"Neush...first year is the toughest. It’s floundering, trying to redefine priorities and realities. It’s trying to figure out a life of self after a lifetime of us, we and our.
i remember that first year as pure…"
"I am so glad you have many friends supporting you thru these first months! They are the hardest.
Yes....beginning to realize you will have to go forward without him and build a new identity is a toughie.
Give yourself time. I know…"
"Just me. Big hugs. It’s certainly awful when we realize that ALL our relationships change when we lose our mate..even (almost ESPECIALLY, I think, with our children). Everyone viewed us as half of a pair. Now we have to…"
"High alert indeed. If mother is escaping with son, there is a reason. Two sides to every story though. Bothers me that he is especially interested in befriending your wife. Would indicate that he is seeking assistance of some kind. (Like the…"
"Athena....I feel exactly the same way you do. The loss in 7/2014 was devastating, but expected. I was also chief caretaker of my hubby and as his health declined the last year, my worry was constant. I, too, had to take over…"
"Dougn52...yes. It is strange how just the simplest, ordinary tasks suddenly bring back a memory. For me it was 7/2014. And yet there are times still when it all seems so unbelievable that he's gone. I can even sometimes…"
"Good for YOU, Froggie!! That is quite a big step you just accomplished! Try to be proud of yourself,
not only for the accomplishment, but also for the effort. And YES, I do understand having shaky knees. Every new thing…"
"Pvtess...his family sounds emotionally cold...and it looks like it isn't directed to only you. They seem to have been like this to your hubby and to one another. Yes, they are a link to your late hubby. If you want to keep that link, then doing…"
"Here it is June 2016. Almost up to the 2 year anniversary on 7/29. It feels as if that was another lifetime I lead back before Harry's passing. And now I lead this new, lonely lifetime. I keep myself as busy as…"
"Sandi....that's what I do too....just leave earlier than originally planned. I call it my "quick escape". When things get overwhelming for me I feel a strong urge to just leave and go home and that is exactly what I do,…"
"Well....I made it thru Thanksgiving and our 30th wedding anniversary and his 80th birthday. Whew!
I find myself looking at the world these days with two sets of eyes...his and mine. Most alarming to me lately is that I find myself…"
"Yes. We are always here for support. I lost my Harry in July 2014. It seems like yesterday...and it seems like a lifetime ago at this point. I am starting to learn to live a "life after devastating loss". Learning to live a ME life after…"
Sorry you lost your best friend. Death jumps up and grabs indescrimanently. Pancreatic cancer is devastating. I take it the diagnosis and death were close together?
Remarried again after only 20 months since you lost Darlene??? !!! Amazed. I…"
"Grenville....I am now 3 months into 2nd year since... In many ways I find it easier this year. All the details of estate are settled now. I have managed to make our home...my home now. Rearranged furniture, donated things,…"
"Bonnie....I can relate fully to what you are saying. I, too, am at 14 month since Harry passed. I think our feelings have to do with witnessing the death. It is so devastatingly crushing. It kinda puts things into some…"
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