I lost my wife - Dec. 1, 2013. Leaving behind two boys (4.5 yrs and 21 mos.). Everyone has been telling me that I'm strong, doing a good job, and so forth . . . . My eyes water and swell and I want to tell them thank you, but at the same time I want them to know that I don't want this new dad/mom role. I really thought my life (as well as everyone else) was to grow old and share a wealth of memories.
So I completely understand your frustrations and mixed of emotions. Hang in there and hopefully you will find the moment of peace in your heart.
You have just exactly described my emotions in the early days and months. I am just so devastated for you, it's hard to imagine that it could have happened! The tears in others eyes would remind me something must have really happened and it must be true! I am certain our heads only allow a certain amount in so we can function and care for those that need us. We have 4 daughters aged 7 to 12, and your girls are so young judging by your photo. Do you have someone you can pour this out to without judgement or reservation? It helps a great deal as you take that daily trek. I'm 10 months down the road, and you just took me straight back to day 1. I wish I lived in USA and I could come to see you. Best advise I got was to let yourself feel every emotion - good and bad - it's all ok. When you feel ok and wonder why, accept the emotion as your own and don't question it. We are resilient creatures. Don't know how or why but we are. You are not alone x
Heregoes, im so sorry for your loss, and your daughters loss. I alsi mourn for our daughters more than myself. But, sometimes i think they are doing better than i am. You are correct, time no longer makes sense, and will not for a while. It is so early for you, you are in a fog. So sometimes it will just hit you out of nowhere. Im at a year, and im still in the fog. It still feels unreal to me. Then at other times, its too real. I think its just your brain protecting you from such a traumatic event. The only advice i have us just to take it one day at a time, one hour, or one minute at a time. Your family is in my thoughts. Hugs
Welcome Heregoes to the place no one ever wants to be..You will find comfort and love from all that are here and you will fit right in so be yourself and accept my heartfely sorrow for each of you ..Beautiful family..Blessings Norman
Welcome to Widville, Heregoes. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
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