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Hope
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Things you do or don't do that help you get throught the tough days

Started this discussion. Last reply by david1980 Nov 28, 2015. 12 Replies

I would love to have you share some tips and things you do or don't do that have gotten you through the days when you are feeling downContinue

GETTING BACK INTO LIFE

Started this discussion. Last reply by Hatch1 Nov 1, 2015. 13 Replies

What have you found most helpful for you to begin to transition from grieving to getting back into life?Continue

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saddy replied to Hope's discussion Little Family? in the group Born in the 50s
"Wonderful Laurie.  Sounds like you have a terrific son. You deserve it."
Oct 27
DIVA70 replied to Hope's discussion What are your best strategies for living alone? in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"I understand....its been a little over 16 months since my soulmate of 50 years departed. My life has been changed forever. I usually feel like an observer watching others live the life I used to live. Sometimes I join friends for lunch or dinner.…"
Oct 26
bellgamin replied to Hope's discussion What are your best strategies for living alone? in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Disconnected? I feel the same, Hope (& I have been a widower for 7+ years). I have a cat (Tora). He helps a bit at times but he never laughs at my jokes. Somber fellow. No sense of humor. I play ukulele (a Pono baritone) sometimes. That helps,…"
Oct 21
Jules replied to Hope's discussion Little Family? in the group Born in the 50s
"My husband and I do not have kids so when he died unexpectedly I was left alone. I do have 3 brothers but they weren’t particularly close to my husband. They call occasionally or stop by (rarely). You are correct, weekends are horribly long. I…"
Oct 17
chef (John) replied to Hope's discussion What are your best strategies for living alone? in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Sure. This happens from time to time, even in Year IX--and usually when I wake up in the middle of the night.  Congratulations on being able to fill some of your time with friends and interesting activities and hugs from someone who understands…"
Oct 17
Laurie replied to Hope's discussion Little Family? in the group Born in the 50s
"Btw visiting my son tonight.  Having the time of my life-so happy!  We probably won’t go to sleep until 2-3 am.  It’s a good thing his first class isn’t until 10:30"
Oct 16
Laurie replied to Hope's discussion Little Family? in the group Born in the 50s
"Yes Melissa if someone doesn’t have children they don’t understand the parent/child bond"
Oct 16
Laurie replied to Hope's discussion Little Family? in the group Born in the 50s
"I only have my son, he is a sophomore in college, is boarding but is only 1 hour away.  I visit him twice a week sometimes staying over.  He is very much in favor of this & sometimes comes home for the weekend.  My husband just…"
Oct 16
silverlady replied to Hope's discussion What are your best strategies for living alone? in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Hello Hope, Yes, I very definitely feel disconnected from the rest of the world. My husband died suddenly 5 1/2 years ago when we were in our mid-60s. To me, the disconnected feeling comes from having a life that is so different from that of most of…"
Oct 16
Melissa replied to Hope's discussion Little Family? in the group Born in the 50s
"Hi Hope, People who are childless can't understand the bond between children and parents. I think most of us here have children who are adults living their own lives. We did our jobs well, and they are out in the world. My two sons and a…"
Oct 16
Athena53 replied to Hope's discussion Little Family? in the group Born in the 50s
"I'm in a similar situation, due mostly to geography.  My son and DIL and their 3 kids live 3 hours away in Des Moines.  I go up there every couple of months- it's really a major operation for them to get here (5-year old, almost…"
Oct 16
NoLongerInBergenJC replied to Hope's discussion Little Family? in the group Born in the 50s
"The more I hear from people who either have very little family, or none, or are estranged from their children, the more grateful I am that I have never been able to have the luxury of assuming that there is anyone other than me who will make a life…"
Oct 16
Hope commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"I really miss the chat room. It was a real Godsend for me when I was here earlier. I got off for a couple of years and am now just coming back to Widowed Village. I felt very much like I needed this connection again"
Oct 16
Hope added a discussion to the group Born in the 50s
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Little Family?

I have just one grown daughter (50) who is occupied with her own life as she should be. My grandson is away at boarding school which he loves. While I see friends my desire for more time with my little family hurts my heart. Are you in a similar situation? Do you have little family? I find it hard on the weekends when most people are with their families....children, grandchildren, etc. How do you cope with this? It feels a little daunting as I grow older to think I have no family to rely on. I…See More
Oct 16
Hope added a discussion to the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
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What are your best strategies for living alone?

While I get out and see friends, am involved with some interesting activities, etc. I find that when I am in the house alone that I start to feel like I still don't know who I am or how to structure strategies to make the alone time most comfortable. I feel disconnected from the rest of the world. Any of you feel this way?See More
Oct 16
Hope commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"So I am glad to be back at Widowed Village. I lost the love of my life in 2015. Only now do I feel some sense of equilibrium. I have struggled with anxiety and depression this past year. I don't know exactly why. I felt stronger in my third…"
Oct 16

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VALENTINES DAY CHAT

Posted on February 13, 2017 at 6:42am 0 Comments

Some of us thought it might be helpful to share with each other and give each other some loving support and hugs on chat on Valentines Day. If you are so inclined come to the chat room  at 8 pm eastern which is 7central and 5 pacific.

Mchenry County, Lake County Il and South Wisconsin?

Posted on July 5, 2016 at 5:58am 0 Comments

Just reaching out to see if there are folks in my area. There are a few Soaring Spirit meetups in Chicago and South and also in Madison but nothing in my neck of the woods. Thought perhaps one or two of you might live in the vicinity. I live in McHenry County Illinois. Lake Geneva Wisconsin and  Burlington Wisconsin is within easy driving distance as is Lake County Illinois towns....anyone in this area would love to get together let me know.  

Creating a Life

Posted on May 14, 2016 at 10:47am 2 Comments

Its been 10months and while I don't cry as much and have accepted he is gone what remains is this need to find a foundation and to build a life for myself without him. I go through the motions...joined groups, met widows, spend time with family, etc. etc. but  what remains is a fragment of what my life was like with him. I died with him. Now  I want to carry on and find peace and a measure of contentment but where to start...what will make my life feel like it makes sense? I do not know but…

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Creating a Life

Posted on May 14, 2016 at 10:47am 1 Comment

Its been 10months and while I don't cry as much and have accepted he is gone what remains is this need to find a foundation and to build a life for myself without him. I go through the motions...joined groups, met widows, spend time with family, etc. etc. but  what remains is a fragment of what my life was like with him. I died with him. Now  I want to carry on and find peace and a measure of contentment but where to start...what will make my life feel like it makes sense? I do not know but…

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At 1:48pm on October 15, 2016, Barry (widower2007) said…

Hello Hope! I am in Galesburg, Il. which is south of the Quad Cities. (((hugs)))!

At 5:43pm on August 10, 2016, lizbeth4 said…

Hi Hope.   Sorry that I didn't leave a comment when I accepted your friend invite.  I had a appointment.   I am sorry for your loss.  This is a hard journey.   I never thought that I would be here.   It will never be the same for either of us.   I don't think it gets easier with time.  I think we just adapt to being alone and try to continue on the best that we can.   No one can understand what we are going through unless you have lived it!   I am grateful for my family, children, Grandson and friends.   You do need to express how you feel here.  It is good to let it out.   You have my support.   You can message me.  I am a good listener.   Take care Hope.

At 6:47am on March 6, 2016, Naturelover said…

Hello  Hope, this site is so new to me. not sure how to use it. I lost my husband March 11, 2015. It will be a year. He was here one day and gone the next, his heart.  My world has not been the same.We were married 40 years but together 42. We were planning for our golden years . My heart is still broken I'm not the same person. I try not to post stuff FB because of my son's but It helps to express my feelings. Only another person who has lost their other half can know the pain  of loosing  and the where do I go from here feeling ?

I have my 13 year old GSD that was my hiking buddy but he will not be around much longer. We would take him camping and I would hike with him as my husband didn't hike as much as I did. We did enjoy camping together and just being alone in Nature.

At 3:48am on November 22, 2015, PlainfieldAlone said…
Thanks Hope, once I am physically healed I'll need to drive out and meet you someday.

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At 3:16pm on August 19, 2015, only1sue said…

Hope, thank you for your comment on my blog.  I remember back then to where you still are.  It is so soon after your bereavement so be gentle with yourself. After Ray died and my Mum two months later, I was a mess and i can honestly say I was close to the two year mark before I was back to being fully myself again.  Just take every day as it comes, do what you can when you can, don't let anyone hurry you or hassle you.Your world has been turned upside down and it takes a lot of time and effort to change that.  Blessings.

At 6:49pm on July 30, 2015, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, Hope. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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