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Hope
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Things you do or don't do that help you get throught the tough days

Started this discussion. Last reply by david1980 Nov 28, 2015. 12 Replies

I would love to have you share some tips and things you do or don't do that have gotten you through the days when you are feeling downContinue

GETTING BACK INTO LIFE

Started this discussion. Last reply by Hatch1 Nov 1, 2015. 13 Replies

What have you found most helpful for you to begin to transition from grieving to getting back into life?Continue

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Hope commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Terry, I think you will find you are relieved to not be under the stress of the job anymore. Fill your time with your interests and passions and maybe just relax!!"
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Hope commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Its been 22 months and its been such a sad and rough and confusing ride. I hate it. I keep walking the walk and hold out hope but feel so disoriented often  and trying to create a life I can at least feel comfortable with. I don't…"
Apr 9
Hope commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Its been 22 months and its been such a sad and rough and confusing ride. I hate it. I keep walking the walk and hold out hope but feel so disoriented often  and trying to create a life I can at least feel comfortable with. I don't…"
Apr 9
Hope commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"My daughter and her fiancé of 9 years broke up this week. He completely blind sided her and she is devastated. She has to tell her son, my grandson. It breaks my heart. He lost his best friend and Grandpa 21 months ago and now in many ways he…"
Apr 9
Hope commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"My daughter and her fiancé of 9 years broke up this week. He completely blind sided her and she is devastated. She has to tell her son, my grandson. It breaks my heart. He lost his best friend and Grandpa 21 months ago and now in many ways he…"
Apr 9
Hope commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Oh Terry, I am glad for you that you made this decision although it will definitely be an adjustment. I retired 10 days before my husband died as we had many plans. Having open ended time and not having to "be on" can be a real relief. On…"
Apr 9
Hope commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Trying to come back to life..Mary H. I get that. Its 21 months and counting for me. Thelma and Terry I understand your thinking and mixelated...yes, flat. The world feels flat a lot. I read where its better to accept our feelings than try to change…"
Apr 3
Hope commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Quiet here...how is everyone? I turned 70 on Friday.. It also would have been our 33rd wedding anniversary. I miss him so much. Spent the weekend with 3 widow friends eating, drinking, laughing, crying, repeat!! It was comforting to be with just…"
Apr 3
Hope commented on HENMESS's blog post I AM ALIVE TODAY
"I understand. Its really rough"
Mar 28
Hope commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"I found the comments on our loved ones being close in another dimension or behind a veil or different address inspiring. I have had a few  moments where I felt his presence Today for some reason I really felt that he was with me. It felt…"
Mar 28
Hope commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Bundle, I like that idea of going to your own rhythm. I can't do what I used to...don't have the same desires or interests. I am not a homebody but I do find that I don't need as much interaction as I used to"
Mar 28
Hope commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Terry, I am glad you stood up for yourself and asking opinions don't seem fair to be graded. Are you going to continue with the course?"
Mar 28
Hope commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"Elea, I am sorry you are feeling so many emotions and on top of that you are ill. Please know I am thinking of you. This is a hard road. I am at 21 months and its hard. I don't expect that there will be any quick cure or really ever full…"
Mar 28
Hope commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"I feel the same way as many of you have stated here. At 21 months I feel such sadness. It feels a lot like depression. I go through the motions and stay busy but my heart is typically not completely there. I have this hope and anticipation that…"
Mar 27
Hope commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Several of you mentioned that knot in your stomach when you wake up to another day. I relate so much to that. I have had this every morning for the past 21 months. I hate it. Nights are better because I felt I got through the day. I thought I would…"
Mar 27
Hope commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Nieta, my husband and I loved travelling and especially road trips. I have gone on two vacations now with my daughter and son in law and grown grandkids and a few friends. Just not the same. I find that while on some level I enjoy myself on another…"
Mar 27

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VALENTINES DAY CHAT

Posted on February 13, 2017 at 6:42am 0 Comments

Some of us thought it might be helpful to share with each other and give each other some loving support and hugs on chat on Valentines Day. If you are so inclined come to the chat room  at 8 pm eastern which is 7central and 5 pacific.

Mchenry County, Lake County Il and South Wisconsin?

Posted on July 5, 2016 at 5:58am 0 Comments

Just reaching out to see if there are folks in my area. There are a few Soaring Spirit meetups in Chicago and South and also in Madison but nothing in my neck of the woods. Thought perhaps one or two of you might live in the vicinity. I live in McHenry County Illinois. Lake Geneva Wisconsin and  Burlington Wisconsin is within easy driving distance as is Lake County Illinois towns....anyone in this area would love to get together let me know.  

Creating a Life

Posted on May 14, 2016 at 10:47am 2 Comments

Its been 10months and while I don't cry as much and have accepted he is gone what remains is this need to find a foundation and to build a life for myself without him. I go through the motions...joined groups, met widows, spend time with family, etc. etc. but  what remains is a fragment of what my life was like with him. I died with him. Now  I want to carry on and find peace and a measure of contentment but where to start...what will make my life feel like it makes sense? I do not know but…

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Creating a Life

Posted on May 14, 2016 at 10:47am 1 Comment

Its been 10months and while I don't cry as much and have accepted he is gone what remains is this need to find a foundation and to build a life for myself without him. I go through the motions...joined groups, met widows, spend time with family, etc. etc. but  what remains is a fragment of what my life was like with him. I died with him. Now  I want to carry on and find peace and a measure of contentment but where to start...what will make my life feel like it makes sense? I do not know but…

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At 1:48pm on October 15, 2016, Barry (widower2007) said…

Hello Hope! I am in Galesburg, Il. which is south of the Quad Cities. (((hugs)))!

At 5:43pm on August 10, 2016, lizbeth4 said…

Hi Hope.   Sorry that I didn't leave a comment when I accepted your friend invite.  I had a appointment.   I am sorry for your loss.  This is a hard journey.   I never thought that I would be here.   It will never be the same for either of us.   I don't think it gets easier with time.  I think we just adapt to being alone and try to continue on the best that we can.   No one can understand what we are going through unless you have lived it!   I am grateful for my family, children, Grandson and friends.   You do need to express how you feel here.  It is good to let it out.   You have my support.   You can message me.  I am a good listener.   Take care Hope.

At 6:47am on March 6, 2016, Naturelover said…

Hello  Hope, this site is so new to me. not sure how to use it. I lost my husband March 11, 2015. It will be a year. He was here one day and gone the next, his heart.  My world has not been the same.We were married 40 years but together 42. We were planning for our golden years . My heart is still broken I'm not the same person. I try not to post stuff FB because of my son's but It helps to express my feelings. Only another person who has lost their other half can know the pain  of loosing  and the where do I go from here feeling ?

I have my 13 year old GSD that was my hiking buddy but he will not be around much longer. We would take him camping and I would hike with him as my husband didn't hike as much as I did. We did enjoy camping together and just being alone in Nature.

At 3:48am on November 22, 2015, PlainfieldAlone said…
Thanks Hope, once I am physically healed I'll need to drive out and meet you someday.

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At 3:16pm on August 19, 2015, only1sue said…

Hope, thank you for your comment on my blog.  I remember back then to where you still are.  It is so soon after your bereavement so be gentle with yourself. After Ray died and my Mum two months later, I was a mess and i can honestly say I was close to the two year mark before I was back to being fully myself again.  Just take every day as it comes, do what you can when you can, don't let anyone hurry you or hassle you.Your world has been turned upside down and it takes a lot of time and effort to change that.  Blessings.

At 6:49pm on July 30, 2015, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, Hope. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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