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HelensRay
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Why no messages??

Started this discussion. Last reply by Rainy (Misty) May 16, 2018. 4 Replies

Its just past 10 months since Helen has gone.  Whenever we went out for the day/evening when we got back home there was always (well usually!!) a message left on the phone.  Now I know that a lot…Continue

Do others have problems with photo's

Started this discussion. Last reply by widow85 Aug 7, 2017. 3 Replies

My Helen passed away 30th June, going through all the trauma's that all know about on  this site but why is it that some photo's can give comfort and some healing whilst others just seem to send me…Continue

 

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HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Phyllis, no doesn't get easier, just gets different. I lost Helen 3 years ago just short of our 48th wedding anniversary. The first couple of years were hell. Had all the usual advice of some people but fortunately my close friends never gave…"
May 27
HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Hi Tom, that must have been so hard for you to read. If my wife had written a journal/diary I would have read them as well, I think it is what most people would. I cannot and would not compare my situation to yours but I do wonder if I had read my…"
Apr 22
HelensRay replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"Dee, like you I am not looking for a new "friend", because at the moment I can't imagine anyone in Helens' place but this loneliness is an uncomfortable place so that may change.  However I think this song reflects where I…"
Jan 31
HelensRay replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"Dee, I lost Helen 2 and half years ago but I still wear my ring and also Helen's ring on my little finger. When I am out with friends and family I am well "normal" but when I get back home and close that door its just me and…"
Jan 30
HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Hi Donald So sorry that you have joined this club. I lost my wonderful brave Helen 2 and half years ago to that B*"!t"rd cancer. So remember those lonely sleepless nights and the pain and hurt. For me sleep has now become a retreat for…"
Jan 17
HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Hi Brian, so sorry for your loss and the pain you are going through.  I am 2 and half years down that tunnel and whilst I am still in the tunnel it is not quite so dark, but it does seem never ending. I have a wonderful group of friends and a…"
Jan 17
HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Rose (if I can call you Rose!!!) I know how you feel.  I do have really good friends but they are my(!!) friends, our friends (the ones I shared with Helen) all seem to have disappeared.  I know they were more Helen's friends than…"
Aug 26, 2019
HelensRay replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Just listened to this and it just broke me up, Bruce Springsteen: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RmUG1ffgKFw"
Aug 22, 2019
HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Mark I lost Helen 30 June 2017, just 2 years from her cancer diagnosis. I am getting to the point when a lot of days have good in them but too easily pulled back into, not really bad days, but not so good days. After 50 years together I don't…"
Aug 13, 2019
HelensRay replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Thanks for sharing setlib, this sharing is one of the reasons I am thankful for WV, it just lets me know that I am not on my own. The odd "I am so sorry", or "I know how you feel" (how bad is that!!) is supposed to get where we…"
Jul 18, 2019
HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Hi Deb, so so sorry that you are here with us. What I have learned is that grief can't be shared we all carry our grief alone, but here you can let that grief out. Get that worm out of your head by expressing it here. You need your family,…"
Jun 30, 2019
HelensRay replied to Rich's discussion Would you do it again?
"Somebody asked me a while ago if I would want to meet up with anyone else (I lost Helen 30 June 2017).  I said I was'nt sure, did not like the loneliness but I just did'nt think I would ever find anyone who I could love as much as…"
Jun 17, 2019
HelensRay replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Yes J, agree 100% Yes, Yes Yes"
May 21, 2019
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Apr 27, 2019
HelensRay commented on jlsrdh's blog post I MISS... YOU'RE SMILING FACE
"Thank you JL, touching me with your foot in bed - wow brought everything back, and in a nice sweet and loving way"
Apr 27, 2019
HelensRay replied to Rainy (Misty)'s discussion What is going on with the shifting of emotions?
"Misty, I had this posted on my facebook…"
Apr 13, 2019

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At 11:52pm on July 27, 2017, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, HelensRay. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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