normal lives.....and they wish you would come back too. What they…"
Jan 26
shelley replied to GrievingandLost37's discussion When Friends Step Back in the group Suddenly Widowed
"I am so sorry, GrievingandLost37, and know exactly what you're talking about.  It's been 14 months for me.  My best friend of 40+ has not reached out to me in over a year.  I've made good friends with other widows from…"
Jan 26
GrievingandLost37 added a discussion to the group Suddenly Widowed
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When Friends Step Back

Since my husband died suddenly, my family and our friends were there for me during the first couple of months.  My family was so supportive and continues to be supportive for me.  Then, some friends started to step back.  They have their own lives, spouses, kids and friends. I hear from some of them less and less, or not at all. No one knows what to say to me and some people even walk on eggshells because they do not want to upset me.  Yet I need to talk about my husband.  He was the love of my…See More
Jan 26
sis commented on GrievingandLost37's blog post How Do You Deal with Grief?
"For me, I have decided to just work on one hour at a time. Some are good, some just ok, and others just plain sad. I lost my husband suddenly in March 2018 and life as I'd known it for almost 50 years changed in a moment. I have tears when I go…"
Jan 20

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How Do You Deal with Grief?

Posted on January 20, 2019 at 11:15am 3 Comments

Since my husband died suddenly, I have good days and bad days. The tears hit me out of the blue.  I could be at work or on my way home or sitting on the couch and then I start crying.  I will hear a song on the radio that reminds me of him. I miss our life together.  I miss my husband and best friend.  How do you deal with grief?  It is hard for people to understand what I am going through right now. No one knows what to say to me. Being a widow is tough.  I have a good support network.

How Do You Deal with Grief?

Posted on January 20, 2019 at 11:15am 0 Comments

Since my husband died suddenly, I have good days and bad days. The tears hit me out of the blue.  I could be at work or on my way home or sitting on the couch and then I start crying.  I will hear a song on the radio that reminds me of him. I miss our life together.  I miss my husband and best friend.  How do you deal with grief?  It is hard for people to understand what I am going through right now. No one knows what to say to me. Being a widow is tough.  I have a good support network.

How Do You Cope with the Death of a Spouse?

Posted on January 6, 2019 at 7:04am 4 Comments

My dear husband recently died quite suddenly and I am devastated.  I feel like I am in a nightmare that never ends. How do you cope with the sudden death of a spouse?

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At 3:07pm on January 2, 2019, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, GrievingandLost37. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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