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Life is suck!!!

Posted on April 8, 2014 at 5:06am 8 Comments

Again, life is suck. I must start packing suitcases to fly back to Australia next Tuesday. Starting little by little everyday. Today I got suitcase out, still have stuff in it as I didn't take things out all yet. Bloody hell, our wedding cards, Valentine, Bday cards in there. Hit me hard.

I am now laying in empty room, looking at the ceiling thinking why the hell it happened to us??? Johns service will be on April 27. Suck!!! I should think of eulogy too. First time I know that word,… Continue

Feeling proud!

Posted on April 7, 2014 at 4:54am 5 Comments

5 weeks, 4 days since my husband John died. I have never felt so alone in this world as I feel right now. To have amazing love and lost it, suck!!!

Today I pushed myself to turn on our laptop to compose an email for the Australian Immigration. They asked me to email them on my visa requirement. In my head, when it comes to Immigration, John is the one who helps me solve it. Check again, well, only me in this room, John is gone, his stuff is here, but John is gone. What the hell I am gonna… Continue

5 weeks without my honey John

Posted on April 3, 2014 at 2:31am 2 Comments

What can I say? It sucks!!!! Life without you is suck. Hang on, I can't say this is a LIFE. I am not living, just existing, so it can't be called life. Life was John and Hanh, together as husband and wife, cooked together, ate together, went to picnic together, slept together, talked to each other, argued to each other, understood each other... This is not our plan. John didn't want to leave me alone in this life with all unsolved problem, after married 7 months. So why John had to… Continue


Posted on April 1, 2014 at 3:57am 0 Comments

Everyday is so bloody hard for me. Waking up is hard, waking up seeing the empty side, John is not here for me anymore to hold. I used to wake up and hold him on the back, kiss him and hug him so tight. Used to say good morning honey to him n we kiss... Why now nothing like that anymore?

I let you go, and next thing I know was you died, due to accident. The thing that I scared the most since we got back to Vietnam. Stupid me to let you go, you said you only wanted some space, you would be… Continue

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At 6:19am on February 4, 2015, my roses said…

My roses

Hahn  I have not heard how you are for so long really hope you are ok.

Let me know whether you are still in Perth etc.


At 9:50am on June 25, 2014, Shirah said…

Hahn, I am so very sorry for your sudden loss.  I remembered responding to something you had written right after I joined WV, you were so sad...I hope you are doing better now.  This is not an easy journey and you are so young.  

I've read much of what you wrote here and it hurts my heart, I feel your pain.  MY husband didn't die suddenly but the last 8 months of his life he was very ill and in a great deal of  pain.  We had the time to say all the things we needed to say and I am grateful everyday for that. 

Prayers and hugs...Shalom(peace)

At 6:55am on April 25, 2014, my roses said…

Dear Hahn

 I HAVE ANSWERED YOUR EMAIL WHICH HAS JUST ARRIVED.  I hope you get to see it before the

memorial service, as I think it could be helpful for you. 

Much love and blessings

At 1:41pm on April 13, 2014, Petal said…

Hi Hanh,

Thank you for your nice comment on my picture with my beloved Scott.  i am so sorry that your husband died.  i read some of what you wrote and it is all heartbreaking.  Why oh why do these things happen?  My husband died suddenly in the middle of the night from a heart attack, so like you, i had no warning and he was just ripped away from me.  Its been 18 1/2 months now, but i can hardly bear life anymore and i don't know what my purpose is.  Life is sad.  i am so sorry for your sadness and to be a widow at age 28.  i am so sorry.  :(

At 7:21pm on March 25, 2014, JPSwifeCathy said…

John + Hanh      John + Cathy:)

At 7:11pm on March 10, 2014, JPSwifeCathy said…
I'm a widow survivor--23 monthes!!
At 6:59pm on March 10, 2014, JPSwifeCathy said…
Hang on! IT WILL GET BETTER:). So sorry for your loss:(. Cathy
At 8:24am on March 8, 2014, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, Hanh. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

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