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Why no messages??

Started this discussion. Last reply by Rainy (Misty) May 16. 4 Replies

Its just past 10 months since Helen has gone.  Whenever we went out for the day/evening when we got back home there was always (well usually!!) a message left on the phone.  Now I know that a lot…Continue

Do others have problems with photo's

Started this discussion. Last reply by widow85 Aug 7, 2017. 3 Replies

My Helen passed away 30th June, going through all the trauma's that all know about on  this site but why is it that some photo's can give comfort and some healing whilst others just seem to send me…Continue

 

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HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Amy, so sorry for your loss and in such a obvious traumatic experience. Any loss is horrendous but Helen and I knew what was about to happen, losing your husband in that manner must have so so bad, and so so bad for your young children.  I am…"
Tuesday
HelensRay replied to Luv4Z's discussion 6weeks out and overwhelming sadness in the group Widowed in 2017
"Oh Luz, your position just makes me so sad and I do have tears.  I was so fortunate to have my Helen for 50 years but to lose your love so soon and with so many small children.  I thought my heartache was bad but I just can't imagine…"
Monday
HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Chronicler, so sorry that you are here with us. I too have just passed the first year milestone, I don't call it an anniversary, thats something you celebrate.  I have been fortunate to have family and friends that have not tried to…"
Jul 9
HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"cushty, I so feel for you all our feelings are different but the hurt is just so bad. I lost my Helen 30th June 2017, the past 2 weeks up to that milestone (not anniversary - thats not the word) has been so bad, just remembering those last 2 weeks…"
Jul 2
Rainy (Misty) replied to HelensRay's discussion Why no messages??
"HI, I think it's for several reasons.  People, in general, don't understand, when the funeral is over it's over (for them), they don't want to intrude because they have no idea what to say, because they are afraid of you,…"
May 16
BobbiG replied to HelensRay's discussion Why no messages??
"well, you sound like a nice caring man! Being sad and feeling alone is a constant for all of us going through our losses. Sometimes if I’m around people I feel fine. I chat and smile because the connection to anyone, even for a short while…"
May 15
HelensRay replied to HelensRay's discussion Why no messages??
"Hi Bobbig, I am going through a phase of feeling a bit sorry for myself. Last night I was feeling a little bit lower than usual and perhaps a little bit hurt as well. And I should say not hurt for me but hurt for Helen.  I have a good group of…"
May 8
BobbiG replied to HelensRay's discussion Why no messages??
"Hi! What i’m learning as a recent widow, it is important to reach out to people you like or have been a friend to you before. Post on facebook if you do that. People in ited me out quite a bit in the first couple of months but now i contact or…"
May 8
HelensRay posted a discussion

Why no messages??

Its just past 10 months since Helen has gone.  Whenever we went out for the day/evening when we got back home there was always (well usually!!) a message left on the phone.  Now I know that a lot were left for Helen but some were for me!!!  Now - nothing!!!  I know its me being sorry for myself and I know no way near as popular as Helen - but no messages!!!See More
May 8
HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Hi Diana, I think all on this site know in their way of what you are going through.We all know how hard it is to keep on going when your heart has been ripped out.  I lost my Helen 10 months ago and have, over the past 3 weeks, been feeling…"
May 2
HelensRay replied to Shoosie2's discussion A Ton of Bricks in the group Widowed in 2017
"Steph, I could say snap, snap, snap, snap to everything that you said. Its now nearly 10 months since I lost Helen and its just so hard.  I have this routine where at night I take Helen's photo to bed and in the morning I take it…"
Apr 18
HelensRay commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"Just to set the scene, I live in the UK and lost my Helen on the 30th June 2017.  Last Friday our 15 year old granddaughter went to South Africa with a party from her school.  Bethinn and 10 of her fellow pupils have gone for 15 days to…"
Apr 15
HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Redwidow, so sorry about your loss and particularly the circumstances surrounding it. The loss is just so hard, Helen passed away 9 months ago last Friday, but when you have the pain and anger about the manner of the loss you must be in the…"
Apr 1
HelensRay commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"I wear my wedding ring and I wear Helen's ring on my small finger left hand, can't imagine taking it off."
Mar 16
HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Steph, we all could have been better one way or another.  I spent years away from home working and leaving Helen and the boys alone, and consoling myself that I was doing it for the family.  As it was I did do better but unfortunately…"
Mar 2
HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Marty so sorry that you have joined us and it seems that you and Sharon have had a hard time before Sharon was taken away. Like you Helen always stood by my side but would always say that whilst she loved me dearly she didn't want to live in my…"
Mar 2

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At 11:52pm on July 27, 2017, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, HelensRay. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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