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Heregoes
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Heregoes replied to saltypearl's discussion Trust fund donations ettiquette
"I'm in the same boat. I have no idea how to even contact these people. Many of them are total strangers."
Jan 27, 2014
Heregoes commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly widowed
"Yeah the girls are 3 months and 2.5 years. They need their mom- even more now that they don't have their dad. I am trying to give them the most "normal" life I can right now. I've been a stay at home mom so there is a lot of…"
Jan 27, 2014
Lonely Dad left a comment for Heregoes
"Heregoes- I lost my wife - Dec. 1, 2013.  Leaving behind two boys (4.5 yrs and 21 mos.).  Everyone has been telling me that I'm strong, doing a good job, and so forth . . . .  My eyes water and swell and I want to tell them…"
Jan 27, 2014
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Jan 26, 2014
juliem left a comment for Heregoes
"You have just exactly described my emotions in the early days and months. I am just so devastated for you, it's hard to imagine that it could have happened! The tears in others eyes would remind me something must have really happened and it…"
Jan 26, 2014
Heregoes commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly widowed
"Everyone keeps telling me how strong I am. I feel like that crawl in to a hole, disappear from the world, massive cry fest sort of stereotypical grief would be a luxury. My girls are too young and they NEED me. They make me take one day at a time.…"
Jan 26, 2014
JK (OK) left a comment for Heregoes
"Heregoes, im so sorry for your loss, and your daughters loss. I alsi mourn for our daughters more than myself. But, sometimes i think they are doing better than i am. You are correct, time no longer makes sense, and will not for a while. It is so…"
Jan 26, 2014
BESTBUDS1 [Norman} left a comment for Heregoes
"Welcome Heregoes to the place no one ever wants to be..You will find comfort and love from all that are here and you will fit right in so be yourself and accept my heartfely sorrow for each of you ..Beautiful family..Blessings Norman"
Jan 26, 2014
Heregoes commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly widowed
"My husband died in a weight lifting accident on Christmas Eve. I can't believe it's been a month already. It seems like just yesterday and an eternity ago at the same time. It seems so surreal and absurd that telling people for the first…"
Jan 26, 2014
Heregoes commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 80s
"I lost my 36 year old husband to an accident on Christmas Eve. My girls are 3 months and 2.5 years. I mourn more for them than me. He was an amazing father and I'm sad they won't remember him. I'm sorry you all are going through this…"
Jan 25, 2014
eliana left a comment for Heregoes
"Welcome to Widville, Heregoes.  I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here. Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join…"
Jan 8, 2014

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At 6:01am on January 27, 2014, Lonely Dad said…

Heregoes-

I lost my wife - Dec. 1, 2013.  Leaving behind two boys (4.5 yrs and 21 mos.).  Everyone has been telling me that I'm strong, doing a good job, and so forth . . . .  My eyes water and swell and I want to tell them thank you, but at the same time I want them to know that I don't want this new dad/mom role.  I really thought my life (as well as everyone else) was to grow old and share a wealth of memories.

So I completely understand your frustrations and mixed of emotions.  Hang in there and hopefully you will find the moment of peace in your heart.

Lonely Dad

At 1:06pm on January 26, 2014, juliem said…
You have just exactly described my emotions in the early days and months. I am just so devastated for you, it's hard to imagine that it could have happened! The tears in others eyes would remind me something must have really happened and it must be true! I am certain our heads only allow a certain amount in so we can function and care for those that need us. We have 4 daughters aged 7 to 12, and your girls are so young judging by your photo. Do you have someone you can pour this out to without judgement or reservation? It helps a great deal as you take that daily trek. I'm 10 months down the road, and you just took me straight back to day 1. I wish I lived in USA and I could come to see you. Best advise I got was to let yourself feel every emotion - good and bad - it's all ok. When you feel ok and wonder why, accept the emotion as your own and don't question it. We are resilient creatures. Don't know how or why but we are. You are not alone x
At 6:02am on January 26, 2014, JK (OK) said…
Heregoes, im so sorry for your loss, and your daughters loss. I alsi mourn for our daughters more than myself. But, sometimes i think they are doing better than i am. You are correct, time no longer makes sense, and will not for a while. It is so early for you, you are in a fog. So sometimes it will just hit you out of nowhere. Im at a year, and im still in the fog. It still feels unreal to me. Then at other times, its too real. I think its just your brain protecting you from such a traumatic event. The only advice i have us just to take it one day at a time, one hour, or one minute at a time. Your family is in my thoughts. Hugs
At 3:02am on January 26, 2014, BESTBUDS1 [Norman} said…

Welcome Heregoes to the place no one ever wants to be..You will find comfort and love from all that are here and you will fit right in so be yourself and accept my heartfely sorrow for each of you ..Beautiful family..Blessings Norman

At 5:51pm on January 8, 2014, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, Heregoes.  I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.  Take good care of yourself.

 
 
 

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